why is it sooooooooooooo hard to find a date after having a baby? is it because you still have the "baby made me" fat or because of the fact that you are now a parent and have major responsibilities?

either way... i'm a hard working single mother of a 5 month old and i have no time to go out looking for mr. right..not that i'm in any hurry to settle down.

so tell me what makes dating so difficult for single parents??

I guess the question you should be asking is why did you think it would be easier than this?

I'm a single parent... and the dating scene "post baby" sucks. It doesn't get much better but it does some. Telling someone I have a 10 year old at home is a whole lot different than telling them I have an infant.

Exactly.....not many people wants to take on such a big responsibility as the one a child brings; especially is it is not their child. You might find a lot of men that want to have fun, but the special one, will take time. Best of luck to you

I didn't have that problem with men not being interested after having kids or with being chubby on and off throughout my life. And the kids didn't make me chubby; my mouth did!!

Maybe you cast a negative aura with thinking it is about the chubby or the baby.

I dont think it has anything to do with the "leftovers" from pregnancy...

I think it has to do with youre much more focused on your baby and not on having a good time and meeting a man... Youre responsibilities have changed, your maternal instincts have kicked in and youre someones Mommy now... That a million times more important then being someones girlfriend..

Dont worry about the man part of it... enjoy your time with your baby, they dont stay lil long...

and you are only 23 yrs old. You have a whole life ahead of you! Enjoy your baby while he/she is little!

I was gonna say!......

we're here ljcc (pointing at eyes)

hey girl i am with you on that...I have a 2 1/2 and a 1 year old its like the guys are scared that we are going to make them commit or something lol they have their tails between the ass lol...dont worry though youll find someone...i did :D and he is actually accepting my two as his if they were his own.

I think it was determined in the other thread it was your profile making it hard....

I agree. Seriously...in the first sentence I was scared and ran away.

WHAT A RACIST PROFILE YOU HAVE!!!! GOD!

Wow Talk about someone falling on their own sword. I can sympathize about not wanting unwelcome advances but I don't know how that can be overcome.

HOLY CRAP!

Wow, that was a very awful profile.

Did you ever think that maybe it isn't the baby that is preventing you from getting dates?


Shoot, I would tell you EXACTLY what I have to say, but I am not about to get banned for you.

You need to

1) focus on your child. She should ALWAYS come first.
2) fix your attitude
3) get some help. Someone that says all that nasty crap should definitely not be here looking for dates. Maybe you will have better luck at the local KKK singles night?

oh crap, snap, flip that and spank it....WTF?!?!?!?

Well judging from your pictures you could be precived as an attractive person if it wasn't for your ugly attitude that comes across in your profile. You are not underweight, but you are not massive either but coming across as shallow and hypocritical as you do in your current profile are not helping you.



Now to address your question from a guy perspective. This is the thought.
"Wow she's cute" "**** she's got a kid, she doesn't want a date she wants a daddy"

Not that this is the way I or many other guys think it is how a large number do think, and that is because a large number of single moms are looking for fill-in-the-blank daddies not dates.

If you date a guy just to be a Daddy to your kid then you are really hurting your child in the long run.

The children are not learning that you have rights as a person that go along with the responsibility that you might asume.

First and foremost is to be loved for who you are as a person.

Children will grow up and find mates of their own and then you will have nothing left.

The thing is, the OP hasn't posted since her two original threads, this one and a rate my profile one. Her profile is still active, so it begs the question....

Why would she ask and then not return?

she is not returning cause she has a brat crying in the background. cancha hear it? it keeps a person busy.....no time to chit chat.

have any of you been pregnant out there? well of course, the women but not the men. well, that's a lie. didn't some woman just have a sex change, but retain her baby maker? and had something.
okay see FYI below...

once u have a baby, your stomach sags,...cause u have gained lots of weight... and your wrinkled old junk becomes just that.....it has not popped back into place, and so u have to do kegels to get it there.
then, maybe you don't feel like dating because u r depressed.....a bigee.... then, u r on a schedule, cause your brestacycsts...which are glandular tissue fill up with milk, and they become fat, and heavy, hard, and full of this stuff that looks like skim milk without any cream, and you have to get rid of it or it hurts like hell.
then, let us not forget baby. he/she does not want his mother gone very long because hes/she gets hungry, wet or poopy and cries. some reasons why dating might be hard.