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Topic: My Father and My Ex
whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Thu 03/19/09 11:39 AM
Not a good combination in my eyes. My ex just e-mailed me telling me that my father whom I have not talked to in about 5 years was flying down to visit him. And my father wonders why he is no longer my dad and just a father. Well that is just ONE reason. I mean come on now. who the heck visits there daughters EX husband? Meh whatever.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 03/19/09 11:42 AM
Not a good combination in my eyes. My ex just e-mailed me telling me that my father whom I have not talked to in about 5 years was flying down to visit him. And my father wonders why he is no longer my dad and just a father. Well that is just ONE reason. I mean come on now. who the heck visits there daughters EX husband? Meh whatever. I dated a woman that I met on here that lived with her deceased husbands parents

beachbum069 Joined Mon 04/07/08 Posts: 14325	Thu 03/19/09 11:44 AM
My mom married my uncle.

whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Thu 03/19/09 11:45 AM
Not a good combination in my eyes. My ex just e-mailed me telling me that my father whom I have not talked to in about 5 years was flying down to visit him. And my father wonders why he is no longer my dad and just a father. Well that is just ONE reason. I mean come on now. who the heck visits there daughters EX husband? Meh whatever. I dated a woman that I met on here that lived with her deceased husbands parents Well see that I can sorta understand. But i do not think I can ever understand keeping communication with somebody your daughter left because of abuse.

whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Thu 03/19/09 11:47 AM
I mean is a father NOT supposed to be there for their child? To protect them and support them?

TattooedDude81 Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 1403	Thu 03/19/09 11:50 AM
I mean is a father NOT supposed to be there for their child? To protect them and support them? Agreed

mry Joined Thu 08/23/07 Posts: 8401	Thu 03/19/09 11:52 AM
I was married twice and my first husband still does lots of stuff for my parents...I think its kind of nice!

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 03/19/09 11:54 AM
I mean is a father NOT supposed to be there for their child? To protect them and support them? yes in a perfect world.....but I havent been in a perfect world yet!!

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Thu 03/19/09 11:55 AM
Not a good combination in my eyes. My ex just e-mailed me telling me that my father whom I have not talked to in about 5 years was flying down to visit him. And my father wonders why he is no longer my dad and just a father. Well that is just ONE reason. I mean come on now. who the heck visits there daughters EX husband? Meh whatever. Just seems like a sort of a betrayal to me....but then, you and I have discussed this a little bit in the past, and I have some idea of what both of them are like. And you deserve better in both instances.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 03/19/09 11:58 AM Edited by Gypsy41 on Thu 03/19/09 11:58 AM
You know this reminds me of my best friend who turned into an addict. She had her children taken away and her mother could have taken the child but was too busy going off to ARIZONA every 4 months!!! Instead the child was in foster care for 7 years!!!

whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Thu 03/19/09 12:12 PM
Thing is I do not even understand why it bothers me, or even why my decided it was a good idea to even tell me. It is more then the communication that they have. The list could go on why I do not talk to my father. I refuse to talk to my ex for obvious reasons. In my eyes I just can not see this situation as right.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 03/19/09 12:14 PM
Thing is I do not even understand why it bothers me, or even why my decided it was a good idea to even tell me. It is more then the communication that they have. The list could go on why I do not talk to my father. I refuse to talk to my ex for obvious reasons. In my eyes I just can not see this situation as right. The thing is we put too many expectations on our parents to be "perfect" but you and I both know........are we perfect???? They are just humans like you and I and everyone makes mistakes.

Jungian101 Joined Fri 02/27/09 Posts: 517	Thu 03/19/09 12:16 PM
Thing is I do not even understand why it bothers me, or even why my decided it was a good idea to even tell me. It is more then the communication that they have. The list could go on why I do not talk to my father. I refuse to talk to my ex for obvious reasons. In my eyes I just can not see this situation as right. Heard you loud and clear. My Mom use to talk to my ex and even give her money. It realy chapped my hide.

whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Thu 03/19/09 12:26 PM
Thing is I do not even understand why it bothers me, or even why my decided it was a good idea to even tell me. It is more then the communication that they have. The list could go on why I do not talk to my father. I refuse to talk to my ex for obvious reasons. In my eyes I just can not see this situation as right. The thing is we put too many expectations on our parents to be "perfect" but you and I both know........are we perfect???? They are just humans like you and I and everyone makes mistakes. I am not wanting perfection, just support, caring and understanding.