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From my own experience on dating sites, the members of the opposite sex that I have met in person rarely look like their pictures. I've met some who seemingly take dozens of pics and post only the one or two that are either at the right angle, light or shading so all "flaws" are hidden. Others I have met have put pics up that are sometimes even ten years old.
I keep recent, honest pictures of myself on the site and I would expect others to do the same. Whether they understand it or not, those who use dated pictures or only pictures showing their "best" pose are showing that they are deceitful right from the start. As soon as a potential mate realizes the deceit, the next question becomes; "so what else are they hiding?" Yeah, we live in a visual world. I don't believe that there are very many women out there that don't realize how "visual" men are. Being "visual" is part of every man's nature. Men being "visual" may sound shallow but it's not. It's natures way of driving males attraction to women and it's what motivates their sexual desire. Victoria's Secret sales is enough proof of that. Women are somewhat the same way, but overall, not close to the same extent as men. Dating web sites are much like going to a bar or a dance. One sees the hottest looking members of the opposite sex and they pursue them and hold back from others who are more average in appearance. Just like in the bars and the dances, most everyone winds up not meeting anyone and going home frustrated. My suggestion is just be yourself and don't try to hide anything. If you want to be accepted for who you are, then be who you are with no illusions. Stop targeting all of the 10's on the sites! If you haven't frequently dated 10's in real life, why hold out for one on the dating sites. That's being unrealistic. Be open to the ones who have the not so great (but honest) pics and the ones who don't have a whole lot to say. You might find yourself surprised in finding the love of your life much, much faster than you might expect. Try not to be a "4 looking for a 10" like so many do, rather, just be a person looking for someone special. Everyone is a "10" when the lights are out. 
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From my own experience on dating sites, the members of the opposite sex that I have met in person rarely look like their pictures. I've met some who seemingly take dozens of pics and post only the one or two that are either at the right angle, light or shading so all "flaws" are hidden. Others I have met have put pics up that are sometimes even ten years old. I keep recent, honest pictures of myself on the site and I would expect others to do the same. Whether they understand it or not, those who use dated pictures or only pictures showing their "best" pose are showing that they are deceitful right from the start. As soon as a potential mate realizes the deceit, the next question becomes; "so what else are they hiding?" Yeah, we live in a visual world. I don't believe that there are very many women out there that don't realize how "visual" men are. Being "visual" is part of every man's nature. Men being "visual" may sound shallow but it's not. It's natures way of driving males attraction to women and it's what motivates their sexual desire. Victoria's Secret sales is enough proof of that. Women are somewhat the same way, but overall, not close to the same extent as men. Dating web sites are much like going to a bar or a dance. One sees the hottest looking members of the opposite sex and they pursue them and hold back from others who are more average in appearance. Just like in the bars and the dances, most everyone winds up not meeting anyone and going home frustrated. My suggestion is just be yourself and don't try to hide anything. If you want to be accepted for who you are, then be who you are with no illusions. Stop targeting all of the 10's on the sites! If you haven't frequently dated 10's in real life, why hold out for one on the dating sites. That's being unrealistic. Be open to the ones who have the not so great (but honest) pics and the ones who don't have a whole lot to say. You might find yourself surprised in finding the love of your life much, much faster than you might expect. Try not to be a "4 looking for a 10" like so many do, rather, just be a person looking for someone special. Everyone is a "10" when the lights are out.
wtg Bobby, nicely put 
My dark hair/eyes turn blonde/blue in the dark (get it  )joke people
Like SKP put it, visualizations are normal even human if I can take to that step. I'd love to meet someone who has a heart of gold more than they value a six pack (abs/physique); someone how loves their family more than money; someone with ambition and compassion but who still loves to get their hands dirty. But reality also dictates to each their own, so I too may be asking for too much. But all in all I wish 'us' all luck!!! 
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From my own experience on dating sites, the members of the opposite sex that I have met in person rarely look like their pictures. I've met some who seemingly take dozens of pics and post only the one or two that are either at the right angle, light or shading so all "flaws" are hidden. Others I have met have put pics up that are sometimes even ten years old. I keep recent, honest pictures of myself on the site and I would expect others to do the same. Whether they understand it or not, those who use dated pictures or only pictures showing their "best" pose are showing that they are deceitful right from the start. As soon as a potential mate realizes the deceit, the next question becomes; "so what else are they hiding?" Yeah, we live in a visual world. I don't believe that there are very many women out there that don't realize how "visual" men are. Being "visual" is part of every man's nature. Men being "visual" may sound shallow but it's not. It's natures way of driving males attraction to women and it's what motivates their sexual desire. Victoria's Secret sales is enough proof of that. Women are somewhat the same way, but overall, not close to the same extent as men. Dating web sites are much like going to a bar or a dance. One sees the hottest looking members of the opposite sex and they pursue them and hold back from others who are more average in appearance. Just like in the bars and the dances, most everyone winds up not meeting anyone and going home frustrated. My suggestion is just be yourself and don't try to hide anything. If you want to be accepted for who you are, then be who you are with no illusions. Stop targeting all of the 10's on the sites! If you haven't frequently dated 10's in real life, why hold out for one on the dating sites. That's being unrealistic. Be open to the ones who have the not so great (but honest) pics and the ones who don't have a whole lot to say. You might find yourself surprised in finding the love of your life much, much faster than you might expect. Try not to be a "4 looking for a 10" like so many do, rather, just be a person looking for someone special. Everyone is a "10" when the lights are out.
