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My ex-wife and I split up around spring time after a couple of months I started seeing another woman who just got out of a serious relationship as well I was attracted to her from the very first time we met. At first things were great but then I noticed after one month together that my confidence and self-esteem were not fully recovered from my broken marriage and that’s when things started to go downhill we dated for a couple of months and then broke up. She claimed it was the drama which she said that she wants to go through that with me and that she loved me I understood because I have a son that pretty much stays with me most of the time his mother always had apparently something going that she couldn’t keep him for more than a day or two which she still does to this day. His mother would bother me everyday and even broke into my house one night because she was pissed that I have moved on and she didn’t even though she was the one that left me and how she apparently still loved me. I guess that would scare anyone away maybe that was my ex-wife’s plan to break us up but now that I broke up with my girlfriend and my ex-wife is living with some other guy she doesn’t bother me anymore. Was it too early to date someone else. it has been a few months since we broke up and we haven’t even talked to each other since the break up mainly because we didn’t want things to be awkward between us. There are several things I’m omitting but through the responses I will fill in the blank.
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 Brace for impact
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it sounds to me like she didn't want you to be happy until she was. i think you were ready to move on but she wasn't ready to let you
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Edited by
Shagwell
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Sat 01/17/09 12:05 PM
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women are sexy evil doers!
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It seems that maybe you did jump into it a little to soon. But that happens alot. You get lonely and feel the need to have someone around to help you recover. AKA rebound.
As far as your ex, she was just still miserable so she was going to keep you miserable as well. This is typical. I've seen this alot. My brother is going thru the same thing with his ex. She even flat out told him she isn't happy so she won't let him be either. Even tho she left you, she prob still blames you for "forcing her to leave you". So even tho she left, it's still your fault. Do you want to get into contact with your ex gf? Or just move on and try to date someone else? |
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I would like to get in contact with her again we meshed really well together but that's for me. when it comes to my son I don't think that she is ready for a responsibility that big in her life just yet that is probably why I will just move on regardless of how I feel towards her, my sons well being and happiness come first for me you know.
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Thank you for your reply
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It sounds as if you've already made a decision - to do what's best for your son and move on.
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My ex-wife and I split up around spring time after a couple of months I started seeing another woman who just got out of a serious relationship as well I was attracted to her from the very first time we met. At first things were great but then I noticed after one month together that my confidence and self-esteem were not fully recovered from my broken marriage and that’s when things started to go downhill we dated for a couple of months and then broke up. She claimed it was the drama which she said that she wants to go through that with me and that she loved me I understood because I have a son that pretty much stays with me most of the time his mother always had apparently something going that she couldn’t keep him for more than a day or two which she still does to this day. His mother would bother me everyday and even broke into my house one night because she was pissed that I have moved on and she didn’t even though she was the one that left me and how she apparently still loved me. I guess that would scare anyone away maybe that was my ex-wife’s plan to break us up but now that I broke up with my girlfriend and my ex-wife is living with some other guy she doesn’t bother me anymore. Was it too early to date someone else. it has been a few months since we broke up and we haven’t even talked to each other since the break up mainly because we didn’t want things to be awkward between us. There are several things I’m omitting but through the responses I will fill in the blank.  Hope it works out for you
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Edited by
Krimsa
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Sat 01/17/09 12:18 PM
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I would like to get in contact with her again we meshed really well together but that's for me. when it comes to my son I don't think that she is ready for a responsibility that big in her life just yet that is probably why I will just move on regardless of how I feel towards her, my sons well being and happiness come first for me you know. I think Jill gave you some really good advice and she seems to have a handle on the emotional issues at play here. I think I can honestly speak for your ex girlfriend that this is too much drama. If I was in her place (in fact I have been) I would have left also. I could not deal with crazy ex spouses behaving so atrociously. Also, if she is not ready to be a parent, and you are a package deal, that needs to be considered also for the sake of the child involved here. It might be best to start fresh with a new lady who might be better capable of handling the responsibility of your son. What do you think? |
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I would give her a call. It sounds like you may have had something, just too much drama at the time. Couldn't hurt, even if it is just to say hi.
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Brace for impact Damn! this guy is good! 
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women are sexy evil doers! define "evil" 
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women are sexy evil doers! define "evil" according to dictionary.com #7 evil : the force in nature that governs and gives rise to wickedness and sin. |
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women are sexy evil doers! define "evil" according to dictionary.com #7 evil : the force in nature that governs and gives rise to wickedness and sin. I agree with your analysis and definition. 
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I would like to get in contact with her again we meshed really well together but that's for me. when it comes to my son I don't think that she is ready for a responsibility that big in her life just yet that is probably why I will just move on regardless of how I feel towards her, my sons well being and happiness come first for me you know. You will meet someone that wants you both
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It's very difficult... I know
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you are correct it is not easy but I am sure that with time things will get better and someone will come along unexpectedly for the both of us.
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It is probably true that I might need to start fresh but as for now all I see is my son and family who has been helping me through everything so far. Thank you for your input
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Take the time to own your part... in your marriage, in the relationship after....
take the time to know you. No one can strip away self esteem or confidence, except yourself. I would address those things first. Own your sh*te, before even considering a romantic intimate relationship with another. |
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