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Topic: Never be the first...
Winx's photo
Fri 02/06/09 12:06 PM
My grandfather's first wife died. He then married a widow. She died after they had been married for about 15 years. Then he married another widow.

All of his marriages were wonderful situations.

RKISIT's photo
Fri 02/06/09 12:07 PM

Never be the first person a guy dates when he is ready to rejoin the dating pool after being widowed.

You may fall in love with him, but you're just a practice run for him.

I can't believe that 9 months after he dumped me, it hurts to hear that he is no longer single. Dang, I fell hard. Thought I was totally over him too. Maybe not as much as I thought.
flowerforyou

Winx's photo
Fri 02/06/09 12:13 PM

Never be the first person a guy dates when he is ready to rejoin the dating pool after being widowed.

You may fall in love with him, but you're just a practice run for him.

I can't believe that 9 months after he dumped me, it hurts to hear that he is no longer single. Dang, I fell hard. Thought I was totally over him too. Maybe not as much as I thought.


Sometimes the healing takes longer then we would like it to take.flowerforyou

7z3r05's photo
Fri 02/06/09 12:14 PM

Never be the first person a guy dates when he is ready to rejoin the dating pool after being widowed.

You may fall in love with him, but you're just a practice run for him.

I can't believe that 9 months after he dumped me, it hurts to hear that he is no longer single. Dang, I fell hard. Thought I was totally over him too. Maybe not as much as I thought.


oh dear christ. nooooooooo bueno.

TBRich's photo
Fri 02/06/09 12:16 PM
Can loving someone be wrong? It may be unhealthy, but do we blame ourselves?

carolanne58's photo
Fri 02/06/09 12:26 PM
I think some people rush back in to dating thinking it will relieve some of the loneliness.It has been 12 yrs for me and thinking back on it, that first couple of years I was in no shape to give my heart to another.Today I still miss my partner but am ready to love again. I am patient enough to wait for it to happen or make it happen. My aunt lost her husband of 50 yrs and is now married again I am happy that she found love a second time around at 73.

carolanne58's photo
Fri 02/06/09 12:34 PM

Can loving someone be wrong? It may be unhealthy, but do we blame ourselves?

Not sure I understand what you mean? So correct me if I am wrong.
How can loving someone after they are gone be wrong.If your child died would you stop loving them? Blame ourselves for what? Still being here? not doing enough?I think It is human nature to blame ourselves no matter what.It is coming to terms with those feelings that are the hard part.

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