100% FREE ONLINE DATING
sponsored links
| Topic: Euegenics and dating | |
|---|---|
|
Edited by
Maikuru
on
Fri 11/28/08 11:28 PM
|
|
I was recently on another dating site in chat with about fifty other singles of different races and health conditions. When a young woman(28) made a statement directed towards me as i was talking about Taoism with two others. " I reviewed your profile and you stated that you had diabetes and various other health conditions. I believe you need to know that no woman on this site would date you because you might pass this genetic disorder on to your children."
Naturally i was shocked by this statement and was not immediately sure how to respond. I was reminded of the practice of euegenics and how discriminating and racist this kind of thinking is. As i wrote my intial response i was even more shocked to see that no one else had responded to the comment. I then waited five minutes to see if anyone would say anything. Well no one did. I then promptly closed my account and left. My question: Is this kind of thinking and mentality acceptable and are these the kind of things that go through people's mind as they choose who they date? Let me know what you all think. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I'm sorry for your experience.
the person you are looking for is looking for you. I believe it without doubt. don't ever let anyone convince you otherwise. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Wow. My 1st thought is what makes her think she can speak for all the woman on the site? My second thought is what makes her think anyone's going to want to date someone so rude & arrogant as she is?
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I just looked at your profile. You have so many talents & interests. Why do you start out with "I am a diabetic"? Don't let that define you. May I suggest you start out with "I am an artist"? That is the feeling I get from you.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
This is just plain shallow and can only be her personal opinion.
As for others not reacting, they were either waiting for your response, or they were too embarrassed to say anything. Don't let it get to you, it really is not worth it. |
|
|
|
|
|
Edited by
Jtevans
on
Fri 11/28/08 11:40 PM
|
|
I was recently on another dating site in chat with about fifty other singles of different races and health conditions. When a young woman(28) made a statement directed towards me as i was talking about Taoism with two others. " I reviewed your profile and you stated that you had diabetes and various other health conditions. I believe you need to know that no woman on this site would date you because you might pass this genetic disorder on to your children." Naturally i was shocked by this statement and was not immediately sure how to respond. I was reminded of the practice of euegenics and how discriminating and racist this kind of thinking is. As i wrote my intial response i was even more shocked to see that no one else had responded to the comment. I then waited five minutes to see if anyone would say anything. Well no one did. I then promptly closed my account and left. My question: Is this kind of thinking and mentality acceptable and are these the kind of things that go through people's mind as they choose who they date? Let me know what you all think. don't worry,i have had diabetes for 24 yrs now and i've been through pretty much the same things.only unlike most diabetics that gain weight too fast,i can't seem to gain weight and people look at me and ask if i'm on drugs 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Oh Welcome to Mingle! We are interested in more than your genes here!
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Edited by
Maikuru
on
Fri 11/28/08 11:53 PM
|
|
I was recently on another dating site in chat with about fifty other singles of different races and health conditions. When a young woman(28) made a statement directed towards me as i was talking about Taoism with two others. " I reviewed your profile and you stated that you had diabetes and various other health conditions. I believe you need to know that no woman on this site would date you because you might pass this genetic disorder on to your children." Naturally i was shocked by this statement and was not immediately sure how to respond. I was reminded of the practice of euegenics and how discriminating and racist this kind of thinking is. As i wrote my intial response i was even more shocked to see that no one else had responded to the comment. I then waited five minutes to see if anyone would say anything. Well no one did. I then promptly closed my account and left. My question: Is this kind of thinking and mentality acceptable and are these the kind of things that go through people's mind as they choose who they date? Let me know what you all think. don't worry,i have had diabetes for 24 yrs now and i've been through pretty much the same things.only unlike most diabetics that gain weight too fast,i can't seem to gain weight and people look at me and ask if i'm on drugs Sounds like your a type one diabetic also. Yeah its pretty funny everybody seems to think now diabetics are all over weight. I have had Type one since i was seven and i still have trouble keeping the weight on. i was at the hospital recently and a new nurse asked me if i was sure i had diabetes becuase i was not overweight. yeah that crap does happen but what can you do. oh well. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I'm sorry that you had to go through that.
