Found out recently that I have herpes (HSV-2). Fairly certain that one is it anyway, going to get a proper diagnosis here in a few days more than likely. Told my "girlfriend", she took it pretty hard although I'm uncertain if I got it from her or had it all along and never showed symptoms. Pretty much well ended the relationship regardless of me willing to pay for her treatment and doctor appointment...anyway...is this really an end of the world type of illness? Seems an awful lot like it, although it further proved that love truly doesn't exist without pre-determined stipulations. Honestly I could care less anymore, I'm just going to buy a dog and live alone for the rest of my years anyway.

Just wondering if anyone has experience with how treatable this is, I know it isn't curable but is treatable with anti-biotics, is life going to be normal?

Slightly disgusted with how my "girlfriend" handled it, which is depressing (figure this to be the emotional side-effects of herpes, alienation and all)...any advice?

how did you figure out you got herpies

The symptoms match up, like I said I'm going to get a proper diagnosis here in a few days...but it is looking like herpes.

Fear,

Don't know a lot about this disease, but I am so sorry that your gf acted the way she did. It could just be that it knocked the wind out of her, so to speak. Sounds like both of you might need a little time to absorb the news and process it. I am hoping that once you two have had a little time to digest it, the feelings you have share will rise to the surface again and she will be there for you, and you for her.

It is not treatable with antibiotics but it is manageable with Valtrex and another that I cannot think of. I'm not sure how often you have to take it but I do believe you may have to take it on a daily basis to keep from having outbreaks. I know I have a couple of patients that have it and seems they have to take it everyday. good luck!

Just in case in the slim chance that you could be wrong and that you don't have herpes and find out it something minor that can be treated with antibiotics, what do you plan on telling your "girlfriend"?

Or would you tell her?

Sorry to hear about this, hopefully it's not. Like it was said earlier, maybe she was just temporarily overwhelmed by the news and possible implications, but she might rethink her choice once she has had time to process things.

Sorry about the herpes, if that is what you have, and like you said, you don't know that you didn't get it from her either. She may have it but has never shown symptoms or the symptoms were so mild she never noticed them.

Acyclovir is another antiviral that is used for herpes. I believe the antivirals are taken daily in most cases, but if the outbreaks are rare, you may be able to just take them during the outbreaks. I also believe they recommend condom usage to stop the spread of herpes, as I believe you can still spread it without being in an active outbreak.

But, don't assume anything until you get the information from your doctor. Good luck. Your girlfriend will need to be tested also, but I suspect she knows that too. Sorry she acted the way she did, hopefully, she will calm down after she thinks about things. Take care.

Its viral, antibiotics won't help it or cure it.
Daily antiviral treatment will help keep outbreaks, active blisters, sores, under control. You can spread this at any time as you can 'shed' the virus without having an outbreak. Condoms help control shedding but not completely. Your partners should be advised prior to any genital contact of any kind, yes this means oral or manual.
No, its not the end of the world.
But it will definitely mandate some behavior changes.
Good Luck.

http://www.cdc.gov/std/Herpes/default.htm

In that slight chance I would tell her, doubtful she will talk to me again...if need be I would send a text. I told her as soon as I was confident of what I had, and I am about %95 confident I have herpes.

I have all of the symptoms of herpes, and for the few I had they were quite pronounced especially the flu-like symptoms. The pain isn't terrible but it is noticeable at times...she took it pretty rough, within the scope of information I can understand. I'll probably get checked out tomorrow for a sure bet on what it is, though I'm already pretty certain.

Thank you for the words of advice and thoughts on the matter, I think I will manage just fine after I get on something to aid the sores. And any future partner will know about this probably upon first talking to them, I'm not one to keep secrets especially one's that can and inevitably will affect both of us.

You should be congratulated for handling it like an adult. Recent advances in anti viral drugs, mainly due to AIDS, have little impact on the treatment of herpes. However, the understanding which is gained of how a virus particle reproduces leads to the hope that all viral infections may soon be treatable; maybe even cured.