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Edited by
quiet_2008
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Tue 06/30/09 05:16 AM
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people don't wanna know what's wrong with em. They'll just get defensive and resentful better to just say "it's not you, it's me" even if it really is them I disagree ... I'd like to know, so that if there are things that I can change, and am willing to change (that's the key), I can do that. I don't know about anyone else, but I can be pretty oblivious sometimes ... and I've had situations (dating relationships and friendships) where people have just stopped communicating with me altogether, leaving me to wonder what happened ... now, I have some friends that I have told, "If I do or say something that bothers you, I may not realize it ... so please feel free to tell me!" I'm so with you here......but it's not often you will get someone to actually give you a straight answer. yeah that sounds good but as soon as you tell em something like "you get b1tchy when you don't get your way" or "you don't bathe often enough and I can't stand the smell" or "you're too controlling and I feel smothered" then they get resentful and halfway passive aggresive and say something like, "well excuse ME for not being perfect" and after the fourth or fifth time you go through that then its just easier to take the blame on yourself and move on |
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dated him because ???????????
Poor guy 
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I broke up with a guy recently. He was baffled. He thought things were going so well and that the relationship had had real 'potential.' I found myself biting my lip to giving any details that would answer the question 'Why?'. I should have liked to be honest and tell him he spoke too much about his mother, that I couldn't stand those plaid shorts and that maybe he should never even wear shorts, that I lost all sexual attraction when he actually allowed me to pay his beer, that having his car towed cause he had an expired tag AND no proof of insurance made him a loser...the list goes on. Yes, he did need dental. No, he shouldn't have only replaced the lenses of those frames. Yes, he did need a shower before we got intimate. Don't brag about a cheap, bad haircut. Driving a classic doesn't automatically make you cute or interesting. The list goes ON. I think he would benefit in a future relationship if he knew maybe some things to do or not do. Isn't that better for him than letting him scratch his head about my ending it, or do I simply have a greater sadistic side than I realize? I'm so glad I quit dating, some of those truly are trivial. I'm used to people not telling me why they ended the relationship, some are obvious...other's not so obvious. It is nice for an explanation, perhaps a shorter condensed one though... |
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well u know what i say? synopsis plz!!
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