When selecting a partner, does it matter to you if the guy is sucessful or not ? Would you be happy with a guy on a fixed income, as long as he had a good heart, and was responsible, or do you only go for the lower middle class up sucessful types that own their own homes and such ?

Personally, if he is kind, loving, has integrity and is a good man, I don't care. I

This is how I look at it...

As long as he can pay for what he is responsible for, then that's good enough for me. I don't want Daddy Warbucks and I certainly don't want a moocher.

it doesnt matter to me if there rich or poor, as long as they treat me right and accept me and my family, and have a awsome heart and soul...

my guy isent rich but he treats me with respect and thats all what matters

As long as he could support me and my children it wouldn't matter

Im not gonna talk to anymore ghetto girls

I think this is a good question and I am keenly interested in what women think. If I may, I would like to build on the question and offer a different perspective of the question. For those who choose to answer the adjusted question - who would you rather select, a partner that has a lot of money and an average personality or a partner that doesn't have a lot of money and a great personality.

Roco

Amen, Sister!

ps. also, if he is divorced - alimony and child support he is responsible must be current.

Well honest as long as they have a job or some means of income to support themselves and there spending habits are not beyond their means. This is more important to me then how much or how little they make. When one catches my attention it is not due to the amount of material things he has but how he takes care of what he does have.

I'm not one that bases ones worth on how much they spend for the things they buy. But in fact I look at how they take care of what they have does not matter if it was bought at Dillard's or bought at a thrift store.

But they must at least have some sort of income in order to take care of their own needs. And not be taking advantage of someone else or expecting someone else to in fact support them.

Not sure if it's what you were looking for Roco, but I'm sticking with my previous answer.

So far, the general consencius seems to be that the heart is more important than the bank account. I think we have some smart ladies here.

Oh sure, sticking to your answer from the previous question makes sense. However, what if he can't pay for what he is responsible for but has a great personality. What if Daddy WArbucks doesn't have the worst of personalities, but an okay personality. Would you still prefer the Daddy Smallbucks over Daddy Warbucks.

Roco

EXACTLY!!!!! money isent everything... it what counts on the inside of the person.. and if there attitude stinks then they dont get anywhere with the other..

Indeed, there are smart ladies here. There doesn't appear to be a male response to the question other than my own, and my response isn't really a response. So here's my response - personality and money doesn't even fit into the equation when I make a selection. Good looks does. What can I say, I'm a dog ...woof woof.

Roco

If he can't pay for his own responsibilities, then he's not going to be in the picture, regardless of how great of a personality he has. As for the Daddy Warbucks type, if he has a great personality, then yeah, I might be willing to give him a chance, but I kind of doubt it. I honestly just can't see myself with that type of person. But then again, I've never been approached by that type so I just really don't know.