Humm I'm with Buttons here why would you come online state your divorced
and on top of that say your looking for a woman and even give out your
e-mail address?

As far as your hummmmm Wife you say you have on the post and having an
affair. Well no one can make that decesion for you. That is something
you and your wife must decide on. MY self caught my ex having an affair
and that is why I call him my ex. I have no respect or trust with anyone
that cheats when they are in a relationship with me. No Way Jose!

And last, just from your profile and then your question in here if it
was only now 6 days ago this happen and you have been on this site since
Aug of o6. Well all I can say is there is something that smells rotton
in Denmark.

Regardless of what is happening between you and your wife, I'm still a
true believer there is two sides to every story. And for some reason I
can almost bet your wife might have a differnt story than you do.


Anywho, hope that things work out the way you want them too.

Get over it, and then dump her. That's what I'd do. Part of my life
philosophy is to never take an action in anger. So a lot of things, I
decide ahead of time. "What would piss me off, and what should I do if
it happens"- that way my decissions are made whilst completely cool and
unemotional


And if anyone cheats on me it's over, right then and there.


But, of course, it's your choice. That's just me.

But the ladies have a point- you're the one with the "dating", or at
least "dateable", profile. Sounds like she's not the only one straying.
But again, could be wrong.

Sorry this happened to you. This is only my opinion that comes from my
own personal experience. Picture your marraige as a perfect crystal
egg; flawless and pure. Adultery takes its toll on a marraiges strength
the way dropping this egg on concrete would affect its integrity. This
egg is now cracked. It will never be the same. It will never be pure
and flawless again. It will no longer be as strong as it once was, nor
as beautiful as it once was. No matter how hard you try to overlook the
crack, it will always be there, reminding you that your spouse didnt
care enough to cherish it and keep it safe from imperfections. As time
goes by, dirt builds up in that crack and slowly but surely it begins to
look more and more ugly to you. There is always the possibility that
the egg will be dropped again by those same hands that didnt care enough
about it to hold it high and protect it in the first place. Those same
selfish hands that didnt love it the way they promised to the day you
were wed. Even if those hands dont drop it again, the dirt will push
its way deeper into that crack, causing it to widen...become
uglier...less special...the strength weakens even more. The clarity
becomes foggy and less clear. Now, even if you still love this egg,
still cannot let go of the image of how perfect it once was, and you
manage to hold the egg together, keeping it from splitting further
apart, it will never be the object of beauty and purity it once was.
You will begin to question why in the hell you are the only one who
cares about this imperfect egg. Unless your wife was given the date
rape drug or got drunk, I mean really **** faced drunk for the first
time and had no recollection of anything she did, you have to understand
that her actions were 100% pre-meditated. She had hours and hours, days
and days, weeks and weeks, maybe even more, to contemplate her actions.
And guess what? She did what she did anyways. With no regard for you,
your marraige, your life together, your children, your health and
well-being (AIDS, STD, mental)...she did what she did in spite of all
those factors. Do you think she thought of repercussions of her
actions? Of course she did...and she didnt care. She threw that egg on
the ground in spite of everything. And now that its cracked, she wont
take care to hold it with love and admiration. Soon she will begin to
resent that egg and everything it stood for. Because now its crack has
become a gouge that reminds her daily of her mistake. The harder you
fight to keep that egg from splitting up the middle, the more she will
pull away. Not wanting to accept her responsibility for ruining the
egg. She may even blame you for her actions.
I was in a loveless marraige. My husband never touched me, slept with
me, kissed me, had anything nice to say, but I never ever cheated on
him. I could have, but I didn't. I finally gave him an
ultimatum...screw me, love me and be my husband in every way or I wanted
a divorce. He looked me in the eye and told me he had no interest in
me. I divorced him. But never once did I consider cheating on him.
That is the ultimate act of disrespect. It robs a man of his self
esteem, pride and ability to trust. Not every woman is like me. But I
believe it is better to end a marraige, after doing everything in your
power to make it work, than to cheat on a spouse. I have been in your
shoes and I could have been in hers. I like being in mine...at least
now I like being in mine.
Good luck. And remember, the fear of the unknown should not be what
keeps you with your wife. Life is messy. Your hurt has only begun.
Soon it will turn to anger, hatred, spite, contempt, pity,
self-deprecation, guilt and a managerie of other feelings before you
begin hating yourself for staying with her. Afterall, why would you
want to be with a woman who doesnt want to be with you? You, my friend,
whether or not you want to believe it, deserve better. I hope you
realize that and I hope you get it. Again, good luck.

thank him & slip him a twenty

i can tell you what i did on finding someone i was engaged too cheating.

she worked nights, she went to work and i spent the night moveing the
hell out.

i figure you cheat your gone no second chances

I'm sorry to hear that.

It would be up to you what to do next.

I think YOU need to think what YOU want... cause I agree 100% with the
TXSGAL lady. Why are you here when your married with a profile that is
saying...."Come get me I am available"???

I believe that she may have reasons for cheating.... you should never
blame anyone for something YOU did.

T