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Topic: I need help
SVImager's photo
Wed 09/03/08 12:41 PM


There is no easy answer to this... I guess you need to focus on why you broke up in the first place and remind yourself, you are worth much more than he is giving you. I've been in your spot, I wouldn't wish it on anyone.


He never told me why and to this day he won't say. I left because he stopped showing me affection aka sex for close to a year. I knew I was doomed since our first 3 years was quite rewarding.


Never told you why... Move On!!!
THREEEEE Years... Move On!!!!

It is not the question of "How".
Just "DO".

If you get back together, it will never be the same as those first 3 years. The Trust is not there anymore. It will always be in the back of your mind "Why" while you are with him or without him.

It would be easier without him... a chance to create new memories and a new beginnings.

JulieMP's photo
Wed 09/03/08 12:42 PM

Accept that u ARE gonna have feelings of different emotions when u hear from him, and understand that its normal to still be emotional until u r completely over it.

For me, outta sight, outta mind worked....sometimes a clean break is necessary in order to have time to let ur emotions settle.

Use ur single time to do the things YOU wanna do, treat urself, indulge in hobbies etc, just keep urself busy spendin time on urself.

Everything happens for a reason, and hindsight is a wonderful thing.

Im sure 1 day u will look at back and KNOW why its all happened. Have faith in life, love and urself.







THANK YOU. but i have been dating for close to 20 years.


Pink_lady's photo
Wed 09/03/08 12:43 PM


Accept that u ARE gonna have feelings of different emotions when u hear from him, and understand that its normal to still be emotional until u r completely over it.

For me, outta sight, outta mind worked....sometimes a clean break is necessary in order to have time to let ur emotions settle.

Use ur single time to do the things YOU wanna do, treat urself, indulge in hobbies etc, just keep urself busy spendin time on urself.

Everything happens for a reason, and hindsight is a wonderful thing.

Im sure 1 day u will look at back and KNOW why its all happened. Have faith in life, love and urself.







THANK YOU. but i have been dating for close to 20 years.




I wasnt talking just about dating, i was talking about LIVING.


JulieMP's photo
Wed 09/03/08 12:49 PM



Accept that u ARE gonna have feelings of different emotions when u hear from him, and understand that its normal to still be emotional until u r completely over it.

For me, outta sight, outta mind worked....sometimes a clean break is necessary in order to have time to let ur emotions settle.

Use ur single time to do the things YOU wanna do, treat urself, indulge in hobbies etc, just keep urself busy spendin time on urself.

Everything happens for a reason, and hindsight is a wonderful thing.

Im sure 1 day u will look at back and KNOW why its all happened. Have faith in life, love and urself.







THANK YOU. but i have been dating for close to 20 years.




I wasnt talking just about dating, i was talking about LIVING.




ha! understood. thank you

SweetLittleSuccubus's photo
Wed 09/03/08 12:56 PM


The grass is always greener on the other side.


What advice say you, when i not was on the greener?

now i am not.

I was living in Birmingham Alabama, i moved there to be with him.

I wrote several scripts and was awarded in my writing. I have had 2 produced.

I met celebrities and famous politicians. I was his pride. I was the one on his arm to charm his colleagues.

then i was dropped.


I from Bham, wonder if I know him.

JulieMP's photo
Wed 09/03/08 01:06 PM



I from Bham, wonder if I know him.


are you from the city or outskirts?

I lived in southside

usernamefayou's photo
Wed 09/03/08 01:10 PM
Could always be worse. I suggest a self-induced concussion, and hopefully that will bring about memory loss, strange town Julie.

JulieMP's photo
Wed 09/03/08 01:14 PM

Could always be worse. I suggest a self-induced concussion, and hopefully that will bring about memory loss, strange town Julie.


I am a film freak "eternal sunshine of the spotless mind" is what you suggest

nothing will help, except smart minds who make me consider the alternative..and to those i am grateful.


where they be??

JulieMP's photo
Wed 09/03/08 01:25 PM

Could always be worse. I suggest a self-induced concussion, and hopefully that will bring about memory loss, strange town Julie.



kiss kiss

JusWannaSayHi's photo
Wed 09/03/08 07:40 PM

What are you suppose to do when your heart is crushed. You had promises and you had love and then it was all taken away.

So then you move to another state. You cry for 4 months. You even start dating another guy. But then you break it off with him because you realize he is the rebound.

Now it is 8 months later and your love calls "just to see how you are"?

I try to be brave. But all I want is a time machine to go back and make him adore me again.

I am not a dummy, I am quite intelligent but I can't do this. I am going to be alone for the rest of my life and live with 17 dogs.



HUMMMM... WHY 17???
My mans jersey number is 17
I love him soooo much !
I AM HIS BOO FO SO!!

feralcatlady's photo
Wed 09/03/08 07:46 PM

better than 17 cats....lol

seriously, you should have said right away that your not ready to talk to him because you dont need them feeling brought up again right now

time heals, and i`m sure you`ll find someone to share your life with





grrrrr about the cats.


I would of said....hello are you new....you can't break my heart, make me miserable and then call and see how I am......How the frick you think I am....I am now living in another state and trying to get over your pathetic excuse for a man.....you twinlehead lil twit.....gigglesnort.

Lily0923's photo
Wed 09/03/08 07:49 PM


The grass is always greener on the other side.


What advice say you, when i not was on the greener?

now i am not.

I was living in Birmingham Alabama, i moved there to be with him.

I wrote several scripts and was awarded in my writing. I have had 2 produced.

I met celebrities and famous politicians. I was his pride. I was the one on his arm to charm his colleagues.

then i was dropped.


That made you his trophy not his love.... Don't ever be anyones trophy except your own.

MirrorMirror's photo
Wed 09/03/08 07:51 PM

What are you suppose to do when your heart is crushed. You had promises and you had love and then it was all taken away.

So then you move to another state. You cry for 4 months. You even start dating another guy. But then you break it off with him because you realize he is the rebound.

Now it is 8 months later and your love calls "just to see how you are"?

I try to be brave. But all I want is a time machine to go back and make him adore me again.

I am not a dummy, I am quite intelligent but I can't do this. I am going to be alone for the rest of my life and live with 17 dogs.
pitchfork Ur soul belongz to da devilpitchfork

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