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Topic: Once A Cheater Always A Cheater?
DrX Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 1539	Mon 07/14/08 09:31 PM
wow, you guys are harsh with cheaters.

lookingforsunshine Joined Tue 12/25/07 Posts: 38	Mon 07/14/08 09:32 PM
Ya know what I love. The idiots who fall for people who are cheating, then they leave their wife/gf/husband/bf for them. Hey DUMBA$$ he cheated with you, hes going to cheat on you....rocket science people... No kidding. They always think it won't happen to them. They can change them. Ha Ha!!!!!

Citizen_Joe Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 4036	Tue 07/15/08 05:04 AM
Do you believe in the saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater"? Yes, nuff said.

chuck35 Joined Wed 06/11/08 Posts: 496	Tue 07/15/08 05:08 AM
I do now My wife told me stories how she came close to cheating on her first husband.But she cheated on me kinda makes me wonder. Our relationship sounds alot like theirs

feistybaby Joined Fri 04/25/08 Posts: 2422	Tue 07/15/08 05:11 AM
I have posted this before and it still stands true...if they will cheat with you they will cheat on you....And while I believe that people can change...I don't believe that the instinct to cheat is one of those changeable things. Cheating is almost like an addiction. If you do it once especially if you don't get caught it just gets easier and easier. If you are so unhappy in a relationship that you would even be tempted to cheat much less do the deed it is time to not just walk but run away from the relationship. Cheating is only going to compound the problems not fix them~

Kaeb4 Joined Wed 07/09/08 Posts: 1	Tue 07/15/08 03:49 PM
Most definitely!

chuck366 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 4666	Tue 07/15/08 03:50 PM
Do you believe in the saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater"? most ,not all

bigjohn12345 Joined Sun 01/27/08 Posts: 681	Tue 07/15/08 03:52 PM
Do you believe in the saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater"? Yep never trust them again.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Tue 07/15/08 03:54 PM Edited by No1sLove on Tue 07/15/08 03:54 PM
I think someone could have just made a one time, biggest mistake of their lives before they learn the lesson. But, if they did it to me...I would not be the one to find that out. The next gal can tell me all bout it if she wants.

chuck366 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 4666	Tue 07/15/08 03:55 PM
I think someone could have just made a one time, biggest mistake of their lives in order to learn a lesson. But, if they did it to me...I would not be the one to find that out. The next gal can tell me all bout it if she wants. bingo

fdp1177 Joined Tue 07/01/08 Posts: 190	Tue 07/15/08 08:57 PM
Loyalty is over rated - honesty is a better policy. The whole "one true love" thing is an over idealized fairytale anyway. We are not instinctively programmed to be faithful to one person all our lives. There is far more history to speak against this non-sense than too speak for it. I live up to the expectations of my behavior in a relationship, and have been "cheated" on a number of times by the same standards I'm expected too maintain. I'm no longer incensed by such behavior and prefer simply to address the issue up front. If either party feels the need to stray; it's better to hear about it and deal with it up front - that way no one feels betrayed after the fact when things can't be mended. Sex and love are definitely not the same thing... they intersect in many places. I think the biggest issue for couples and relationships is that their sexual acts become a physical (and in some unfortunate cases the only) expression of love - so that "cheating" while often purely physical and self gratifying in intent becomes an emotional betrayal. My advice is not to date someone who is petrified or overzealous about cheating. Jealousy will ruin a relationship faster than anything else, and it doesn't take a physical act to foster this ugly thing.