I am not perfect BUT I won't settle!!!

Mon 05/14/07 05:41 AM












Are you the softer, "everybody makes mistakes", "nobody is perfect...so
what", or the "willing to work around it" type.......may be more risky
and a lot more work to have feelings for someone who just is not
perfect, but definately defines what kind of person you are...more of a
anti-shallow-ish attitude, but settling to an acceptable level...


I would say more of the second but I do not consider it settling. You
see I try and accept people for who they are, take the good with the
bad. I do not always succeed at this, but I try. We all have faults and
we all make mistakes, I try and remember this when dealing with
people;just as I hope they remember it when dealing with me. After all
we are only human.

I always liked the idea of "deal breakers". I'm not perfect, and I
don't expect anyone I date to be perfect either. That said, there are
things up with which I will not put. I think it's all about knowing
what constitute your deal breakers.

i would rather be alone than settle. there are certain qualifications
that i would wish in a mate...and i would never compromise on those. no
drugs, no drinking to intoxication, no lies...ethically sound...no
smoking. must have a good sense of humor, be intelligent, must be able
to spell correctly and use proper grammar...and mustn't hunt.

other things are not quite as important to me...and are negotiable.

ty everone..

I'm somewhere in the middle. I spent the first 130 years not being
selective enough -- now, I've come to realize that I need to be a LOT
more selective, and to have some standards that simply have to be
adhered to. There are only a few of those, but they have to be
absolutes. Everything else is negotiable.

One thing I've learned the hard way: It's better to be alone than to be
with the wrong person.

I'm not perfect and everybody makes mistakes.As I grow older I find it
better to have feelings and understanding for someone then to be a
hard-nosed person.After reading the post about alcoholics.I have a big
problem with an abusive alcoholic.My father was a drunk and hard @ss.I
remember him hitting my mother all the time when he was drunk.When I was
big enough I stopped him from hitting her.I then become a bounce for
seven years.I didn't do it just to fight like a lot of poeple.I did it
to stop the drunks from hitting women.Not long a go I fill in and
bounced at a club.A women came up to me afraid of her drink'in
boyfriend.She said he had a gun and said was going to shoot her.She
pointed him out to me.I took the guy out fast and hard.He had a 9mm in
the back of his pants.This guy was put away for a long time.My point is
I have absolutely no tolerance for an abusive alcoholic.

Kimmie, Honey..For the right friend, and, certainly, for the right
lady..

I WALK THE LINE...

I won't settle...and I do have my deal breakers too...abuse, cheating
and lying....I can forgive everything but those 3 things...Trust and
honesty are the two biggest things for me in a relationship!!!!!!!!!!!

I won't settle either.. Waiting for the one and only though..

Very true Native

(runs in waving....]shreeching to a stop...

Speaking with and english accent)

Like beauty is in the eye of the beholder....

Everyone is perfect in there own way....

there now that's settled



waving arms franticly, runs out)

I absolutely refuse to settle. I also am not attracted to the 'Mr.
Perfect' types. I just want someone who's flaws i can handle...lol,
thats all I ask for.

For me, to settle would be to be with a man whom I wasn't madly in love
with and who didn't want to have the 4 children i want and see in my
future.

I can accept anyone's flaws, as long as they can accept mine. Like I
said, its a matter of finding someone with flaws I can handle.

Personal advice from an 18 year old? Who knows, maybe it's worth it, but
I feel that you should follow neither. If it's a case of whether to
settle or not then obviously it's not everything you're looking for.
It's a big world. Very big. Almost seven billion people. Never settle,
and never feel that you are second rate and that who you love must be
too. Love who makes your heart skip a beat, not who your friends say you
should. Love who makes you smile and laugh, not who MTV and Oprah say
you should. Most of all; Love who you love, and who loves you, becuase
in the end, after all family, and all friends are gone, you only have
the one you love.

ty orange crush