Hey! I wanna be skins!

then I'll be shirts

I rarely contact anyone first. Most of the time I am the person being contacted.

Maybe...but I bet if folks were honest, they'd admit they don't contact folks because they think they're just a tad better/above them.

I have been in the laid back league for some time but find myself having to get up at times. I can remember one time I was too laid back and fell back off my rocker. It startled me.

Well...la-de-da!!

LOL!!

Awwwee....Have a cookie.....




Feel better?!

Thanks. I love cookies. Cookie monster is one of my heroes.

Cookie monster's a cool dude...definitely in a league of his own!

Ok, now I see better what you're getting at.

People do make judgements. And so do you. You look at someone and you read what they wrote and you read their profile and you decide whether you think you have anything in common with them. Maybe some people have the thought that they are 'better' but I think most are really just assessing commonality.

This is also a dating site, so people that would normally feel comfortable just chatting or being sociable are now a little defensive and worried that they are giving a signal that they want to 'date'. So rather than have to deal with that complication, some will just not reply.

i don't think that anybody is better than me

but i think a lot of people think that they are better than me!

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I don't believe people are in "leagues" of dateability. I read thier posting history & if it shows evidence that they think like that then I am not interested. I watch for how they interact with others; how they deal with trolls & the cliques; references to exs, drinking, drugs and other issues. The pictures & profile can be pretty packaging, I want to know what's really inside.

Oh, wow! You like cookie Monster. That is so cool! I love cows, too. I like the way cookies and milk go together. I like to dunk cookies in milk. do you have a favorite cookie? The soft ewwy gooey kinds are my favorite. I am not kncking Oreos though because they do have their place.

Well, I guess this is more to the point.

I do not discriminate. I love all cookies!!

haha but those are the people you DON'T want to contact.

who wants to make friends with someone who presents themselves as better than another? smarter? wealthier? prettier?

i'd rather hang out with the down-to-earth folk anyway.

I see your point. You're right, I have made the judgment that some folks do not respond because they think they are better than me.

Being an Arrogant Narcissistic Conceited Jerk, I refuse to recognize "leagues" (and several somewhat nauseating shades of purple) --

I do occasionally get e-mails from people on the site saying things like "My friend So-and-so thinks you're interesting but she is afraid to tell you because she thinks your writing is intimidating."

I wouldn't know what to say to anyone who was intimidated by mere words anyway. Just because I know where apostrophes go doesn't mean you're not worthy of talking to me!

(Or does it....? Hmmmm....)

Folks already know for me, it's not a matter of writing skills, but rather the words themselves... attitude.

whats with this leaugue thing.. either people like me and I them or they don't or I don't I don't think someone is better then me. Or that I am better then them... acceptance of all, I say let their actions speak for themselves and define who they are....