Topic: Your partner is addicted to crack
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Sun 06/07/09 07:08 PM


as I will say any where



aint no one addicted to any thing



they either want to do it or they dont.
they either want to stop or they dont.


its truly that easy.



every one has a brain and every one should know how to use it


I totally disagree. That is one of the most ignorant statements I've heard in quite a while. If quitting was that simple, we wouldn't have rehab programs, AA, NA, etc. Even with the use of such support groups, breaking drug habits formed over years of practice is not an easy thing to do. It takes way more than the desire to quit. It goes from the desire, to dedicated use of these aforementioned programs, to establishing support networks, to complete lifestyle changes.

And as for the OP's problem, she does have to want to quit, but also has to be willing to get help from anywhere that offers it. If she doesn't really want to quit all that badly, then there's nothing you or anybody can do to help her. It's hard to let someone go that you care about, but you just might have to do that in order to keep yourself from being brought down. If so, then she might come to the decision of what's more important in her life. If she can do so and can honestly and convincingly express to you that you and her sobriety are more important, then you will inevitably be a critical part of her support network. But you have to be careful that you are supporting and not enabling her.

If she starts taking advantage of your support and doesn't work on her own as well, then you need to let her go. I've had my problems in the past and depend a lot on my sources of support. I do my best to use, but not take advantage of, them. If I do, then they no longer wish to help me and I'm back to my old habits or in prison. But anyway, I wish you luck in resolving this problem however it gets done, and hope the best for your friend.


wise words sir.. some dont understand how hard it is to stop EVEN if you want to. its a crap feeling, i would know

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Sun 06/07/09 07:28 PM
You're in Illinois, move. Like I am going to do.

Seriously though, crack addicts have to want to help themselves you cannot push them into rehab. If they don't want to quit, they won't regardless of treatment. If they want to quit, it is relatively easy from there.

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Sun 06/07/09 07:34 PM
RUN!! once a junkie,always a junkie. and even if she does get "clean",she will have baggage and drama for the rest of her life. and nobody needs that. there are plenty of good fish in the sea,my friend. good luck. be seeing you

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Mon 06/08/09 10:50 AM
Edited by Winx on Mon 06/08/09 10:51 AM

You're in Illinois, move. Like I am going to do.

Seriously though, crack addicts have to want to help themselves you cannot push them into rehab. If they don't want to quit, they won't regardless of treatment. If they want to quit, it is relatively easy from there.


It's not all that easy. The cravings are supposed to be very overwhelming. It takes over the mind and the body. Even addicts wouldn't wish their addiction on their worst enemy.


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Mon 06/08/09 12:41 PM


You're in Illinois, move. Like I am going to do.

Seriously though, crack addicts have to want to help themselves you cannot push them into rehab. If they don't want to quit, they won't regardless of treatment. If they want to quit, it is relatively easy from there.


It's not all that easy. The cravings are supposed to be very overwhelming. It takes over the mind and the body. Even addicts wouldn't wish their addiction on their worst enemy.


So true. I moved to get away from one addiction and found myself in another. Though I think F&L was referring to moving away from somone else with an addiction. But still, what's to say our OP won't move and find himself still associating with the same people in another place? Trying to get away from something whether you be an addict or just want to stay away from addicts requires changes in your lifestyle and changes in your friends. I found that staying away from the environment and the people who associate themselves with it is the best solution.

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Mon 06/08/09 07:28 PM



You're in Illinois, move. Like I am going to do.

Seriously though, crack addicts have to want to help themselves you cannot push them into rehab. If they don't want to quit, they won't regardless of treatment. If they want to quit, it is relatively easy from there.


It's not all that easy. The cravings are supposed to be very overwhelming. It takes over the mind and the body. Even addicts wouldn't wish their addiction on their worst enemy.


So true. I moved to get away from one addiction and found myself in another. Though I think F&L was referring to moving away from somone else with an addiction. But still, what's to say our OP won't move and find himself still associating with the same people in another place? Trying to get away from something whether you be an addict or just want to stay away from addicts requires changes in your lifestyle and changes in your friends. I found that staying away from the environment and the people who associate themselves with it is the best solution.


flowerforyou

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Mon 06/08/09 07:34 PM
i`m selling a plasma tv for $20. anyone interested?

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Mon 06/08/09 07:35 PM
What if you are just addicted to your partner like crack?

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Mon 06/08/09 08:10 PM

What if you are just addicted to your partner like crack?


So many bad one liners, I won't do it though.laugh

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Mon 06/08/09 08:11 PM


What if you are just addicted to your partner like crack?


So many bad one liners, I won't do it though.laugh


Yeah...that left the field wide open (OH SNAP! I did it again!):wink:

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Mon 06/08/09 08:12 PM
laugh laugh laugh

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Mon 06/08/09 08:22 PM

laugh laugh laugh


(Smileys are all you've got??? Coward!)

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Mon 06/08/09 08:27 PM
Read this thread again people.....seriously......Dude!

galendgirl's photo
Mon 06/08/09 08:29 PM

Read this thread again people.....seriously......Dude!


Krupa, you are right...it was a serious quesiton and I was a smart azz...

Apologies, people! flowerforyou

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Mon 06/08/09 08:34 PM
No apologies, already made my serious comment.

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Mon 06/08/09 08:34 PM


Read this thread again people.....seriously......Dude!


Krupa, you are right...it was a serious quesiton and I was a smart azz...

Apologies, people! flowerforyou


You goof! It was a BS question!!!! The op had ONE post here and never posted back in this discussion...

my guess would be that it got paid for by the ad's from the herpe's dating site.

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Mon 06/08/09 08:35 PM



Read this thread again people.....seriously......Dude!


Krupa, you are right...it was a serious quesiton and I was a smart azz...

Apologies, people! flowerforyou


You goof! It was a BS question!!!! The op had ONE post here and never posted back in this discussion...

my guess would be that it got paid for by the ad's from the herpe's dating site.


(I know...I was still being sarcastic - duh!)

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Mon 06/08/09 08:37 PM




Read this thread again people.....seriously......Dude!


Krupa, you are right...it was a serious quesiton and I was a smart azz...

Apologies, people! flowerforyou


You goof! It was a BS question!!!! The op had ONE post here and never posted back in this discussion...

my guess would be that it got paid for by the ad's from the herpe's dating site.


(I know...I was still being sarcastic - duh!)


hehehehehhehee no you weren't! You were hoping for some free herpes..I got news for you sister...the loving and huggly smooches are free...the herpes...you gotta pay for.

galendgirl's photo
Mon 06/08/09 08:38 PM





Read this thread again people.....seriously......Dude!


Krupa, you are right...it was a serious quesiton and I was a smart azz...

Apologies, people! flowerforyou


You goof! It was a BS question!!!! The op had ONE post here and never posted back in this discussion...

my guess would be that it got paid for by the ad's from the herpe's dating site.


(I know...I was still being sarcastic - duh!)


hehehehehhehee no you weren't! You were hoping for some free herpes..I got news for you sister...the loving and huggly smooches are free...the herpes...you gotta pay for.


You are so full of $H!t Krupa...god knows I luv ya, babe!

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Mon 06/08/09 08:41 PM
What really sux is I am the most level headed guy here....

oh crap...after that epiphany, I should probably just convert to lesbianism.