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Topic: Just Gotta Say This
lilbug Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 14791	Thu 07/09/09 02:17 PM
I don't blame anybody Nor i try to I'm not perfect but somehow i just Seem to find the wrong ones Therefore i'm single but i'm cool with it There is a reason why you keep finding the wrong ones. Find out what that is and the right one will be easier to find.

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Thu 07/09/09 02:18 PM
Beckie, love the new pic.. (((Robin))) for some that is hard, the grass is always greener, I have it worse than anyone, loads of different things come into play... I've been single for a while and I don't mind it at all, so many pluses to it... If I met a special person great, but don't look for it, ask for it or need it, that'd just be strawberries on the cake... ((Joy)) Yep, I get that, but you'd think after a while folks would see all those things are burdens, not stepping stones. I hope to meet someone special too, but....I've always said there are far more worse things to be than single. I think we just put what Mitch and Calleigh said together and add a bit more... I see people stay in a bad relationship for kids.. I think that's commendable however, in the end it could do more harm than good especially if the kids see, hear or experience fighting OR if they never see love, tenderness and compassion, they can grow up not even knowing how to have a normal relationship....

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Thu 07/09/09 02:19 PM
I don't blame anybody Nor i try to I'm not perfect but somehow i just Seem to find the wrong ones Therefore i'm single but i'm cool with it There is a reason why you keep finding the wrong ones. Find out what that is and the right one will be easier to find. I think i should've said ... they find me Thanks lilbug

lilbug Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 14791	Thu 07/09/09 02:19 PM
Education , Life experiences growing up ,Peer pressure ,the choice of people a person chooses for so called friends .Alot of reasons. Perhaps, but I would think at some point you figure out what you're doing just isn't working and change it. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is rather counter productive. THAT is very true! I'm all for embracing! That's for sure!! LOL!! Too cute!

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Thu 07/09/09 02:20 PM
Education , Life experiences growing up ,Peer pressure ,the choice of people a person chooses for so called friends .Alot of reasons. Perhaps, but I would think at some point you figure out what you're doing just isn't working and change it. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is rather counter productive. THAT is very true! I'm all for embracing! That's for sure!! LOL!! Too cute! I know!

lilbug Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 14791	Thu 07/09/09 02:22 PM
Beckie, love the new pic.. (((Robin))) for some that is hard, the grass is always greener, I have it worse than anyone, loads of different things come into play... I've been single for a while and I don't mind it at all, so many pluses to it... If I met a special person great, but don't look for it, ask for it or need it, that'd just be strawberries on the cake... ((Joy)) Yep, I get that, but you'd think after a while folks would see all those things are burdens, not stepping stones. I hope to meet someone special too, but....I've always said there are far more worse things to be than single. I think we just put what Mitch and Calleigh said together and add a bit more... I see people stay in a bad relationship for kids.. I think that's commendable however, in the end it could do more harm than good especially if the kids see, hear or experience fighting OR if they never see love, tenderness and compassion, they can grow up not even knowing how to have a normal relationship.... This is absolutely true. I am a product of parents who should have divorced and from the gate I had issues I had to work on because of it. But, I did work on them and did not allow them predict the success of my future relationships.

lilbug Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 14791	Thu 07/09/09 02:23 PM
I don't blame anybody Nor i try to I'm not perfect but somehow i just Seem to find the wrong ones Therefore i'm single but i'm cool with it There is a reason why you keep finding the wrong ones. Find out what that is and the right one will be easier to find. I think i should've said ... they find me Thanks lilbug Don't leave a trail of bread crumbs, and they can't find you!

misswright Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 1893	Thu 07/09/09 02:24 PM
I see so many beautiful people, inside and out, who are single, lonely and unhappy. By the same token, I see a lot of folks who are involved with someone who are equally unhappy. If you are single, don't carry it around like a burden. Embrace it. Get to know who you really are. Grow, learn, experience. Take steps to make yourself a more interesting, desirable, vital human being so that when you do find someone your are more grounded and confident partner. If you are involved with someone, embrace it. Know from the start things are not always going to be blissful. Instead of using deceit, games, manipulation or control to get the things you need from your partner, learn healthy ways to resolve your differences so that you both can maintain your dignity and respect for one another. To me, this is not rocket science and I just don't get why so many folks....just don't get it. Now those are simple words everyone should live by. The world would be a much happier place!

