Ok, here is my situation and my plea for help..I have custody of my 3yr old son,my x gets visitaion every other weekend and a dinner every other thursday, and every time he sees his mother he carries on when she leaves and forgets how to behave.should i dissapline(spelling) him for missing her? and, why don't i hear about him going off when i leave him. (wow,can i bare myself any further?) Whatcha got?

He is a baby and misses his Mom...he is afraid she won't come back...my grandkids went through this, but after awhile they were fine....just comfort him....don't discipline him...this is his way of letting you guys know how he feels, he can't help that and is doing nothing wrong...just reassure him that she will be back, ask him if he had fun with her, etc....if you remain calm, he will eventually see that it is no big deal and he will feel more secure over the situation...best of luck

Its kind of hard raising a child in twoo households. Remember you are their for most of the raising, so she is going too be miss fun time because she doesnt have to stick to a daily routine. I would cut him some slack. Its not his fault your not together, so just continue to be a good parent, and just reinforce what he needs to do at home. Good Luck, its not easy.

All true and she can help by telling him when she is leaving that she will be back on thursday and she will see him then and that she loves him- he is just a baby- and needs reassurance from both of you that his world is still ok

he does get the reinforcement but, this has gone on for almost a year and it even carries on into his weekly routine. he gives his teachers at daycare hell on monday but, is fine the rest of the week. and, is 3 really a baby??? call him that, i dare ya

yep...3 is still a baby....and this is all very normal..believe me....it will eventually pass

Yes a 3 year old is still a baby!!!!!

and he will give the daycare workers a hard time on monday cuz he has been with you all weekend- it is completely normal and will pass- just be patient

it is just his way of letting you know the score.

I look at this baby card, and i am thinking if i play it, how long can it be played before you end up with a brat. it seems better to stop it..

Yes 3 is a Baby. You have to seek help with his problems, because these are problems you, and your ex have caused your son. He may act out for the rest of his life in one way or another. He knows he is suppose to be in a family setting. Seek professional help, so you, and your ex can help your son adjust. He is not an adult, he is a child. Try to help him grow to be a positive, and stable young man. My daughter is 23, and married, and she tells me things that hurt her from when she was 5 years old. We were not a complete family. It sucks for the kids

darling laughs, i think you missed it, the problem is on mondays after the weekend with his mother.I get no bad reports after his weekend at home, only his away time..

you will find that you will raise him the way you were raised and are you a brat? probably not so its more than likely he will not be either

just let him be a baby- he is only 3!!! he just needs to play and be loved and be kept safe and be taught right from wrong and what the word NO means!! other than that- he has time.

he just needs hugs and kisses from both mommy and daddy and needs to hear that he is loved and that he is the best boy in the whole world. He'll be fine

i do get it- he misses mom- and his routine has been messed up- You give him stability and she is the fun parent- I get it believe me. and it will pass- we have all been there- it will get better and easier. i swear!!

Thats a scary thought. i was raised in a broken family and moved out at 16 and didnt really settle down and figure life out till i was about 25. I also was subjected to "professional help" and i believe its a crock!! "you" can tell whats going on and "you" wont wanna change till "you" want to..

Thats great. I am glad everyone is just like you

"you" have to give yourself more credit- i don't know of alot of men that would take full custody of a 3 year old little boy. You are doing a great job and you have us as a support system!!! you can't fail!!! he has lots of Mommas!! and you have lots of people to ask questions to. We all have problems and questions when it comes to raising our kids. He will be fine cuz he knows you love him and you are there for him. Your past made you who you are now- and now you have him- its all good- don't sweat it.

tell me about it. i have a freakin book of not-to's..

OK now that i'm feeling a bit better, can i delete a thread or am i stuck with it haunting me??????

hee hee- sorry- you are forever haunted!!! glad you are feeling better.

o well humiliating but helpful

Don't ya hate that? I have a few I'd like to wipe away from the archives......hehe.

Keep up the good work. He'll remember some day who took the time to reinforce the rules and help him to grow up to be a productive citizen.