Many times, I've seen lots of complaints from people about profiles of others who say they're single, but in fact turn out to be married. I want to address this from the different slant that I haven't seen anybody talk about.

I am going to address this towards women in general, simply because I've never known a man to do it.

Turning it around, I'm curious to know the reason women will put 'married' on their profiles, when they're very much single. The most common answer I've received about this is that they do it to (supposedly) "help keep the freako's away". Kinda like a single woman going out wearing a diamond ring. Wouldn't that be considered just as much of a lie as saying they're single when they're really married? I would think so.

Sorry if this comes across as "cynical", because that's apparently a bad character trait....or so I've been told....

I don't expect this thread to go very far, because they generally don't in this area of the forum. New threads are constantly replacing the old, and threads get buried quite easily here.

People do what they need to get by, in life.

Totally understand the ring thing, easy way to feel safe. They are just wearing jewelry for other's to assume what they want.

Married saying single, is a deliberate stated lie, to enable the lier to get something over on other people.

Big difference, INTENT!

INTENDED harm versus INTENDED lack of contact.

Two entirely differant things, to me.

Lying is never a good thing.

I would think that such persons must be doing it to protect themselves.? Can't see it as being anything but problematic, as it is founded in a lie. That never works, no matter the intention.

If the thinking is that one only wants friends in the forum, the roots of the relationship start in a lie. Fraught w/ a ball of yarn effect, hard to unravel later.

If the person is seeking a relationship, only those "wanting to mess around w/ someone taken need" apply. Then, the attracted partner would, likely, be emotionally unavailable and also dishonest.

Sullied beginning would lead to a muddy dead-end, yeah? I don't get it, but trying to wonder myself - why? Sounds a bit twisted, and not in a good way. Never knew...

um....if you are in fact single..I would think it would be more of a detriment to put married on your profile when looking for a relationship...yes nobody wants a "freako" harassing them...but then they will also have the same number of "freako" addressing them if they are married....



besides, how do you later confront a potential relationship possibility by saying yeah I'm really not married, IMO that would probably end the relationship, before it got started

But that's what I'm saying. It's a two-way street, and both lead to the wrong destination.

If you put 'married', but you're single, you're in deep sh!t.
If you put 'single', but you're married, you're REALLY in deep sh!t.

Either way, it's a recipe for disaster, so why do it? They're both deceptive, they're both a lie, and they'll both ultimately end up with the same result.

what ever you want to call it,both cases are called deceiving.but what can i say women do things to avoid "freako's"but then i wonder if the women themselves don't fall into this catergory when they do things to be deceptive?just sayin

It is challenging enough to try to find someone online, a relationship that begins with lies is destined to fail.

EVERYBODY lies in one way or another it's the way of the world be seeing you

Just because people do it, doesn't mean it's a good thing. And relationships based on lies? How's that going to go?

okay women who wear wedding rings and have no actual prospects of impending marriage(i.e. someone with whom they are very serious) are not only idiots, because they probably won't attract the kind of guy they want......
but I would consider them a little crazy, they want the ring, the dress, and the title before they find the person.....and most people on here know that without the right person all that other stuff is crap.


she's probably the same girl that will max out all your credit cards and then open up a new one in your name and not be able to explain where all that money went

The only exception to wearing a ring, pretending to be married, happened to me in Turkey. We were 3 women living together and just couldn't keep the Turkish men off of us, no matter what we said or did.

They would even follow us into their mosques and continue being horribly sexually inappropriate there. It seemed that being western females was perceived as an open invitation. One of us would even dress as if pregnant for protection.

So there, it truly was survivalist protection. Here online, as stated I don't get it - and gave my hunches. Seems idiotic if done for anything but last resort protectionism.

okay now THAT I understand, but you weren't looking for any kind of relationship......and so for ya'll it really was to keep the "freakos" away.

Hmmm, there might be a suggestion for men in there....dress as though you're pregnant to keep the freako women away....

REAL Freakos. Oh, the stories That I could tell. Freakos is not even nearly extreme enough a label.

To their defense, they were being raised in an extremely oppressive edict that they couldn't have sex before marriage. Couldn't propose UNTIL they had built there own home, though the economy couldn't support the notion. They were "venting"(?) and we were the easy target.

Still, we learned to cope, LOVED that country and people.

First off I totally agree with you.

It's lying .. pure and simple.

Secondly, it's not cynical. It's calling someone out on their sh*t .. and to that I say 'good job'

Good try on the cynical though.

Thirdly, I wrote an explanation to you in the real cynical thread .. lol

I wish you'd read it ..


Your sarcastic humor approach is truly appreciated Mistaaaaaaaah Keith and I will be the first one to admit that.

Just sayin

as woman wearing a ring. what about the men. my daughter dad way before i had met him he got married and then divorced... he stated he wore his wedding ring while he was out to keep this one lady from bothering him. he didnt wear it after that. only that time to avoid that lady

Maybe we could just have a status like: "Single and Armed"? That might work.

Good one, SS! I'll just change my profile now...

"single with 45magnum,go ahead make my day"