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Thu 07/09/09 02:25 PM
I don't blame anybody Nor i try to I'm not perfect but somehow i just Seem to find the wrong ones Therefore i'm single but i'm cool with it There is a reason why you keep finding the wrong ones. Find out what that is and the right one will be easier to find. I think i should've said ... they find me Thanks lilbug Don't leave a trail of bread crumbs, and they can't find you! Good idea!

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Thu 07/09/09 02:25 PM Edited by STARTRAVELER on Thu 07/09/09 02:30 PM
Education , Life experiences growing up ,Peer pressure ,the choice of people a person chooses for so called friends .Alot of reasons. Perhaps, but I would think at some point you figure out what you're doing just isn't working and change it. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is rather counter productive. I agree but for so many the damage is already done mentally or physically.Freinds can have undue influence on relationships ,Life lessons are hard to overcome ,Ive experienced it so I know.I wish it could be otherwise but unfortunately in this day and age divorce is to easy and that is usually the choice for alot of people instead of makeing the choice to discover and fix whats wrong .We are talking an otherwise normal relationship here not abusive or otherwise deviant ! I'm sorry for the pain you've had. Not all of us were divorced. I did have a successful marriage. Divorce is the easy way out and some use it as such. For others, the decision to do so, I would imagine, was an extremely difficult and painful one. quote]I think your right .It'snot so much about my story ,it has happened and theres nothing I can do .It's about seeing your past and learning from it ,abaout really listening to what others say with the knowledge that they have they're own agendas that do'nt always serve the best interests of the other person or relationship.Eh preaching to the choir here .People just stink sometimes !

lilbug Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 14791	Thu 07/09/09 02:26 PM
I see so many beautiful people, inside and out, who are single, lonely and unhappy. By the same token, I see a lot of folks who are involved with someone who are equally unhappy. If you are single, don't carry it around like a burden. Embrace it. Get to know who you really are. Grow, learn, experience. Take steps to make yourself a more interesting, desirable, vital human being so that when you do find someone your are more grounded and confident partner. If you are involved with someone, embrace it. Know from the start things are not always going to be blissful. Instead of using deceit, games, manipulation or control to get the things you need from your partner, learn healthy ways to resolve your differences so that you both can maintain your dignity and respect for one another. To me, this is not rocket science and I just don't get why so many folks....just don't get it. Now those are simple words everyone should live by. The world would be a much happier place! Thanks!

lilbug Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 14791	Thu 07/09/09 02:29 PM
I see so many beautiful people, inside and out, who are single, lonely and unhappy. By the same token, I see a lot of folks who are involved with someone who are equally unhappy. If you are single, don't carry it around like a burden. Embrace it. Get to know who you really are. Grow, learn, experience. Take steps to make yourself a more interesting, desirable, vital human being so that when you do find someone your are more grounded and confident partner. If you are involved with someone, embrace it. Know from the start things are not always going to be blissful. Instead of using deceit, games, manipulation or control to get the things you need from your partner, learn healthy ways to resolve your differences so that you both can maintain your dignity and respect for one another. To me, this is not rocket science and I just don't get why so many folks....just don't get it. I agree. I don't know why people are so worried about stuff like that when there are so many more important things to worry about. Like draconians. I'm not sure if anyone's ever told you, but you ain't right, Mirror! I'll leave the draconian worries to you.

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Thu 07/09/09 02:32 PM
Lilbug end of the story is I like your sentiments and agree 100% .The world would be much better off !

