I was curious about everyone's view on adoption. Any birth mothers out there give up their child for adoption? Any adoptees have any feedback? I was adopted when I was a child and I got to meet my birth parents. My older sister also adopted my son. I am curious as to other's expierences...good or bad.

I was adopted. It worked out for me ... my parents, not so much

I'm a birth mother. Gave my son up for adoption at birth, I was 18, he's now 28. Can't say it was good or bad, there's way too much involved for it to be a cut and dried answer.

That's awesome, btw ... Good for you. He might be the one who saves the world. You never know.

How did it make you feel? I mean for me at first it was like this huge part of me was missing. But it gets a little easier over time...

I don't think it ever gets easier...you just mature and handle it differently, I hope that makes sense.

i am an adoptee- it has it good points obviously and it has its bad ones too

If you are lucky enough to meet your birth parents that is wonderful but back when i was adopted it was a closed adoption- through an agency and i would have to petition probate court in New York State to have to open my records-

I have found that i have a sense of loss- i really don't know who i am or where i came from- my adoptive parents who are the most wonderful people on earth- were lied to about my ethnic heritage and the ages of the birth parents and after many many phone calls and reassurances that i am not looking for my birth mother but due to medical issues i need my medical background- the agency came clean on a few questions- I have spoken to other adoptees and they have shared that they too have a sense of not really feeling like they belong anywhere or that they don't fit in and we all question why we were born in the first place- but everyone has their own experiences.

I would say in the long run it has been a good experience but there are alot of things that need to change regarding adoption agency policies in my opinion.

Thank you, it's weird this question came up now. I've had no contact, he has birth siblings (I ended up marrying his father years later and we had more children, we're now divorced), anyway...he's been in contact with my two oldest daughters, his full blood sisters, this all just happened in the past two weeks or so. It's weird and happy and sad and confusing and makes me mad and hurt and all the wide range of emotions all at the same time. But I would never begrudge them a relationship with him even if he does not want a relationship with me.

My sister adopted my oldest son. We are all very close, and he knows everything. He thinks it's cool, he has 2 moms.
And it's nice that we are all close. He has major health problems and most likely will not live to even see 30, he is almost 24 now.
She couldn't have kids, and I was a single mom with 4 kids, all close in age. (I was single due to divorce, I was an abused wife, and he turned it to the kids, so I left. No one hurts my kids.) Ages now are 23, 21, and 17 year old twins. And all boys too.
Anyway, we decided to share.

omg all boys, poor you i could see having only boys not with my sons bad temperament lol

my cousin was adopted out.Twenty yrs later I located her on myspace.She felt unwanted because she was given up.She told us she would have rather been raised by the family.She has anger issues and jealous towards a sibling that was kept.There were very good reasons why she was given up.

Id adopt...at 47, I feel like Im finally able to be a good parent, however, my biological clock has ticked its last tock and giving birth isnt really the best choice..I would adopt an older child...

I think its needed to give children a chance they deserve. Anyone who adopts has my respect. jmo

I had a great family and recently found out i have 7 birth siblings.No one looks like me which is why I searched in the first place,that and some sense of inner peace.Now I need to find my birth dad who I am told is Native American.I'm guessing I look like him.Overall it has been a great experience but deep down I have always felt different but never unloved.

I'm adopted!! Broke the mould with this little black duck! A one off unique original!



..........just like everyone else...

Haven't met my natural birth mother or father, but know of them....

I have four amazing kids, they are my biology, they are my family...


If my biological parents felt the desire to seek me out, so be it...if not...? No biggy, circumstances surrounding the time of my birth were such that the woman who carried me, and gave me the opportunity to be me, did what was right for both her, and myself at the time.

I respect that. I understand that, and allow her the privacy to decide for herself.

well, in my experience, adoption can be a very good thing. When my girlfriend became pregnant ten years ago, she decied she was going to claim it was someone elses, even though circumstances dictated otherwise. I was not ready to have children, and thus, did not argue with her decision. I knew the guy she claimed, and although a little hot-tempered, he was a very good guy, and had already lost two kids before (sids both of them). he was mroe than ready and willing to be a father, and I knew our child would be raised ina good and loving home with everythign she needed.

So, even thuogh legally she was not adopted, it amounts to the same thing in the end, especially since he knew there was no way the child was his. The child got the life she deserved, and the lvoe she needed, so i look back on it as a wompletely win situation.