Topic: Not the everyday girl, confused
Chazster's photo
Sat 09/13/08 04:43 AM
OK so I met this girl in person last sunday. We met online, but just sent a couple of messages and she invited me to meet her a church and go to breakfast. Well we do that and end up walking around town and talking for 2 hours. I find out that this girl has a very small tightly nit group of friends and that they are mostly guys (she just thinks girls are mean). She tells me all about each of her friends and says I should meet them, but she warns me that they don't take to well to new people. She also tells me that we should hang out this week and that she is mostly free, asks when I am off of work, and tells me when she is in class.

Basically I thought things were going awesome.

During the week I called her a few times, but she never answered. One day she left me a voicemail at work. Said she was in class and that wed & thur she was busy, but was trying to put something together. I text her friday evening asking if she was busy and she said she was hanging with her crew (what she calls her friends) and asked how I was.

I really don't know what to think of this girl. Based on Sunday and the voice mail she seems that she really wants to hang out, but based on the lack of hearing from her it seems that she is blowing me off.

Maybe she is shy, maybe she was busy and that was her first time with her friends and they were discussing me, maybe she just doesn't like me, idk.

I just wish she would call so I could find out lol.

mry's photo
Sat 09/13/08 04:46 AM
Just keep calling her if you like her and DON'T sound insecure when you do...things will work out fine.

papersmile's photo
Sat 09/13/08 04:48 AM
Edited by papersmile on Sat 09/13/08 04:50 AM
i think the opposite. i figure if she was really interested in you, she'd have made some time within that first week to see you, especially since she'd originally said she was free

i've never bothered with playing hard to get. if i liked a guy, he knew about it. i don't know if she's making you work at her or not, but i wouldn't bother phoning, at least not for a few days. when i did phone, if i got a 'no' or a 'we'll see' answer, i'd just quit calling altogether.

Chazster's photo
Sat 09/13/08 04:49 AM
I defiantly wont sound insecure. I am not planning to let her know I like her right away. I want to get to know her a little better first.

The thing is, she doesn't exactly fit what I "thought" I wanted in a girl, but there is just something about her that I can't place my finger on.

mry's photo
Sat 09/13/08 04:52 AM
Its all in the chase...and if shes not sure about you..well if you keep calling she might end up wanting you! Its happened to me.

Chazster's photo
Sat 09/13/08 04:53 AM

i think the opposite. i figure if she was really interested in you, she'd have made some time within that first week to see you, especially since she'd originally said she was free

i've never bothered with playing hard to get. if i liked a guy, he knew about it. i don't know if she's making you work at her or not, but i wouldn't bother phoning, at least not for a few days. when i did phone, if i got a 'no' or a 'we'll see' answer, i'd just quit calling altogether.


I see what you are saying, and if I didn't learn certain things about her in the two hours I talked to her then I would probably be thinking what you are.

Based on the day she doesn't seem the type to play games or blow people off. I do know she works, and I do know she has to study a lot (she is studying to be a linguist and that isn't easy).

I won't really know until I have an actual conversation with her though.

Roco's photo
Sat 09/27/08 06:32 PM

I defiantly wont sound insecure. I am not planning to let her know I like her right away. I want to get to know her a little better first.

The thing is, she doesn't exactly fit what I "thought" I wanted in a girl, but there is just something about her that I can't place my finger on.


yah...that something about her is her p**sy and your right, you aint every going to place your finger on it...look man, she got you buy the **ls..its called industry leverage over suppliers...your just another one of the suppliers...she said so herself..' got lots of guy friends' ..do yourself a favor...get some suppliers of your own and turn the tables on that **tch..

Roco

IndnPrncs's photo
Sat 09/27/08 06:37 PM
Wow Roco, I've always seen you give such kind advice, this one seems kind of harsh...

I agree with Paper... Don't call her if she doesn't return your last call... Don't chase her, girls that want to be chased have an ego issue...

Roco's photo
Sat 09/27/08 06:47 PM

Wow Roco, I've always seen you give such kind advice, this one seems kind of harsh...

