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Topic: The most awful thing your parents did to you.
martymark Joined Tue 11/18/08 Posts: 1105	Sat 12/06/08 04:50 PM
they didn't make me fiifnssh my engleesh hoomwurk!

seahawks Joined Thu 01/11/07 Posts: 16735	Sat 12/06/08 04:51 PM
they didn't make me fiifnssh my engleesh hoomwurk!

artcat Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 472	Sat 12/06/08 04:57 PM
oh let us not even go there... Yeah, I'm with you Jasmine with regards to my Dad anyway. The worst thing my mom did to me was tell me I'm telling your father as soon as he gets home......hours before he would get home. The fear knotted my stomach up the entire time. And when he got home it would be that big, thick, black, 3 inch, leather belt across my bare butt and legs. All I ever had to do was cross the wrong street or even just make my mom angry. But that wasn't the worst thing my father did, I'm not going there. Spare the rod and spoil the child? Yeah right, the only thing being on the receiving end of the rod taught me was that it's wrong to hit your children. No child should have to go to school and not even be able to sit in their desk because of the pain they are in from the beating inflicted upon them by a supposedly loving parent. No child should be afraid that your crazy mother was going to call the cops on you for some made up crap. (in the mean time she is on the other side of the country calling the cops) Also, you shouldnt have to hide from class mates because your mother called and told them that my dad was going to come to the school with a bomb. (My dad was on the other side of the country, at home, high, he had no clue what was going on. She did that twice, my class mates thought I was as crazy as her, and tried to beat me up. Jessica, you are quite right, no child should have to suffer the abuse of a parent. I'm sorry you've endured all you have, it must have made you an extraordinarily strong woman. The thing to keep in mind when judging the degree of severity of abuse inflicted upon a child is that it's all a horror to the child.

7z3r05 Joined Thu 09/04/08 Posts: 9434	Sat 12/06/08 04:58 PM
took away my cds and sent me to outpatient rehab

artcat Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 472	Sat 12/06/08 05:02 PM Edited by artcat on Sat 12/06/08 05:03 PM
they didn't make me fiifnssh my engleesh hoomwurk! Need some help? That was my first job when I got out of college, I taught senior English in high school.

SamaraNJ Joined Fri 08/01/08 Posts: 788	Sat 12/06/08 05:05 PM
eh, besides the usual bad crap that there is no need to go into.. I left my ex.. my dads new wife offered to let me stay with them til I got a place.. I woke up the morning after moving in and unpacking.. there was a piece of paper on the dining room table.. it was a contract.. not a big deal.. just official stuff I guess my dad thought he needed to be sure I wouldnt have company in the house (cause you know things like that just can't be told to a person).... but with all that stuff on the contract.. the thing that got me most.. was the part of the contract that I had to sign was to acknowledge that I knew I was 'just here because I needed help and was not wanted here'........ so ofcourse I moved out right away...

7z3r05 Joined Thu 09/04/08 Posts: 9434	Sat 12/06/08 05:06 PM
eh, besides the usual bad crap that there is no need to go into.. I left my ex.. my dads new wife offered to let me stay with them til I got a place.. I woke up the morning after moving in and unpacking.. there was a piece of paper on the dining room table.. it was a contract.. not a big deal.. just official stuff I guess my dad thought he needed to be sure I wouldnt have company in the house (cause you know things like that just can't be told to a person).... but with all that stuff on the contract.. the thing that got me most.. was the part of the contract that I had to sign was to acknowledge that I knew I was 'just here because I needed help and was not wanted here'........ so ofcourse I moved out right away... damn.

martymark Joined Tue 11/18/08 Posts: 1105	Sat 12/06/08 05:16 PM
took away my cds and sent me to outpatient rehab out patient? what rocket scientist money grubbing ass hole came up with that brilliant scheme? I mean Jesus help us. If some one is truly sick with an addictive behavior problem. To let them out of supervision at all for at least 7 days is a crime in itself. I guess the almighty buck rules again. I went through in patient. And on the 28th day when my insurance ran out, according to the doc'S, "the patient shows all good responses to make a full recovery" I was so pissed at those self righteous nuts that ran that place. I even told them that as well. I went straight to the bar and got drunk when I got out. Then I spent the next few years running around doing more bull**** than ever before. I do hope you got something good out of your experience if that is even anything more than a joke on the thread here. The only thing I remember about treatment was some counselor telling me to get real. They could have told me that over the phone and saved the insurance company about a quarter of a million bucks. sorry about going off a little here. Guess it just kinda struck a nerve. Don't worry. I won't go use over it!

