i have been married for 3 years and my husband left me he said he doesn't know if he loves me anymore but it feels like i need someone in my life i have been in deep depression for 3 weeks and i don't know what to do i have 2 kids so if you have some advice hit me up please he left me last month and i mean he left like didn't say anything my kids don't know who there dad is anymore cause i had a guy friend come over and they kept calling him daddy so what should i do and is it bad that i feel i need a guy in my life

Counseling - for you and your hubby if he will, to see if you can make it work.

If not, then counseling for you. You have to do whatever it takes to function and do it well for those 2 children.

Best of luck

How long has he been gone?

You have serious problems my dear. This is not the proper place to seek that kind of advice. You need to talk to friends you trust, family; maybe get some professional counseling. This is not just about you and your husband, the kids ride with any decision you make.

The kids will be just fine if you find happiness.



If those kids have to see you sulk and cry over a deadbeat for the next 10 years, they will be severely affected.


Recap:

Forget about spilled milk.
Buy another gallon.
Be happy.
Don't fake happy.
Everyone around you will be happy.

That is just so wrong that your kids called another dude daddy

That is just so wrong that your kids called another dude daddy


i don't think so cause that means he is replaceable

Tiffany,

He has only been gone a month. You need to spend time focusing on you and what you and the kids need. If you can get some counseling that would be great but until you get through the depression and make yourself stronger, there is no "moving on". I would also limit your exposure to other men around your kids. I am assuming they are young and will be easily confused. It is your responsibility to make this easier on them.

Surround yourself with family and friends and you will eventually be strong enough to move on.

In a month?

Any good counselor, which I am not, would tell you that you need to not confuse your kids with a 'dad' coming in and out of their lives. If you date someone, there's no need for your kids to know anything other than the fact that you are dating. At some point, not soon, if you feel like this person will be part of your life going forward, only then should your kids be allowed to become attached.

I know a number of kids that have been screwed up with 'dads' coming in to their life and then leaving. It's very painful for them and they likely don't have the skills to deal with that grief. Even with all you're going through, you should consider what your kids are going through as well.

Sorry dear, a child's parent is never replaceable.

...just do your best..i ahve been raising my son by myself since his mother walked out (long story).six years ago..at first it was hard but as time went on i realized i was better off without her..just be careful as to what kind of guys you bring home..kids first always..take care..

won't touch this with a ten foot pole... and you all know why

Everything you do - and I do mean everything - affects your kids. It is hard to go through what you're going through, but if you move a replacement guy in, your kids have to deal with the fallout when it happens (and it will happen). You need to take a step back, breathe, and put it into perspective. Yes, it sucks to be alone, but it's far worse to put them through a cycle of different "father figures".

Me either.

I dare you to say that to a room full of adopted children

I concur... and add a

You shouldnt have anyone around youre kids yet .Take time for youre self and focus on you . Stay strong.