Waz up Mech? Nice to see ya bro

It is hard but there is no other job out there that is more rewarding
that you can do.

Being a parent is the most rewarding and most painful job in the world.
Being a single parent brings double the rewards, and pain. I wouldn't
miss out on any of the rewards or pain, from raising my children on my
own. YOu will do a great job with your children.

OP

since I don't know you, I dunno why the need to post about how unfit, or
not, the mother is.

Sorta puts the sand in the craw, so to speak.

My first thought is, AWWWW! gotta raise your kids? damned shame ain't
it?

Second thought, is... so your looking for someone to take care of them
for free... like a cow?

Third thought... ok, maybe you're lonely, and it's hard to date with
kids...

Tell truth, I am still having a hard time with the third, more tolerant
thought.

It is very hard raising kids on your own.....I'm well into the teenage
years with mine! Dating can be very difficult because I don't let
everyone I meet, meet my kids. Very few of the ones I meet measure up to
my standards to even get to the point of knowing my precious angels.
Trust yourself to raise your kids........better to give them 100% then
bring someone in that isn't up to par!
I find time to enjoy adult time, but I keep that separate from them. My
daughter told me the other day as we were leaving volleyball
practice........mom you are one of like three moms that makes it to
every practice and game...and you work two jobs..... I knew then that I
was doing a great job. That one statement from her meant more to me than
finding someone to help me raise them. Have faith...I do.......someday
my prince will come.....I might be a granny by then..lol but I do
believe I will fall in love again and so will you!

I always say once the decision to have kids is set, it no longer becomes
anything about you... other than being ok for thier sake.

We have a whole lifetime to ourselves. Having kids is a whole other
ballgame, LOL!

Mine are older, too. And, although the ex was there when they were
younger...he really wasn't. So, yeah, raising kids alone is better than
looking for a mommy or daddy replacement. (disguised as dating).

I would rather do the best I can with my kids, alone, than put my time
and energy into finding a stranger to raise them.

What kinds of challenges are you having? Maybe we all can give you
advice on that.

Your opinion of your kids mother not withstanding they still have a
mom.I would not want to be in the position of "mommy substitute".their
mom may solve her problems or not but i hope you keep a positive light
shining on her .single parenthood is a tough road but my son has a dad
and i would never advertise for a substitute even if he were dead.

I'm becoming a single mom and i raised my x's three daughters as if they
were my own. now that they became teenagers, althought we had two more
younger, he is done with me. says they dont need me anymore now that
they are raised. Thank God for my girls! they love me just the same! all
five (even with me being bipolar and said by him unfit)(dont knowlook it
up)so looking for someone to help you because you think their mom is
unfit it not a good reason. need help try asking family to give you a
break once in a while or try a church family. It can be a great help. I
know that this isnt a popular way to incourage someone but in reality
there are other ways than to find a woman who will help. that can go
sour and the kids might get hurt. I sorry for the way i am going about
your request please forgive me if i sound wrong. its just an opinion.

I guess the guy who posted does not want to come back and comment on our
suggestions or ask for advice, like I suggested.

for you brighteyes!! YOU ROCK GIRL!!!

For myself, dating with kids and being a single daddy has been awesome,
I have 2 very cute little girls. I have had no regrets raising my kids
is number if there is any of me left then I can date and if not good for
the kids. I also think that many are afriad to get involved cause we
are such dedicated parents. I love mine for ever...

Good luck Bro