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Topic: I have a question
JaymeStephens84a0lc's photo
Wed 08/06/08 04:36 PM
Why is it if you email someone just to say "hi" they automatically think you want to marry them and don't say anything to you? What if you just thought they seemed like they'd be cool to talk to and was hoping to make a friend? Do people NOT realize that you can see when someone has read your email on here? I know I personally am usually a bit slow to reply. I read messages in the morning, then reply when I get home if the person is online. I tend to wait til I see them online to respond, just for quicker response. I try really hard to not forget anyone, but if I'm actually online when they send the message I oblige by saying "hello". Is that such a freakin hard word to type???

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Wed 08/06/08 04:38 PM
Edited by rush2001 on Wed 08/06/08 04:38 PM
Nope, I don't know why people do that I just figure they are not worth my time then and there are a lot of cooler people on here to talk to anyway.

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Wed 08/06/08 04:38 PM
Will you marry me?:tongue:

JaymeStephens84a0lc's photo
Wed 08/06/08 04:39 PM

Will you marry me?:tongue:


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No thank you kind sir, however I'm happy to refer you to my gorgeous mother!

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Wed 08/06/08 04:40 PM
I am not sure . . but I know I reply unless its a psycho one. . I have only sent a couple where I wasn't really interested more than just making a comment or compliment about there profile . . didn't bug me too much when they don't reply but makes me wonder what they though my intentions were and I guess I would have appreciated just a thank you or an a acknowledgement . . anywho hope you find some answers and keep up the faith

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Wed 08/06/08 04:40 PM

Nope, I don't know why people do that I just figure they are not worth my time then and there are a lot of cooler people on here to talk to anyway.
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Wed 08/06/08 04:41 PM

Why is it if you email someone just to say "hi" they automatically think you want to marry them and don't say anything to you? What if you just thought they seemed like they'd be cool to talk to and was hoping to make a friend? Do people NOT realize that you can see when someone has read your email on here? I know I personally am usually a bit slow to reply. I read messages in the morning, then reply when I get home if the person is online. I tend to wait til I see them online to respond, just for quicker response. I try really hard to not forget anyone, but if I'm actually online when they send the message I oblige by saying "hello". Is that such a freakin hard word to type???


Hey... I'm reading alot of mail... Multi-tasking with my work at home... But I did have time to accept your friend request. Sorry... No offense... Sometimes, I just don't feel like responding right away after a hard day. Is that enough of an answer?

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Wed 08/06/08 04:42 PM
I can share an experience, I hope this helps. I recieved an email from a lady who seemed very nice at first and I wrote to her explaining that I'm not looking. She then sent a very nasty reply which I ignored. This was followed by an even nastier one- at which point I hit the block button. My point: sometimes people won't take no for an answer, and no answer at all, while rude, at least doesn't invite this kind of problem.

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Wed 08/06/08 04:42 PM
It is because they feel that is the only reason to be here. I am a big believer in civility which even means sending thank you messages when my profile is viewedglasses

JaymeStephens84a0lc's photo
Wed 08/06/08 04:43 PM


Why is it if you email someone just to say "hi" they automatically think you want to marry them and don't say anything to you? What if you just thought they seemed like they'd be cool to talk to and was hoping to make a friend? Do people NOT realize that you can see when someone has read your email on here? I know I personally am usually a bit slow to reply. I read messages in the morning, then reply when I get home if the person is online. I tend to wait til I see them online to respond, just for quicker response. I try really hard to not forget anyone, but if I'm actually online when they send the message I oblige by saying "hello". Is that such a freakin hard word to type???


Hey... I'm reading alot of mail... Multi-tasking with my work at home... But I did have time to accept your friend request. Sorry... No offense... Sometimes, I just don't feel like responding right away after a hard day. Is that enough of an answer?


rofl rofl

Now, do you see how much longer that took to type then "hello"?laugh
Forgiven:tongue:

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Wed 08/06/08 05:08 PM
Correction..I send a thank you note when my profile is viewed if there aren't any restrictions on communications.....glasses So if you have limits on who may email you thanks for viewing my profile:banana:

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Wed 08/06/08 05:12 PM
Don't want to lead someone on... The "no reply" is a pretty obvious "not interested."

JaymeStephens84a0lc's photo
Wed 08/06/08 05:15 PM

Don't want to lead someone on... The "no reply" is a pretty obvious "not interested."


Lookin for a friend hardly requires romantic interest...

t22learner's photo
Wed 08/06/08 05:16 PM


Don't want to lead someone on... The "no reply" is a pretty obvious "not interested."

Lookin for a friend hardly requires romantic interest...

Might not be interested in that either.

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Wed 08/06/08 05:18 PM
Edited by JaymeStephens84a0lc on Wed 08/06/08 05:19 PM



Don't want to lead someone on... The "no reply" is a pretty obvious "not interested."

Lookin for a friend hardly requires romantic interest...

Might not be interested in that either.


Thats when you say "Sorry, but not interested" 99% of people are not so weak that they can't take it. Anyone who lets it drive them to actually getting mad about it is extremely unbalanced anyway.

All I ask for is straightforwardness and honesty.

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Wed 08/06/08 05:20 PM
personaly i have it set on my computer where it doesnt always sign me off for a day or so after im aucutaly not online..

also.. there are sme people who i have seen in the threds.. that i wouldnt reply to.. some who are crude, rude, or just plain mean... guys and girls.. its not a matter of thinking they want to mary me, its a matte of the golden rule..
if i cant say somethng nice.. then i have been instructed not to type a reply. laugh laugh laugh laugh



im not saying this is the case here.. i was just saying that in my case this is why i dont reply.
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t22learner's photo
Wed 08/06/08 05:20 PM




Don't want to lead someone on... The "no reply" is a pretty obvious "not interested."

Lookin for a friend hardly requires romantic interest...

Might not be interested in that either.

Thats when you say "Sorry, but not interested" 99% of people are not so weak that they can't take it. Anyone who lets it drive them to actually getting mad about it is extremely unbalanced anyway.

All I ask for is straightforwardness and honesty.

Actually, that's when someone can respond or not...

JaymeStephens84a0lc's photo
Wed 08/06/08 05:22 PM
Anyway...lol, its no big. Posts #7 & 10 fixed it.

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Wed 08/06/08 05:27 PM

I can share an experience, I hope this helps. I recieved an email from a lady who seemed very nice at first and I wrote to her explaining that I'm not looking. She then sent a very nasty reply which I ignored. This was followed by an even nastier one- at which point I hit the block button. My point: sometimes people won't take no for an answer, and no answer at all, while rude, at least doesn't invite this kind of problem.


Why did you write back explaining that you're not looking? Did she state upfront that she was interested in starting something?

JaymeStephens84a0lc's photo
Wed 08/06/08 05:44 PM


I can share an experience, I hope this helps. I recieved an email from a lady who seemed very nice at first and I wrote to her explaining that I'm not looking. She then sent a very nasty reply which I ignored. This was followed by an even nastier one- at which point I hit the block button. My point: sometimes people won't take no for an answer, and no answer at all, while rude, at least doesn't invite this kind of problem.


Why did you write back explaining that you're not looking? Did she state upfront that she was interested in starting something?


LOL, I was so thinking the same thing. Why do men assume that if we say hello to them, we somehow are seeing a wedding ring?

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