Topic: He or She is just not that into you - or are they?
MelodyGirl's photo
Sat 02/07/09 02:57 PM
Edited by MelodyGirl on Sat 02/07/09 03:01 PM
How well do you read body language on a date? How well do you communicate through body language on a date?

I'm a flirt and very touchy-feely if the person is receptive. I love people and I flirt with waitresses, the elderly couple grocery shopping, or the bank teller.

If I'm on a first date and I find there is no chemistry, my body language and flirtatious nature can send mixed signals. I don't mean to lead my date on, but I also don't think the remainder of the date should be miserable just because we are not hitting it off. I still want to laugh, be silly, and have a good time. I often find myself modifying my actions in order to keep from sending the wrong signals. For example, whether I'm with a friend or not, I will put my hand on that person's thigh and giggle if something is funny.

I thought this list was interesting (not created by me). Does anyone have their own style?

Melody :heart:

Positive Body Language:
1 - Notice whether your date exhibits good yet relaxed posture. A slouched date probably isn't having a good time. A date who's sitting up is being attentive.

2 - Observe whether your date makes good eye contact. If your date keeps looking into your eyes, you've got it made.

3 - Is your date leaning forward? Then you aren't a complete stranger anymore.

4 - Be aware of any physical contact. Holding hands is a great sign.

5 - Notice if your date has his or her palms up, which indicates a friendly warmth.

6 - Know that your date is listening to you if he or she nods during conversation; this indicates your words are being heard.

7 - Pay attention to whether your date is in sync with you and constantly reflecting your behavior. Does she shift in her seat when you do? Does he pick up your speed and tone when he's speaking? Are you both breathing at the same rate? This occurs unconsciously and indicates a good rhythm between you - it's not just a copycat game.

Negative Body Language:
1 - Take note if your date's arms are crossed. This suggests there's a wall between the two of you.

2 - Beware if your date is yawning. This is a bad sign - unless it's because your date was up all night thinking about you.

3 - Clue in if your date is nodding too much during the conversation, it means you're talking to the same wall that was created by the crossed arms.

4 - Is your date looking at everything but you? Be worried.

5 - Notice if your date is keeping some distance between you. Personal space is one thing, but if your date is not standing next to you, that's a bad sign.

SOURCE: How to Read Your Date's Body Language, by eHow Relationships & Family Editor

Etrain's photo
Sat 02/07/09 03:01 PM
Those are all very helpful...now if I could just...get a datefrustrated frustrated frustrated

no photo
Sat 02/07/09 03:22 PM
There are a lot more natural signs to look for. All it requires is to pay attention. Some are very obvious some not so...hands to the face depends if its around the mouth / nose area.. Sometimes we are so caught up in other things we just don't pay close attention. there is the big clue for you.bigsmile

RKISIT's photo
Sat 02/07/09 04:35 PM
nice tattoo of the egyptian ahnk:smile:

seahawks's photo
Sat 02/07/09 04:38 PM
i would love to read yur body language.!laugh :tongue: :tongue: :wink: flowerforyou

no photo
Sat 02/07/09 04:47 PM
Of course, that all goes out of the window when dealing with the wimmins, as they make up their own set of rules and other malarkey. :laughing:

MelodyGirl's photo
Sat 02/07/09 04:53 PM

nice tattoo of the egyptian ahnk:smile:


Hi happy

Thank you! I need to finish the entire fresco. I want to add falling pieces of the ankh -- mosaic style -- into the piece below so the story is complete.

The tattoo below is my spiritual ideology which encompasses the four elements, the zodiac and metaphysics. Not surprisingly, that mirrors the Egyptian symbol for alchemy. I have that symbol tattooed on my left wrist, and the 8 Points of Chaos on my right wrist.

Ooh, I'm impassioned by my body art blushing

Melody :heart:

MelodyGirl's photo
Sat 02/07/09 04:53 PM

i would love to read yur body language.!laugh :tongue: :tongue: :wink: flowerforyou


Thank you happy

MelodyGirl's photo
Sat 02/07/09 04:54 PM

Of course, that all goes out of the window when dealing with the wimmins, as they make up their own set of rules and other malarkey. :laughing:


Yeaaa, dim wimmins can be a real pain in the arse! frustrated

seahawks's photo
Sat 02/07/09 04:55 PM


i would love to read yur body language.!laugh :tongue: :tongue: :wink: flowerforyou


Thank you happy
:wink: flowerforyou

s1owhand's photo
Sat 02/07/09 05:20 PM
i notice and i will touch as well under the right circumstances...
eye lanterns glow like colored gunpowders