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 07/09/09 02:35 PM
I see so many beautiful people, inside and out, who are single, lonely and unhappy. By the same token, I see a lot of folks who are involved with someone who are equally unhappy. If you are single, don't carry it around like a burden. Embrace it. Get to know who you really are. Grow, learn, experience. Take steps to make yourself a more interesting, desirable, vital human being so that when you do find someone your are more grounded and confident partner. If you are involved with someone, embrace it. Know from the start things are not always going to be blissful. Instead of using deceit, games, manipulation or control to get the things you need from your partner, learn healthy ways to resolve your differences so that you both can maintain your dignity and respect for one another. To me, this is not rocket science and I just don't get why so many folks....just don't get it. I agree. I don't know why people are so worried about stuff like that when there are so many more important things to worry about. Like draconians. I'm not sure if anyone's ever told you, but you ain't right, Mirror! I'll leave the draconian worries to you. Im not the only one worried about it. And the world needs to know

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Thu 07/09/09 02:40 PM
I see so many beautiful people, inside and out, who are single, lonely and unhappy. By the same token, I see a lot of folks who are involved with someone who are equally unhappy. If you are single, don't carry it around like a burden. Embrace it. Get to know who you really are. Grow, learn, experience. Take steps to make yourself a more interesting, desirable, vital human being so that when you do find someone your are more grounded and confident partner. If you are involved with someone, embrace it. Know from the start things are not always going to be blissful. Instead of using deceit, games, manipulation or control to get the things you need from your partner, learn healthy ways to resolve your differences so that you both can maintain your dignity and respect for one another. To me, this is not rocket science and I just don't get why so many folks....just don't get it. I agree. I don't know why people are so worried about stuff like that when there are so many more important things to worry about. Like draconians. I'm not sure if anyone's ever told you, but you ain't right, Mirror! I'll leave the draconian worries to you. Im not the only one worried about it. And the world needs to know Mirror draconians ai'nt nuthin ,You should be more worried about cheeseheads from Wisc. takeing over the world !

lilbug Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 14791	Thu 07/09/09 02:43 PM
Lilbug end of the story is I like your sentiments and agree 100% .The world would be much better off ! Thanks! I also appreciated your thoughts on this topic.

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Thu 07/09/09 02:47 PM
Lilbug end of the story is I like your sentiments and agree 100% .The world would be much better off ! Thanks! I also appreciated your thoughts on this topic. Y/W And thank you too !

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 07/09/09 02:49 PM
I see so many beautiful people, inside and out, who are single, lonely and unhappy. By the same token, I see a lot of folks who are involved with someone who are equally unhappy. If you are single, don't carry it around like a burden. Embrace it. Get to know who you really are. Grow, learn, experience. Take steps to make yourself a more interesting, desirable, vital human being so that when you do find someone your are more grounded and confident partner. If you are involved with someone, embrace it. Know from the start things are not always going to be blissful. Instead of using deceit, games, manipulation or control to get the things you need from your partner, learn healthy ways to resolve your differences so that you both can maintain your dignity and respect for one another. To me, this is not rocket science and I just don't get why so many folks....just don't get it. I agree. I don't know why people are so worried about stuff like that when there are so many more important things to worry about. Like draconians. I'm not sure if anyone's ever told you, but you ain't right, Mirror! I'll leave the draconian worries to you. Im not the only one worried about it. And the world needs to know Mirror draconians ai'nt nuthin ,You should be more worried about cheeseheads from Wisc. takeing over the world ! The cheeseheads already work for the draconians

catseyes1 Joined Fri 06/19/09 Posts: 1459	Thu 07/09/09 02:51 PM


STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Thu 07/09/09 02:52 PM
I see so many beautiful people, inside and out, who are single, lonely and unhappy. By the same token, I see a lot of folks who are involved with someone who are equally unhappy. If you are single, don't carry it around like a burden. Embrace it. Get to know who you really are. Grow, learn, experience. Take steps to make yourself a more interesting, desirable, vital human being so that when you do find someone your are more grounded and confident partner. If you are involved with someone, embrace it. Know from the start things are not always going to be blissful. Instead of using deceit, games, manipulation or control to get the things you need from your partner, learn healthy ways to resolve your differences so that you both can maintain your dignity and respect for one another. To me, this is not rocket science and I just don't get why so many folks....just don't get it. I agree. I don't know why people are so worried about stuff like that when there are so many more important things to worry about. Like draconians. I'm not sure if anyone's ever told you, but you ain't right, Mirror! I'll leave the draconian worries to you. Im not the only one worried about it. And the world needs to know Mirror draconians ai'nt nuthin ,You should be more worried about cheeseheads from Wisc. takeing over the world ! The cheeseheads already work for the draconians That would explain a lot !