Just looking for a basic average that people have found themselves
doing. Should you forget about someone who takes days and days to
respond? What about if you write someone, they write back, you answer
them and then they never respond again. Should you give them a nudge?
Thanks, MJ

Whoops, heading should be, how often should you e-mail, not how do you.
Duh.

All a matter of choice. We forget how long regular mail took.
Write a letter & wait days for an answer. We all do have a life beyond
the computer. I have taken days to answer some & never answered, if I
chose to. Key word & action, CHOICE.

Hi rivergirl,

That's a good question. If someone writes to me, I try to write back
fairly quickly, within a few hours to a day or so, depending on how busy
I am offline. I think the response time probably varies depending on
how busy someone is with offline duties (job, kids, etc.) or how often
they check their mail. I don't see anything wrong with giving someone a
nudge if they haven't responded within a day or two, it may be because
they are busy and haven't had time to write or maybe they have a lot of
e mails and are answering them as best they can or maybe they are having
computer problems, etc., etc. Either way, if you write again, they'll
know you're still interested. If they don't respond after a few e mails
then they may have lost interest, but I wouldn't give up on someone too
soon if you're interested in maintaining contact with them. Just my 2
cents...

Best wishes from SheNerd :)

Oldsage has a good point, communication does take time, patience is
important.

SheNerd :)

I think if after a nudge doesn't work give it up..



pulling teeth just leads to more red flags then you had to begin
with.......

Right, it takes time. I don't want to give up on someone too quickly.
But on the other hand, the person *is* on a dating site and should
understand that you can't leave people hanging for weeks. I don't mean
when you write and get no response. That I understand. And one guy who I
wrote back and forth with quit writing me, but I saw that he was online
here and writing on the forums, so I guess he was not interested. I am
on my computer all day for work (and I work at home), so it is easy to
write someone back right away. It can be frustrating when you don't get
a response from someone who seemed to be interested in you. Goes with
the game, I know. Thanks, MJ

River girls comment reminds me of something. Is this a dating site or
a friends siate for you? I look at this as a place to meet friends &
pass time when home alone. Dating is not my expectation. Makes a
difference.

This is yet another excellent point. I, too, am on here just to meet
penpals/friends, which is clearly stated in my profile. You might want
to check with the other person to see that you're on the same page as
regards dating, friendships, relationships, etc..

Yes, I make sure we are on the same page in that regard.

Thats been a problem here before and MOST TRY too answer back
with-in a couple of days,,but some others might be a week,,and then some
who don't (for whatever reason) will NEVER answer you back..
Me im gone for four or five days a week, and it might take me a week to
get back to some,,and,,im not perfect and I have read an email,then
forgot to respond back to it,,lol my bad....
And if I feel they are JERKS, then I won't reply,,
But I always TRY to get back soon to ALL!!

iam4u: Now see, you are one of the good guys!!!

give them time. Don t seem needy or email again and again saying why won
t you answer me, that pushes them further away.
Some people will check your profile and wait a day or 2 to respond.

I personally read the email, look at profile, re read email and respond.
I feel that way I know a little about the person and can make an
educated, honest and informed reply .

Well, yeah, I am not obnoxious about it. I was just looking for a
general rule so as to not give up on someone too quickly, and then
again, not hold out hope for someone who is not interested. My first
e-mail is generally a brief "hi," then if they check me out and write
back, I will be a little more personal, about their profile, etc.

I can take a clue, however!

Thanks Miss Rivers,,you are kind as well.

I figure if you write a message and don't get an answer, give it a
little time, day or so. If you're still interested and getting no
response, give it another shot. Still no response, I think you gotta
figure its going nowhere. But one thing, if you answer someone, try to
give some engaging kind of answer. I have gotten a an answer so short I
was completely baffled about how to respond. I'm still working on that
one after a few days.

If I don't hear back from someone who I've been hearing from regularly,
I might try back once, if nothing after that, keep looking. It does p***
me off when people do that. I can't stand to be ignored. I got over em
real quick the last time that happened to me. They aren't worth worrying
over.

philosopher: I've written nice introductory e-mails and gotten back,
"Hi." Geez, don't talk my arm off there!