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Well said! Just had an experience this week with someone that was at least 20 years older and 50 lbs. heavier. And the part that upsets me is the lying......I just can't see a reason to lie about who you are, or what you look like. Someone will like you for who you really are. Not who you want them to think you are...
From my own experience on dating sites, the members of the opposite sex that I have met in person rarely look like their pictures. I've met some who seemingly take dozens of pics and post only the one or two that are either at the right angle, light or shading so all "flaws" are hidden. Others I have met have put pics up that are sometimes even ten years old. I keep recent, honest pictures of myself on the site and I would expect others to do the same. Whether they understand it or not, those who use dated pictures or only pictures showing their "best" pose are showing that they are deceitful right from the start. As soon as a potential mate realizes the deceit, the next question becomes; "so what else are they hiding?" Yeah, we live in a visual world. I don't believe that there are very many women out there that don't realize how "visual" men are. Being "visual" is part of every man's nature. Men being "visual" may sound shallow but it's not. It's natures way of driving males attraction to women and it's what motivates their sexual desire. Victoria's Secret sales is enough proof of that. Women are somewhat the same way, but overall, not close to the same extent as men. Dating web sites are much like going to a bar or a dance. One sees the hottest looking members of the opposite sex and they pursue them and hold back from others who are more average in appearance. Just like in the bars and the dances, most everyone winds up not meeting anyone and going home frustrated. My suggestion is just be yourself and don't try to hide anything. If you want to be accepted for who you are, then be who you are with no illusions. Stop targeting all of the 10's on the sites! If you haven't frequently dated 10's in real life, why hold out for one on the dating sites. That's being unrealistic. Be open to the ones who have the not so great (but honest) pics and the ones who don't have a whole lot to say. You might find yourself surprised in finding the love of your life much, much faster than you might expect. Try not to be a "4 looking for a 10" like so many do, rather, just be a person looking for someone special. Everyone is a "10" when the lights are out.
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hey sunshine {{{{{{{tanya}}}}}}}}}} I gotta keep them guessing, otherwise they will remember my picture from the post office.
people are too visual for their own good. They love to speculate and express their desires of a mate, but rarely do I see a '10' want to date a '10'
it's normally a '4' wanting a '10' good luck to all 
POST OFFICE!!!  
But, you hit the nail on the head about the visual crap. My rainbow pic is from 2/27/08. The others are from May 3, 2008 at my daughter's baby shower. I'm a WYSISYG!! You no like, me no care!! I don't care if someone is a 10 on the outside. I want 10 on the insides!! 
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hey sunshine {{{{{{{tanya}}}}}}}}}} I gotta keep them guessing, otherwise they will remember my picture from the post office.
people are too visual for their own good. They love to speculate and express their desires of a mate, but rarely do I see a '10' want to date a '10'
it's normally a '4' wanting a '10' good luck to all
POST OFFICE!!!
But, you hit the nail on the head about the visual crap. My rainbow pic is from 2/27/08. The others are from May 3, 2008 at my daughter's baby shower. I'm a WYSISYG!! You no like, me no care!! I don't care if someone is a 10 on the outside. I want 10 on the insides!!
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hey sunshine {{{{{{{tanya}}}}}}}}}} I gotta keep them guessing, otherwise they will remember my picture from the post office.
people are too visual for their own good. They love to speculate and express their desires of a mate, but rarely do I see a '10' want to date a '10'
it's normally a '4' wanting a '10' good luck to all
POST OFFICE!!!
But, you hit the nail on the head about the visual crap. My rainbow pic is from 2/27/08. The others are from May 3, 2008 at my daughter's baby shower. I'm a WYSISYG!! You no like, me no care!! I don't care if someone is a 10 on the outside. I want 10 on the insides!!
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CRAZY bout you for sure!!!!!
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CRAZY bout you for sure!!!!!
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oh oh - stepping outta the room
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CRAZY bout you for sure!!!!!
 Fran
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I leave for a little bit and you two chase fran out of the room!
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 You know you cannot leave me in a room alone wiff this one! Sowwy (((Tanya)))!
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Fran...come back! We promise to behave! Please come back?
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honey!!!! shhhhh
I think I heard somethin' 
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no I wasnt chased outta da room I was in a conference...
but im back what did I miss???? 
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honey!!!! shhhhh
I think I heard somethin'
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Fran...come back! We promise to behave! Please come back?
behaving is over rated!!!!!!!
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no I wasnt chased outta da room I was in a conference... but im back what did I miss????
(((Fran)))
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no I wasnt chased outta da room I was in a conference... but im back what did I miss????
(((Fran)))
quick snatch it back behaving is overrated.... 
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