I agree with Paper... Don't call her if she doesn't return your last call... Don't chase her, girls that want to be chased have an ego issue...


Thank you...I suppose...

look, Chazster..perhaps I am going a little overboard here..perhaps my compass isn't straight on this one...so this is what you do...call her..speak to her or leave a message...and say that you got a few real cool girlfriends that are looking to meet nice guys..(if you don't have any girlfriends...just lie, this one time)...and say that since you mentioned you had real cool guy friends..why don't we all meet up and hang out some time....if she calls you back and says yah...sound's like a good idea..then I take back every word that I said..but if you don't hear from her..or she somehow always manages to postpone the group date...then drop her like the cancer she is...only misery will come of it...don't say that nobody ever told me...I'm telling you now...you've been warned...

Roco

solestria's photo
Sat 09/27/08 08:32 PM
It sounds like she may just be busy, so personally, I suggest you ask her what's up. Let her know of your interest and see if it's something she shares, or might potentially share given more time to get to know each other.

MirrorMirror's photo
Sat 09/27/08 08:35 PM
:smile: If opportunity knocks, go to bed with your pants on.:smile:


Mindsi's photo
Sun 09/28/08 04:56 PM

Its all in the chase...and if shes not sure about you..well if you keep calling she might end up wanting you! Its happened to me.


I've never gotten that reaction. If I keep calling, they keep stalling.

Fade2Black's photo
Sun 09/28/08 06:01 PM

:smile: If opportunity knocks, go to bed with your pants on.:smile:





That's why we love you so much Lee .. you're sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo full of right on advice smokin

Texanese's photo
Sun 09/28/08 06:08 PM
Geez, why play games? Just call and tell her that her actions have you confused and you'd like to know what the situation is. If she beats around the bush (so to speak) - then you have your answer. Otherwise, if she really is just busy, she'll tell you, and you'll still have your answer.

itsmetina's photo
Sun 09/28/08 06:28 PM
Go to her door naked:tongue:

shoesmonkey's photo
Sun 09/28/08 06:33 PM
Sound's to me like she enjoy's collecting puppet's.

BlueskyJ's photo
Sun 09/28/08 06:46 PM
Given this happened on Sept. 13, two weeks ago, I'd like to hear an update....did the two of you ever talk again?....Did you see her again?

MirrorMirror's photo
Sun 09/28/08 07:51 PM

OK so I met this girl in person last sunday. We met online, but just sent a couple of messages and she invited me to meet her a church and go to breakfast. Well we do that and end up walking around town and talking for 2 hours. I find out that this girl has a very small tightly nit group of friends and that they are mostly guys (she just thinks girls are mean). She tells me all about each of her friends and says I should meet them, but she warns me that they don't take to well to new people. She also tells me that we should hang out this week and that she is mostly free, asks when I am off of work, and tells me when she is in class.

Basically I thought things were going awesome.

During the week I called her a few times, but she never answered. One day she left me a voicemail at work. Said she was in class and that wed & thur she was busy, but was trying to put something together. I text her friday evening asking if she was busy and she said she was hanging with her crew (what she calls her friends) and asked how I was.

I really don't know what to think of this girl. Based on Sunday and the voice mail she seems that she really wants to hang out, but based on the lack of hearing from her it seems that she is blowing me off.

Maybe she is shy, maybe she was busy and that was her first time with her friends and they were discussing me, maybe she just doesn't like me, idk.

I just wish she would call so I could find out lol.
:banana: Rub her feet.:banana:


RKISIT's photo
Sun 09/28/08 07:59 PM
listen,call leave a messege saying,well i thought you were interested,guess not, to busy to call me back you B!TCH,now look what your making me do im going to join a satanic cultpitchforkjmo

Chazster's photo
Mon 09/29/08 07:57 PM
I gave up on this girl. She has just been ignoring me, so forget her. I much rather honest people who just say they are not interested.

Doesn't matter. I meet another girl that seems pretty cool.