SamaraNJ Joined Fri 08/01/08 Posts: 788	Sat 12/06/08 05:17 PM
When I was between the ages of 8 and 10, my dad used to throw me against the walls, then on my back in front of my lil sis. He then spent all of the money I earned, (long story) on himself and his weed addiction. He built a room for me, but then took it over. He took me out of counseling, put me in girl scouts and whenever it was time for us to acctually do something fun, he would make me quit. He kicked me outta soft ball, (and the only reason why I was in softball was to lose weight, cuz I was tired of my dad calling me a fat ass) because he didnt feel like picking me up, but when my lil sis joined cheerleading, he would be there everyday to pick her up, even if it was a game that wasn't home. He would take off on me in the middle of the night to go to the bars when I was 8. He made me make my own breakfast which was usually, Ramen, instant mashed potatoes, or mac and cheese, and I was lucky to get dinner. He wouldnt' let me visit my Grama (who is my savior) because my lil sis was jealous. (Even though she had a grama and grapa of her own. (I was the only child in my fam with one set of grandparents. My Aunt wouldnt let me hang out with her, BECAUSE my dad is my dad, and if I ever got to hang out with her kids, she would purposely leave me out of things, like take the kids to the beach, I would have to sit at home. oh yeah.. i remember those nights when sugar-water was dinner cause that's all you could find.. was really lucky if there was bread and could have mayonaisse sandwiches.. LOL.. omg I am so friggin glad to be an adult now.. but the way I was raised makes me who I am today.. which is responsible, independent and not lazy with more pride than my mother has..

7z3r05 Joined Thu 09/04/08 Posts: 9434	Sat 12/06/08 05:18 PM
took away my cds and sent me to outpatient rehab out patient? what rocket scientist money grubbing ass hole came up with that brilliant scheme? I mean Jesus help us. If some one is truly sick with an addictive behavior problem. To let them out of supervision at all for at least 7 days is a crime in itself. I guess the almighty buck rules again. I went through in patient. And on the 28th day when my insurance ran out, according to the doc'S, "the patient shows all good responses to make a full recovery" I was so pissed at those self righteous nuts that ran that place. I even told them that as well. I went straight to the bar and got drunk when I got out. Then I spent the next few years running around doing more bull**** than ever before. I do hope you got something good out of your experience if that is even anything more than a joke on the thread here. The only thing I remember about treatment was some counselor telling me to get real. They could have told me that over the phone and saved the insurance company about a quarter of a million bucks. sorry about going off a little here. Guess it just kinda struck a nerve. Don't worry. I won't go use over it! listen broseph, i was 16. my parents happen to have money and they found an ounce of pot and a bag of oxies under my bed. you think i wanted to go? sorry that "struck a nerve" but dont take it out on me.

burgundybry Joined Mon 03/05/07 Posts: 8084	Sat 12/06/08 05:18 PM Edited by burgundybry on Sat 12/06/08 05:21 PM
They're both long since gone from my life. My mom passed when I was 16, my dad about 15 years ago. They weren't perfect, but I think they did the best they could with what they had. When they're no longer with you, ya tend to hang onto the good and let go of the bad, at least that is how it is for me. nice post, lilbug! ..couldn't have said it better ...i know for me, when i became a parent, it painted an entirely new perspective on just how much i had put my folks through..lost my dad in 1977, my mom just two weeks prior to 911

martymark Joined Tue 11/18/08 Posts: 1105	Sat 12/06/08 05:24 PM Edited by martymark on Sat 12/06/08 05:26 PM
took away my cds and sent me to outpatient rehab out patient? what rocket scientist money grubbing ass hole came up with that brilliant scheme? I mean Jesus help us. If some one is truly sick with an addictive behavior problem. To let them out of supervision at all for at least 7 days is a crime in itself. I guess the almighty buck rules again. I went through in patient. And on the 28th day when my insurance ran out, according to the doc'S, "the patient shows all good responses to make a full recovery" I was so pissed at those self righteous nuts that ran that place. I even told them that as well. I went straight to the bar and got drunk when I got out. Then I spent the next few years running around doing more bull**** than ever before. I do hope you got something good out of your experience if that is even anything more than a joke on the thread here. The only thing I remember about treatment was some counselor telling me to get real. They could have told me that over the phone and saved the insurance company about a quarter of a million bucks. sorry about going off a little here. Guess it just kinda struck a nerve. Don't worry. I won't go use over it! listen broseph, i was 16. my parents happen to have money and they found an ounce of pot and a bag of oxies under my bed. you think i wanted to go? sorry that "struck a nerve" but dont take it out on me. sorry, didn't want you to take that I was trying to take anything out on you. guess I better not say anything else about this with out writing a disclaimer first. You know any good liyers?

