Topic: Not interested
lilith401's photo
Fri 11/07/08 09:48 AM
Edited by lilith401 on Fri 11/07/08 09:55 AM
Awww JT..... what a sweetie you are.

Then I'd be empress! laugh Too bad he gives me the heebie jeebies. The more he pushes, the more I want to run. I already told my neighbors what his car looks like.

lilith401's photo
Fri 11/07/08 09:51 AM

Nothing to discuss, he wants you to change your mind. He wants you to want him for the great person that he is. He had trouble before impressing you but 'now' he knows better, still has problems listening but he 'knows'




Fran.. this is frightening right here.

There is no second chance for a first impression. Three dates is my limit.

The first date was fun, the second date he got sick and cut short (now I know as a withdrawal from a med that needs medically supervised titration and not cold turkey cessation) and the third date he was an ass, through and through. I drove to dinner and one of my tires needs balance so it sort of hums, and he was humming along in this annoying singsongy voice, squeezing my knee until it flexed. I looked at him and told him if he did not stop I was pulling over and kicking him out of my car.

jtip1977's photo
Fri 11/07/08 09:53 AM


Nothing to discuss, he wants you to change your mind. He wants you to want him for the great person that he is. He had trouble before impressing you but 'now' he knows better, still has problems listening but he 'knows'




Fran.. this is frightening right here.

There is no second chance for a first impression. Three dates is my limit.

The first date was fun, the second date he got sick and cut short (now I know as a withdrawal from a med that needs medically supervised titration and not cold turkey cessation) and the third date he was an ass, through and through. I drove to dinner and one of my tires needs balance so it sort of hums, and he was humming along in this annoying singsongy voice, squeezing my knee until it flexed. I looked at him and told him if he did not stop I was pulling over and kicking him out of my car.


I can so see you kicking someone out of your car!!!laugh laugh

He should've picked you up though.

lilith401's photo
Fri 11/07/08 09:56 AM
JT we actually met at a restaurant parking lot outside a mall but I knew he wanted Mexican. There is a great place he'd never have found so when I got there I said hop in and I surprised him. I was trying to be considerate. Mexican food is like in my bottom three for date food.

jtip1977's photo
Fri 11/07/08 10:31 AM
I love Mexican food.....burrito's especially, but never on a date. laugh It messes me up too muchlaugh

I prefer Italian or a real nice Steakhouse for one of the first dates.

lilith401's photo
Fri 11/07/08 10:31 AM
K, I just checked my mail and had three more messages from him. This is my last hurrah:

"Nothing to think about. I told you before, and I told you why. I am NOT INTERESTED in seeing you again. Period, end of story. Have some empathy. Look at what you are doing, it is seriously pissing me the fvck off. I am done here. Was done... I tried ignoring you, I tried telling you. You were an azz. You can't fix that. You made your impression and it was so horrifically bad that there is no way you can fix it. Get it?"


How'd I do? My next step is blocking him.... from that site and on my phone.

jtip1977's photo
Fri 11/07/08 10:33 AM
If he doesn't get the hint this time, then he is totally clueless. If someone sent me an email like that, I would be thoroughly embarrassed and would never bother them again. Although with me it would never get to that point. Especially after only 3 dates.

lilith401's photo
Fri 11/07/08 10:36 AM
JT... I sent other mails that were just as bad. Several of them. And only after I ignored him for a week and tried to say, "I'm not interested, goodbye". Politely.... then he demanded the "why". So I gave it to him, verbatim as posted on page one. All replied to with, "Ohh I'm so sorry. I am really a nice person. I swear I'm not a jerk. Please don't hate me"....


Translation: I have self esteem problems and no pride. I'm creepy and freaky.

jtip1977's photo
Fri 11/07/08 10:39 AM
Wow. A needy, weird, self-loathing "nice" guy. Sounds like a catch to me.

lilith401's photo
Fri 11/07/08 10:41 AM

Wow. A needy, weird, self-loathing "nice" guy. Sounds like a catch to me.

frustrated frustrated frustrated frustrated frustrated frustrated

And yet I will keep meeting people. Eternally hopeful in meeting a normal sexy guy who kisses well and is intelligent.

jtip1977's photo
Fri 11/07/08 10:42 AM
I wish you luck Lilith as there are not many of us left.laugh :wink:

lilith401's photo
Fri 11/07/08 10:43 AM

I wish you luck Lilith as there are not many of us left.laugh :wink:


Shuddup. You and Goof.... TAKEN. rant

franshade's photo
Fri 11/07/08 10:44 AM

JT we actually met at a restaurant parking lot outside a mall but I knew he wanted Mexican. There is a great place he'd never have found so when I got there I said hop in and I surprised him. I was trying to be considerate. Mexican food is like in my bottom three for date food.


thought I was alone, not a fan of Mexican food period and imagine I am latina.

franshade's photo
Fri 11/07/08 10:45 AM


Wow. A needy, weird, self-loathing "nice" guy. Sounds like a catch to me.

frustrated frustrated frustrated frustrated frustrated frustrated

And yet I will keep meeting people. Eternally hopeful in meeting a normal sexy guy who kisses well and is intelligent.

and look out for a sister too, ask for if he has a brother, uncle, male cousin etc... hook a sistah up :banana:

adj4u's photo
Fri 11/07/08 10:47 AM
maybe you should start calling him every 10 minutes and start demanding he do things after a couple days he will dump you

then all will be well


:wink: :wink:

rofl rofl rofl rofl rofl

lilith401's photo
Fri 11/07/08 10:48 AM
No!!!! noway


Then I'd have to see him again.

lilith401's photo
Fri 11/07/08 10:54 AM
He freaking replied!!!!

"Just asking for another chance. I'm really not the person you think I am, and I just wanted a chance to show you how I really can be. That's all."



This is it, then I am blocking him. My final reply:
You had chances to show how you can really be. Are you dense? I'm NOT INTERESTED. I'm NOT INTERESTED. I swear, I am not playing hard to get. I don't want to go out with you again. I don't want to talk to you. There is nothing to talk about. You apologized, fine. Let it go, leave it be. Please leave me alone. I am not going out with you again. I'm NOT INTERESTED.

Riding_Dubz's photo
Fri 11/07/08 10:56 AM
My question is,

if your not intrested,

why do you keep talking to the other party,?

just shut it off,

lilith401's photo
Fri 11/07/08 10:59 AM

My question is,

if your not intrested,

why do you keep talking to the other party,?

just shut it off,


Kev..... I am getting texts and calls and mails... I want it to STOP. I don't want to have to block him. There is a part of me that thinks if i make it clear enough he will leave it alone.

franshade's photo
Fri 11/07/08 11:00 AM

He freaking replied!!!!

"Just asking for another chance. I'm really not the person you think I am, and I just wanted a chance to show you how I really can be. That's all."



This is it, then I am blocking him. My final reply:
You had chances to show how you can really be. Are you dense? I'm NOT INTERESTED. I'm NOT INTERESTED. I swear, I am not playing hard to get. I don't want to go out with you again. I don't want to talk to you. There is nothing to talk about. You apologized, fine. Let it go, leave it be. Please leave me alone. I am not going out with you again. I'm NOT INTERESTED.



tmi Lilith - thank you but no thank you