The top 10 reasons Not to Tell that You Cheated.


1. Because relationships cannot go backward…even if there is a “forgive” there will never be a “forget” and she will always be burdened with doubt about you.

2. Because she doesn’t want to know…regardless of popular theory, because if she knows all about you then her feelings for you change. You’re supposed to help make her dreams come true, even if just to let her live her dream. If she believes that you’re a better man than you know you are, start living up to her belief in you.

3. Because it is selfish…and unburdening your nasty soul and make her suffer, too, since you are not man enough to suffer in silence.

4. Because you care about her…and your only chance to prove it is to change the future, and to bury the past in silence.

5. Because she will leave…and take everything that you love about life away with her.

6. Because she will get revenge…and she can ruin the rest of your life…because it is her responsibility to ensure that nobody ever risks trusting you again.

7. Because she already beat you to it…and was better at it, and made certain that if you mess with her, you will lose horribly.

8. Because it gives her a card…which will trump anything. You will never win another dispute with her, unless she decides to let you win…for now.

9. Because the other woman didn’t mean anything…and you knew it when it happened.

10. She won’t find out…and doesn’t need to be hurt by you opening your mouth.

Wow.. these are true. But it's best not to cheat in the first place because not only are you hurting the person you love but you also hurt yourself because if you are a decent person you will mentally beat yourself up forever...

So this means that being truthful about something like that isn't the right thing to do????

lolol......to funny....

Would rather know and move on....not telling is cheating him/her out of a true relationship

"If I Did It" by O.J. Simpson

I find it rather disturbing that this "list" is directed solely at men. Women are just as capable of committing these offenses (hey, equal rights, right?).

It's just as disturbing watching those TV cop shows, and the person who commits the crime is always referred to as male. "We're gonna get this guy," or, "We have to find him before he does it again," or some other such nonsense.

You are correct...in a "politically correct society" they should say person or individual he/him

Cheating is acceptable these days, get with the program!!

Cheating is not inevitable, but it is so frequently true that this list was made to address the issue of "What next?"

I know men and women that cheated.
Is there a forum with such a clear "DO/DON'T" list for women who've cheated?

An excellent, insightful post
The same can go for women of course

so basicly its only men that cheat?

Nope. It's men that pay the price, literally and judicially, the most often.

We know that the responsibility for a woman cheating is often put under the heading of "...husband isn't sating my needs.." and the truth or falsity of the matter doesn't carry much weight in the legal system. She can cheat, and still rake in the house, kids, alimony, child support, etc. Not always, but often enough that it is a fact of life.

That's why I wondered if there is a "How To" manual for women who cheat, since the dynamics are quite different than for men.

Finally unsuspended.....whew.

Now.

Are you sure you don't want to retract at least some your OP?

Retract? That would be dishonest....since the list is not mine. It is from an online list (at AskMen.com, if I recall rightly), although I did some editing. (Yah...I cheated.)

PWN3D

Well see now....I thought this was something you personally wrote. So you're telling me I got all mad at you for nothing?

Not for nothing.
I could have told you where it came from. I invited responses to a touchy topic, and I got your honest response.

I agree - whether that means to move on with that person or without them.

Yes, your relationship will never be the same - but it can be stronger and better - if you work hard at it.

Keeping the secret if you really love and care for the person is just selfish and brings nothing but poison and harm to the relationship.

Then there is the issue of whether this was "a one time thing" or if the person has made a pattern of cheating on their partner in life. If they are a perpetual cheat - that adds a whole other dimension and is an entirely different ball of wax, wouldn't you say? It changes some of the arguments made in this list.