Okay, someone that looked at my profile lives like 90 miles away from me...and I sent an email asking if she thought that was too far. She replies with an email telling me that I'm "arrogant" and why did I assume she wanted a relationship with me.

Okay, for one, she COULD have just said, "Yeah, it's too far." She told me that IF she was interested, then she would have written me. But it's still true that women usually expect men to make the first actual communication.

So...how is it "arrogant" to assume that someone has SOME interest in you because they took the time to actually look at or read your profile to see if there was anything there to maintain an interest?

I mean, even after reading things that send up a "red-flag" to me, I did have SOME kind of interest in the person whose profile I was looking at! I might say, "Oh, too far away, too bad." but even then there might be something about them that drew my interest ANYWAY.

I've asked a few people here what books they've read lately..even though I had NO intention of trying to hook up with them (for instance, one woman lives in Washington state, and I live in Florida--not really conducive to a personal meeting!)

So...again the question is how am I "arrogant"? Not saying that I'm NOT, by the way...but it's not like I came across like she was REEALLLY missing out on something here!

dude females are incredibly weird about junk like that
it makes no sense
but good luck with that

She didn't have to be Rude about it...

SHE seems to be the arrogant one.... and a RUDE one at that... i'd stay away from her for sure....

Some women (and men) are rude and she soulcd have been a little nicer when she emailed you

lol sorry dude,,,,,now you no why we call them *****8S,,,,,AN THEY CALL US A** HOLES,,,,,,don't even worry about it,,,,chances are she ant worth th time it took to write her

Personally I think anyone who would get mad at another person (male or female) for simply asking a question really isn't worth your time anyways.

That's crazy. She'll get no where with that attitude.

ive been snapped on by 2 girls on this site and i still dont kno why and neither will take the time to say what pissed em off
i even apologized and asked one to have a nice day and she told me to fu*k off
so fu*k em

just be happy that you found out she wasn't all there right away!! I'd rather find out before I befriend a weirdo...lol. :)

Didn't read your email so how would i know if you were rude?

Just because someone views your profile doesn't mean they are interested in you?....its called 'window shopping'....sometimes once you do it you realize you weren't that interested after all...i have viewed a profile multiple times just to remember what i didn't have in common with that person in the first place....

All it did was strengthen my resolve. To not dismiss someone too quickly...just because she didn't meet my "limitations". You know, she and I could have become "just friends" if she hadn't been so nasty in her reply.

For example, why set an "arbitrary" limit of 75 miles...or height of 5'8" or greater? I'm 5'6", but that doesn't mean I couldn't have a great relationship with someone that was 5'10".

Heck, "friends first" anyway, right? Someone could be a friend and not meet any of my arbitrary limits...

Well, I just put them in my e-mail filter....it's all about being nice. If they are rude, then no wonder they are still single!

yougot that rite space man

It's nice for you to not dismiss someone too quickly, however, most of us have 'personal agenda' items that are restrictive....its part of the selection process...i have mine & i'm sure you do too...
i think being nasty is uncool, but at least you now know to avoid this person....

wow........i didnt read or know anything about this thread but im pissed about some punk messin with me and i saw that spaceman was the last guy to post..........on here......so i had to come here and say hi........to the spaceman.........

ah, Blue...there must have been something about them that drew your initial interest though...you liked the way they LOOKED and they were within a decent mileage range...even though something in their profile turned you off, there was SOME level of interest.

I'm not saying looks are everything, or the only thing...but it does play at least a MINOR role in our choices, doesn't it? I could have posted rudely...directly stating that she was too far away. However, I ASKED for HER opinion of the distance thing.

Had a date set up for LAST weekend with someone else from the same town, which is why I knew what the distance was. She reconsidered though, and stated that the distance was the problem. We had several enjoyable chats both on the phone and through email before that (the someone else, not the subject of this missive).

Thanks for the reply! Thumbs up!

Sorry Bro, some people have issues.
Obviously you were "upset" by her reply, but don't let her get to you.
I only used the term upset for lack of a better word.btw.
Some people have me like wtf is your damage??!!
But I just laugh.....to me it's funny. But then I have a smart-ass sense of humor....