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My ex fiancé cheated on me twice.....I caught him in the act the second time and then ....during a heated exchange about the cheating he confessed to the first cheating incident.
That was...oh...about a year ago. He called me 2 weeks ago and tried to make up. His story....he would never cheat on me during marriage. He was just ....I quote..."getting it out his system." My reply.....cheating during an engagement is the same thing as cheating during marriage. I won't tolerate it. If he cheated then he'll cheat when we're married. I'm not taking him back.....ever. I am curious if other men see this the way my ex does. Seriously men, do you think cheating during an engagement is not as bad as cheating during marriage? If a man cheats during an engagement isn't he just as likely to cheat during marriage? |
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if I agree with you...do I get a shot?
  Hi & welcome to the forums
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Cheating before, during and after marriage is WRONG!
I know this,,, my Fiance' would have my head and I don't mean the one on my shoulders, if I even thought that I would share myself with anyone else! And to drive this point home.... ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER! By the way, welcome to Mingle! |
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simply, cheating bad
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Edited by
Riding_Dubz
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Sun 12/14/08 02:51 PM
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Cheating, in any point in a realtionship,
is a deal breaker for me, |
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My ex fiancé cheated on me twice.....I caught him in the act the second time and then ....during a heated exchange about the cheating he confessed to the first cheating incident. That was...oh...about a year ago. He called me 2 weeks ago and tried to make up. His story....he would never cheat on me during marriage. He was just ....I quote..."getting it out his system." My reply.....cheating during an engagement is the same thing as cheating during marriage. I won't tolerate it. If he cheated then he'll cheat when we're married. I'm not taking him back.....ever. I am curious if other men see this the way my ex does. Seriously men, do you think cheating during an engagement is not as bad as cheating during marriage? If a man cheats during an engagement isn't he just as likely to cheat during marriage? Cheating is cheating
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Edited by
mikew1979
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Sun 12/14/08 02:56 PM
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My ex fiancé cheated on me twice.....I caught him in the act the second time and then ....during a heated exchange about the cheating he confessed to the first cheating incident. That was...oh...about a year ago. He called me 2 weeks ago and tried to make up. His story....he would never cheat on me during marriage. He was just ....I quote..."getting it out his system." My reply.....cheating during an engagement is the same thing as cheating during marriage. I won't tolerate it. If he cheated then he'll cheat when we're married. I'm not taking him back.....ever. I am curious if other men see this the way my ex does. Seriously men, do you think cheating during an engagement is not as bad as cheating during marriage? If a man cheats during an engagement isn't he just as likely to cheat during marriage? Yeah you are doing the right thing not taking him back. If you're attached to someone, you should be with that one person. |
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I'm not taking him back.....ever. I am curious if other men see this the way my ex does. I don't. It really doesn't matter what word you use to describe the relationship -- whether it's marriage, dating, whatever -- the only word that matters to me is "committed." If it's mutually understood that this is, in fact, a committed relationship, under whatever nomenclature you may decide to use, then cheating is cheating, period. I know people who see it differently. There was a time when I could have justified it to myself along those same lines. But not anymore. |
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 once a cheater always a cheater and a loser
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if a person wants to cheat, they're going to cheat. just ask any cheater who you're not involved with in a relationship about their habits.
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Other than a bit of a downer for a profile...I would have to say that if he cheated on you....he's an idiot.
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I would never and could never cheat in any point of a relationship,I feel bad to even think of hurting someone that way. The guys who do cheat, I find it easy to tell who they are and I believe most women can tell but are blinded by their personality which is what makes women fall for them and ignore the possibility that they are cheaters. You did the right thing.
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1st I want to say I'm sorry that you went through all that, 2nd people do make mistakes but only ONCE, after that it’s no longer a mistake it’s on purpose
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So everyone says cheating is cheating but ......I wonder....that's what my ex said once too. I'm beginning to think what men say and what men do is.....not the same. I'm sure this doesn't apply to all men...but many. Even my ex's guy friends think I should take him back. Ha! He didn't even confess until after I caught him. Hummm, I thought I'd hear more diversity of answers on an anonymous forum.
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So everyone says cheating is cheating but ......I wonder....that's what my ex said once too. I'm beginning to think what men say and what men do is.....not the same. I'm sure this doesn't apply to all men...but many. Even my ex's guy friends think I should take him back. Ha! He didn't even confess until after I caught him. Hummm, I thought I'd hear more diversity of answers on an anonymous forum. That should be an indicator that they guy you are dealing with is an anomaly and not the norm. The dude's friends saying that you should take him back...well...take that with a grain of salt. Obviously, they can see what an idiot he was/is and think that yo should give him another chance because he has them convinced ( or they are just trying to convince YOU ) that he is sincere. |
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Cheating is cheating
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cheating is cheating, If you want various women, do not commit to a relationship.
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((((( merle ))))) that's funny, we posted almost the same thing
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First of all I am sorry for you pain and the feelings you must have went through. I caught my EX red handed in the act so to speak. I left the next day filed for divorce the day after. Have I forgiven him sure have I forgotten it nope and won't either. I define cheating a bit different than most.
I define "Cheating" as anything I would feel uncomfortable doing, saying or acting in front of my partner. Period so I can keep it real simple in my life. I will admit I cheated once on a boyfriend I didn't realize that I was in an exclusive relationship. It has taken me a long long time to forgive myself. So I have to say once a cheater is not always a cheater. I'm sure this doesn't apply to all men... I have to say in defense of men. Cheating is NOT GENDER BIAS both sexes do it and in my book there is no excuse for cheating. |
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cheating should never happen no matter how long you have been together or where you relationship is
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