If someone you didn't know very well came and patted / rubbed you on the back, how would you take it. In my case his mom was being difficult and the pat/rub was just his way of saying nice try. it made me feel weird though. Am i putting to much into this, or should I tell him to knock it off? he did this two different times. I don't find him attractive, or have any romantic feeling?

Any thoughts on this?

even if his intent was good, if it made you feel weird he needs to respect your personal space.

Personal boundaries are not to be taken lightly.
Plus, follow your gut.
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I'm a very lovey/huggy type of person, so a pat/rub on the back would not bother me...but if you find it uncomfortable but don't want to say anything, you could always "stiffen up" if he does it again...most people are pretty good at reading body language even if it's only subconscious... If you want to verbalize it...I'd try to be gentle...it seems to me he was only giving you encouragement...

I have this problem with a coworker. He is an older gentleman and is very kind, and I like to carry on conversations with him, (he talks to everyone), but every now and then when he sees me, he'll come and put his hand on my shoulder. It does make me feel a little uneasy sometimes, but I don't want to make a mountain out of a molehill and get him in trouble so I haven't said anything about it. What makes it more difficult is he is disabled and somewhat mentally challenged. So I'm kind of torn between letting it go to avoid an uncomfortable situation, or saying something just so it will stop altogether.

It could be a pat on some other body part....

Hey, don't remind me. I've got everybody and their brother wanting to rub my belly. It's okay with some of the people, but with the ones I don't want doing it, I usually just say I'm not feeling well.

A pat on the ass, good job

Yeah, probably harmless, but if it made you uncomfortable you need to let him know not to touch ya !

I totally agree. Some people are just more huggy and touchy-feely than others. It all depends on how they were raised and they don't really think anything of it. It's just a friendly gesture to them and not necessarily sexual.

It depends on the circumstances. Normally, I don't like people that I don't know touching me and am pretty good at subtle evasion. But if an old friend (the only kind I have)pats my shoulder or something, I'm cool with that.

What does bother me is the people that shake your hand and try to grab your arm or shoulder and hold onto you. I think its a subconscious control mechanism on their part...so I resist.