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Topic: unexpected loss x2
jesastar's photo
Wed 07/02/08 04:51 PM
i have my best friends who i live with and they have helped so much we also work together so things work out at home or work when i need help

ReddBeans's photo
Wed 07/02/08 04:53 PM

yea that is true i just think about all the places i have been and things i have done and not knowing the whole time that i had our baby with me and i dont want to blame anything or anybody but when we had broke up it put alot of stress on me because i didn't want it at all but i had to get over it because of the baby and what really hurts is how i need him to just be here so that we could actually sit and talk face to face but ... i dont know


I'm so sorry for ur loss. I honestly hope that u don't blame urself. I too suffered a miscarriage. It's a difficult thing to get thru but be strong and u will. There's nuthin wrong with breakin down and cryin and screamin WHY?? It's all part of the grievin process. And u r grievin. U will get thru it and one day u will make a wonderful Mom.flowers

bastet126's photo
Wed 07/02/08 04:54 PM



You can be sad and upset. It is a sad thing that after that effort, this had befallen you. Although I believe that God works in mysterious ways, the baby was a means to have you grow into an adult and be the bigger, forgiving person to continue some good times with your ex. He may come into your life again, or be there as a good friend.


The Lord did this for me and my ex, though we loved each other very much, no one was ready to be a parent. My Christian friends told me my relationship wasn't healthy, and that I should end it. Eventually, when it was the right time, God spoke to me and gave me the word through my listening hear when to separate. That it wouldn't be easy, even the new girl I met wouldn't stick around, and that I would learn something even greater that I can keep with me and later in life find that right person. It all happened just as I heard it inside.

Some say God has nothing to do with it. But you tell me , when my ex was already a week late and about to take a pregnancy test, and I ask her to say a prayer (We hoped she was not pregnant by the way) and to call me before work right then and there when she finds out. Then I get a phone call as soon as I hang up and she begins her period with no pregnancy.... I don't care who you are.... That was a miracle displayed for me showing He never left us.



I am not sure if you were ready for the child or not, but be humble, for you have another shot now. You look very young in your photo, so I would imagine there is much that you would like to do before you become a parent. Be thankful, and remember this experience to not repeat it unless you intend on seeing it through. Some are not so fortunate, though all things such as this can be a blessing in disguise.


what a nice read ~ i'm sure you are a great friend to alot of people. pure of heart flowerforyou



(Friends say) I am the greatest friend ever! Fun to be around and sincere!

(The ex says) You are the worst boyfriend ever! Ugh! Like OMG! Is that Vin Diesel?.............


Thank you for reading all that though and giving me the compliment. It really does mean a lot, and that I am dead serious. bigsmile


did someone say vin diesel? love :tongue: you're more than welcome, and i'm dead serious too! :wink: bigsmile

jesastar's photo
Wed 07/02/08 05:13 PM
i really appreciate everything thank all of you

auburngirl's photo
Wed 07/02/08 07:24 PM
I am so very sorry flowers :cry:

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