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Topic: LDR advice please
PrincessPeaches's photo
Sun 12/14/08 06:29 AM
Edited by PrincessPeaches on Sun 12/14/08 06:29 AM
I need some advice here........So here's my problem,

I've been chatting with a great guy for a while now. He's wonderfull and seems to be very close to what I'm looking for in a potential partner. But we live miles apart, two totally diffrent states, I want to meet and he keeps avoiding it. We both have busy schedules, and limited transportation, but he just has no desire to me face to face. We always make time for long talkes or chat's online but when it comes down to it he always dodges around the fact that we have yet to meet. I've even offered to go to him and he says it's not a good time.

So the fact of the matter is I'm just looking for advice, Do I break it off or do I try to make this work as a long distance relationship?

awolf1010's photo
Sun 12/14/08 06:30 AM
he's married!!!

oldsage's photo
Sun 12/14/08 06:31 AM
Something smells, to me. I would have a "come to Jesus" conversation. Why don't you want to meet?
His answer; or lack of; will tell you what to do.

soffit's photo
Sun 12/14/08 06:32 AM

he's married!!!
Thats IT!frustrated

MsCarmen's photo
Sun 12/14/08 06:33 AM

he's married!!!


I'm going with that one, or at least in a committed relationship. I'd dump him!

no photo
Sun 12/14/08 06:37 AM
If he's been avoiding meeting despite your bending over backwards to make it happen, then he doesn't want to. Probably married or in a relationship and just looking for kicks, sorry to say. This is not a relationship, ld or otherwise, sounds like him getting some kicks at your expense. If I were you, I'd say put up or shut up and if he won't, then I'd run as fast as possible in the other direction.

no photo
Sun 12/14/08 06:37 AM
Girl! Can't you see he have a wife?You are wasting your time. Any other man would say: YES Baby come to me!

no photo
Sun 12/14/08 06:53 AM
he's married or he lied to you he maybe an old man cripple and lied like alot on here i'd dumped him fast bets he's like 80 years old and married

PrincessPeaches's photo
Sun 12/14/08 07:10 AM
D*mn*t are you all serious.........he says he's just shy and wants to take it slow......I must really be silly

bad_girl's photo
Sun 12/14/08 07:14 AM
He is either married, has a live-in or just isn't interested enough to meet. You need to have a heart-to-heart with him.

imsingle951's photo
Sun 12/14/08 07:26 AM

he's married or he lied to you he maybe an old man cripple and lied like alot on here i'd dumped him fast bets he's like 80 years old and married
laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

Cutiepieforyou's photo
Sun 12/14/08 07:29 AM
Sounds like he is hiding something from you.

Ruth34611's photo
Sun 12/14/08 07:29 AM

He is either married, has a live-in or just isn't interested enough to meet. You need to have a heart-to-heart with him.


Yes, I'm sorry to say this is probably true. :cry:

njmom05's photo
Sun 12/14/08 07:29 AM

D*mn*t are you all serious.........he says he's just shy and wants to take it slow......I must really be silly

If he is that adamant(sp?) about you not meeting him, that is a HUGE problem. I agree with everyone, sounds like he's married and just looking for someone to fill a void in his life.

Ruth34611's photo
Sun 12/14/08 07:32 AM

D*mn*t are you all serious.........he says he's just shy and wants to take it slow......I must really be silly


You're not silly. flowerforyou I'ts just easier to be objective and see these things when you are not the one involved. That's what friends are for. happy

PrincessPeaches's photo
Sun 12/14/08 05:28 PM
I can see where it could be that he is yanking my chain I guess I just wanted to give him the benifit of the doubt. He say's all the right things and sounds so honest when he does.......

ohwell I guess you live and learn right.....time to have a talk with him and see if I can resolve anything

7z3r05's photo
Sun 12/14/08 05:29 PM

I need some advice here........So here's my problem,

I've been chatting with a great guy for a while now. He's wonderfull and seems to be very close to what I'm looking for in a potential partner. But we live miles apart, two totally diffrent states, I want to meet and he keeps avoiding it. We both have busy schedules, and limited transportation, but he just has no desire to me face to face. We always make time for long talkes or chat's online but when it comes down to it he always dodges around the fact that we have yet to meet. I've even offered to go to him and he says it's not a good time.

So the fact of the matter is I'm just looking for advice, Do I break it off or do I try to make this work as a long distance relationship?


my advice, stay out of ldrs.

Jhavez's photo
Sun 12/14/08 05:41 PM
Do you have his phone number? If you don't, ask him for it. If he is married or in a relationship, he won't give it to you. If he isn't involved with someone else, then more than likely he is not ready. You never know, maybe he just got out of an ugly relationship and is not ready to start a commitment. There is nothing wrong with waiting a little longer, as long as you know the truth about him.

Ruth34611's photo
Sun 12/14/08 06:45 PM

I can see where it could be that he is yanking my chain I guess I just wanted to give him the benifit of the doubt. He say's all the right things and sounds so honest when he does.......

ohwell I guess you live and learn right.....time to have a talk with him and see if I can resolve anything


Good luck to you. flowerforyou

Tanzkity's photo
Sun 12/14/08 06:47 PM

he's married!!!

Mos Def................laugh :wink:

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