So come on people what do you think sex on 1st date good or bad ? should a guy refuse it to show he is after more than a one night stand or should you just go and have a good night and see how it ends up?

I HAD A FIRST DATE THAT LASTED 10 DAYS


IT DEPENDS ON THE TWO THAT ARE DATING

Sometimes sex on the first date is great, it helps things move along much quicker and a lot less awkward, but if you want more than a good night you should hold out.

exactly

yeah i know it helps but if the bloke makes first move it looks bad and if he doesnt the girl thinks he is not interested we cant win

I had a six year relationship with my ex... we had sex on the 2nd date. So maybe wait another day.

Good queston, I've been wondering the same thing. Being a single mom, finding time to date is hard. But when the opportunity arises, i love to go out and meet new people. One of my biggest area of conserns is STD's, you never really know someone, no matter how long you've talked to them.

this is true and even though i dont have kids for some reason when i do go out i seem to attract slappers for example my last girl she phoned me up boxing day and said she had a good chrstmas and liked my present but shewent to a family party and met a guy and had sex with him and he stayed over and she is going to see him again but she still wants to see me i was like yea i think not !!

Well....I think......BAD!! I wouldn't... I've refused it before

yeah surely a girl would think this guys got respect for me if he dont wanna ust jump in bed but the one time i refused the girl thought i didnt like her and wouldnt reply to any texts etc

I would think it would depend upon where the two individuals are in their lives or on any particular day. Sometimes people just want that physical, sexual need tended regardless of whether or not there is a longer relationship to be involved.

My opinion is to wait. About half way through the date, tell her you are having a great time and would like to go out again. Then she'll know you are interested. It will help take the guess work out about sex. I totaly have respect for a guy who wants more than sex.

sounds like maybe a communication issue. I'll tell a date it's not happening, bc I ain't a ho..lol If a guy likes me, he'll ask me out again, if not, cest la vie....

Just do what feels right at the time. It's going to be different for everyone.

Every date and every two people are very individualistic. It's impossible to know afore hand how the new "two" will get on.You have to play it by ear and, see how well you connect. Sometime's, you meet a person on who's vibe's you mesh with. You're relaxed, no red flag's instincually or, otherwise.

I personally won't do it, I don't judge others for it. I want to know the person I am sharing my body with. I also will not be exchanging body fluids without a complete STD test. I also don't think it is a great idea since there is so many threads out on the different site about I slept with him and now he won't call me.


I think this is a personal choice. I know my son told a girl when she wanted to jump into bed on the first date. How many others have you done this with. I know my boys want a woman that respects herself before he does.

no you wait,if she a nice lady she'll respect you even more,and that will show her what kind of man you are.

If there is a connection...then it is worth waiting. Think each person will respect the other more. Don't condemn anyone who chooses otherwise though.

Sex on the first date would set one up for a one night stand. If one is willing to take that risk, to each their own.

Completely agree with you. I have experienced bad things from both. You really have to find out where the other person is and what their motives are first.