Are there any women out there that would date a man with an Autistic child and why? Its a challenge that many women would not accept. At least the women i have come across.

Yes, I would...but I hear what your saying. I had a son that was Down Snydrome and that seemed to be a deal breaker as to whether a man would date me or not. Chances were NOT, but it was their loss.

Got that right ! people are so close minded sometimes it's sad

Good luck to you !

You are 100% right. I just wish more people would read up on it. Its a horrible disability that not many people understand or really know about. You should see the looks i give them when i am at a restaurant or market. If looks could kill they would be dead. I have a card that looks like a business card and it tells about what an atustic child is feeling and what happens when he has an outburst. I am going to mke a whole bunch of them up and when someone gives me a dirty look i am going to hand one to them and just say "Read this first before you give dirty looks or say anything you will regret". It was given to me by his therapist.

Good for you, I'd pass them out every chance I had.

I remember this as if it were yesterday...but 25 years ago I had a woman stop me in a dept. store while I was shopping with my son. She made the comment to me that she had given birth to a child with Down Syndrome but she had given her child away and put in an institution. I was appalled at what she told me and just flat out told her she was the one that needed help because she had no idea what she had missed out on having her child in her life.

God rest my sons soul as he passed away 7 years ago...what I would give to have him back here with me today. I miss him so but God needed back with him.

You'll find someone who's up to that kind of challenge, I'm sure. My nephew's autistic and it is difficult and challenging sometimes, to say the least. Not everyone is equipped emotionally or mentally to take on that kind of situation. But, I'd hazard a guess that there are more who are than aren't.

Good luck to you

It wouldn't discourage me.

What was that woman thinking. How could someone give their child away. I am sorry to hear about your son but like you said God wanted him home with him. Thanks for the feed back

I would have no problem dating a man with a child with autism. That would not deter me at all. My son is Autistic and we are a package deal. He is such a gift that if anyone is turned off by that- it is their loss

My Best to you both

hell yes I would date a father who has an autistic child or children. I have one who is autistic and mentally retarded and another with behavioral issues. If I can adapt to that(wink) then I can deal with anything.I say bring it on!

sure why not??

i have a teenager..
that alone carries its issues

I have three beautiful special needs children and they have blessed me more than i can say, but their challenges have definitely caused break ups in my relationships with men, sometimes directly, sometimes indirectly....however, I must add, that when they are at their most challenging they have also cost me relationships with friends, both male and female, just because its so hard for those without special needs children to know what to say, do, act, etc, during one of those incidences. I have the support (mostly) of some great therapists, my church, a few close friends, and of course, God, and have come to believe that those who cannot handle my life with my children in it are not meant to be with me...short and sweet, but effective!!
I, most certainly would date someone with a special needs child, (and have done so) although I wonder if I would have been able to be so sure had I not had challenged children of my own?

Amanda, (single mom to 3 young children with a mix of bipolar, ODD, OCD, reactive attachment, sensory integrative disorder, ADHD, conduct disorder, behavioral disorder, autism, aspergers, ASD,and a whole host of physical and developmental ailments/challenges)

I'd like a copy of that card.......
could you post it

{{{Dale}}}} Nice thread.

It just people in general, yes there are alot of people that don't think before they judge & make ugly remarks & faces.

Before Christmas I was shopping with my friend & I she was on the other side of the store so I'm walking fast that way.
I passed a boy in a wheel chair & he reached out & grabbed my lower arm with his nails & yanked
Yanked me backwards a few feet, pulled my shirt off my shoulder
The Dad freaks!!!
I put my hand on his as the Dad's grabbing him..

I'm telling him it's OK!!
as I'm getting my shirt back up & my arm is bleeding a little.
I just covered it with my sleeve, the way my skin is it looks alot worse than it is.. I turn red & welt easy.

So I bent down to the boy & smiled & told him Hi!
I can't even imagine what he has to go through every day..

As they say God only gives us what we can handle..

I have a "normal" child & one time after fighting with her for hours over homework & just a challenging day I went to give my B/F a ride home & wasn't real talkative he took it all personal kept asking what was wrong, I kept telling him there was nothing & he still got all stupid about it.
Like everything was about him... I decide I didn't need to have that struggle between raising my kid & having a relationship.

communication is key in all relationships

and understanding...

its really not that puzzling to me