 How awful for somebody to be so ignorant and close minded. Diabetes isn't even a disability. My Aunt married someone that had diabetes all of his life. They had a son that doesn't have it and he has two children that don't have it. Seriously, though, I do wonder why you discuss it in your first sentence. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
 Thats weird
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Thats weird Yeah, it is. What's the big deal? |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I believe in being open about myself and honest with people. Diabetes and the complications that i have developed becuase of it are a very serious and important part of my life. If someone can't handle that, i certainly don't want them as a friend much less someone i would date or marry. My former fiance left me when i suffered a insulin reaction and ended up in the hospital for two weeks. We had been together two years and were engaged to be married. Then she decides she can't handle it and leaves me. I would rather weed those kinda people out right away. That's why its in the first sentence of my profile.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Edited by
littleredhen
on
Sat 11/29/08 12:17 AM
|
|
Gosh I'm sorry you went through that. You deserve someone who will stick by you & see you as a creative, intellgent, thoughtful man who just happens to have diabetes. I see all those qualities in your profile & posts. Her loss.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I have a rather personal genetic condition that I won't disclose here.
But I will say that there is a 94 % chance that my offspring will inherit my condition. It's one of the reasons why I put "no" under "want children." It has always been disconcerting to me that so many women want to have kids. My mindset involving this, over the past year in particular has become quite stringent. I know that given the option, I will not budge an inch in my decision to not have kids. I guess I may well die alone in this case. 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I have a rather personal genetic condition that I won't disclose here. But I will say that there is a 94 % chance that my offspring will inherit my condition. It's one of the reasons why I put "no" under "want children." It has always been disconcerting to me that so many women want to have kids. My mindset involving this, over the past year in particular has become quite stringent. I know that given the option, I will not budge an inch in my decision to not have kids. I guess I may well die alone in this case. I believe that no one should have to hide anything about themselves for fear of rejection. You have made a choice in your life and are entitled to it. Their are many people who are unable or unwilling to have children. That should not been seen as a deal breaker in any kind of relationship. So keep hope. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I believe in being open about myself and honest with people. Diabetes and the complications that i have developed becuase of it are a very serious and important part of my life. If someone can't handle that, i certainly don't want them as a friend much less someone i would date or marry. My former fiance left me when i suffered a insulin reaction and ended up in the hospital for two weeks. We had been together two years and were engaged to be married. Then she decides she can't handle it and leaves me. I would rather weed those kinda people out right away. That's why its in the first sentence of my profile. RedHen said it better than I probably could. It was her loss. I'm sorry that happened to you. You are not your diabetes though. Diabetes is part of you. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Edited by
Maikuru
on
Sat 11/29/08 01:11 AM
|
|
I believe in being open about myself and honest with people. Diabetes and the complications that i have developed becuase of it are a very serious and important part of my life. If someone can't handle that, i certainly don't want them as a friend much less someone i would date or marry. My former fiance left me when i suffered a insulin reaction and ended up in the hospital for two weeks. We had been together two years and were engaged to be married. Then she decides she can't handle it and leaves me. I would rather weed those kinda people out right away. That's why its in the first sentence of my profile. RedHen said it better than I probably could. It was her loss. I'm sorry that happened to you. You are not your diabetes though. Diabetes is part of you. You and red hen are right. Diabetes does not determine who someone is. It is simply a part of my life till there is a cure or its complications lead to my demise. It has influenced the type of person i have become but i view that as some of my better qualities and characteristics. In the end diabetes is just a part of my life and i believe those who choose to be around me should be willing to accept and or deal with it. I will be overjoyed if there ever comes a day when i am cured and can take it off my profile. |
|
|
|
|