7z3r05 Joined Thu 09/04/08 Posts: 9434	Sat 12/06/08 05:26 PM
lairs? as in people that lie? i dont mean to get upset either but it wasnt exactly all sunshine and roses for me either. kinda gave me a guilty complex and an inferiority complex. no harm no foul. post on bruddah.

martymark Joined Tue 11/18/08 Posts: 1105	Sat 12/06/08 05:27 PM
lairs? as in people that lie? i dont mean to get upset either but it wasnt exactly all sunshine and roses for me either. kinda gave me a guilty complex and an inferiority complex. no harm no foul. post on bruddah. liyers,,,lawyers,,,,old lawyer joke

KymmieSue Joined Mon 05/05/08 Posts: 1497	Sat 12/06/08 05:52 PM
i remember one time my brother and i (i was about 10 and he was about 9) were playing in the basement, where we were supposed to, and knocked over a new toilet breaing the tank (he had put it in the middle of the basement), after he beat us he told my mom to look at my foot....apparently when the tank fell it cut my foot. of course there was the punishment for getting blood on my new carpet.

popcornncoke Joined Fri 11/02/07 Posts: 2088	Sat 12/06/08 06:05 PM
I really try not to think about my childhood.The truth is that my stepfather sexual abuse me and my mother was alcholic[lost her when she was 36yrs old]I know she loved me in her own way.But she didn't protect me,she didn't believe me when I told her.So I got married at 17,just to get away from home.I made a promise that I would never turn into my mother and I would always be there for my kids,They would have a better mom.My stepfather told me about 7 yrs ago that the past was the past,it didn't matter anymore but he was wrong..

luv2roknroll Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 30367	Sat 12/06/08 06:45 PM Edited by luv2roknroll on Sat 12/06/08 06:45 PM
When I was a teenager.... I wanted to dress trashy. You know the bare midriff, and the hiphuggers,not to mention the shorts like wayyyyyyyyyyy up my azz! My mom used to tell me I was advertising and someday someone was gonna wanna sample my goods. Well one day, as im heading out of the door looking like a friggen ho, my mom decieded that if I was gonna show it, I should show it all. She stripped me naked, and threw me onto the front porch, and locked me out! Needless to say, when I was able to get back in, I dressed myself accordingly! I dont dress like a slut now... I dress sexy, but never sleazy! Thanks Mom!!!!

SamaraNJ Joined Fri 08/01/08 Posts: 788	Sat 12/06/08 06:47 PM
When I was a teenager.... I wanted to dress trashy. You know the bare midriff, and the hiphuggers,not to mention the shorts like wayyyyyyyyyyy up my azz! My mom used to tell me I was advertising and someday someone was gonna wanna sample my goods. Well one day, as im heading out of the door looking like a friggen ho, my mom decieded that if I was gonna show it, I should show it all. She stripped me naked, and threw me onto the front porch, and locked me out! Needless to say, when I was able to get back in, I dressed myself accordingly! I dont dress like a slut now... I dress sexy, but never sleazy! Thanks Mom!!!! LOL tough love.. She sounds tough, sounds like something my grandmother would have done.... Good thing it helped you.. Other people may have been posting how that damaged them forever..

luv2roknroll Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 30367	Sat 12/06/08 06:49 PM
When I was a teenager.... I wanted to dress trashy. You know the bare midriff, and the hiphuggers,not to mention the shorts like wayyyyyyyyyyy up my azz! My mom used to tell me I was advertising and someday someone was gonna wanna sample my goods. Well one day, as im heading out of the door looking like a friggen ho, my mom decieded that if I was gonna show it, I should show it all. She stripped me naked, and threw me onto the front porch, and locked me out! Needless to say, when I was able to get back in, I dressed myself accordingly! I dont dress like a slut now... I dress sexy, but never sleazy! Thanks Mom!!!! LOL tough love.. She sounds tough, sounds like something my grandmother would have done.... Good thing it helped you.. Other people may have been posting how that damaged them forever.. Im a rocker... we dont break babe...we bounce!

MisKim323 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 14563	Sat 12/06/08 07:02 PM
Tortured me too so sorry this happened to you