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Thank you all for your replies.
But I don't do this with just a SO. I do it with friends and family as well. I do all I can from letting anyone get close because of this. I push them away because I don't want to deal with the analyzing. |
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Wow Lex, I thought you had everything figured out. No, I just fake it a couple times a week to increase my range as an actor.... 
Seriously, I'm the first one to admit how little I really do know.... I was really hoping you would be the one to help me with this 
I went through it. It got bad. I still overanalyze things, but I've created other things that serve as a sort of "release" mechanism. The wonderful thing about writing is that I can lie in bed and formulate dialogue for 6 hours if I can't sleep -- that's what works for me. |
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Try sex!! It NEVER works for me!!
 
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ANALyzing=sphincter
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I went through it. It got bad. I still overanalyze things, but I've created other things that serve as a sort of "release" mechanism. The wonderful thing about writing is that I can lie in bed and formulate dialogue for 6 hours if I can't sleep -- that's what works for me. That is the problem. My mind is like the New York subway. It never stops, which does prevent me from being able to sleep. I want it to rest every now and then. |
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ANALyzing=sphincter
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Analyze. Analyze. Analyze
It just starts trouble! |
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Analyze. Analyze. Analyze It just starts trouble! Agreed, that is the purpose here. To try to figure out how to stop. |
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Do what I do....
Don't sweat the small stuff......it's all small stuff. When I was younger and knew everything...I sweated the details on everything only to find that I was slowing myself down. Now that I am older and don't know diddly....I focus on the things that pertain to my carreer other than that...I let life just flow. Sure as hell beats stressing over things that in time, won't affect me one way or the other. |
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Do what I do.... Don't sweat the small stuff......it's all small stuff. When I was younger and knew everything...I sweated the details on everything only to find that I was slowing myself down. Now that I am older and don't know diddly....I focus on the things that pertain to my carreer other than that...I let life just flow. Sure as hell beats stressing over things that in time, won't affect me one way or the other. It is things in life that will affect me. Not little things. I don't allow people to get close, not even family, because it is easier to just pretend like they don't exist.
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I am terrible at this as well, best thing to do IMO would be to try and let life happen as it comes as opposed to thinking about everything that could. Granted that's easier said then done, but you're likely to be more relaxed this way.
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OP: I'm with you man... being analytical is not bad, it just is... it is a part of who I am, just as it sounds like it is part of who you are... it is what makes me very good at what I do for a living, it makes me happy, it makes me sad... it can make relationships difficult... my friends (true friends) appreciate me for who I am... the rest -- BLEH!!
personally? I have learned a few things: 1. I have learned that I can tend to be analytical (much the same as you... KUDO's for figuring this out about yourself)... 2. I have learned that although I WANT an answer, I may not FIND an answer, and have learned to accept this... 3. I have learned that some things are brain things, some things are heart things... and that I need not seek intellectual answers to emotional issues (that's where the crazy comes in)... 4. I have learned that I want to find someone who is also analytical - so we can both be happy :)... or at least understand each other... Realizing your particular "crazy" (as I have)... can really help you deal with people... realize what you are doing, that people are different... and sometimes accept that you're just not going to get "the best answer". Sometimes you have to accept the answer may just be different than what you want it to be... and accept it!... (it's not easy)... I work very hard now at trying to understand and empathise with the other folks I am communcating with... it seems to help... luck to you man! |
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OP: I'm with you man... being analytical is not bad, it just is... it is a part of who I am, just as it sounds like it is part of who you are... it is what makes me very good at what I do for a living, it makes me happy, it makes me sad... it can make relationships difficult... my friends (true friends) appreciate me for who I am... the rest -- BLEH!! personally? I have learned a few things: 1. I have learned that I can tend to be analytical (much the same as you... KUDO's for figuring this out about yourself)... 2. I have learned that although I WANT an answer, I may not FIND an answer, and have learned to accept this... 3. I have learned that some things are brain things, some things are heart things... and that I need not seek intellectual answers to emotional issues (that's where the crazy comes in)... 4. I have learned that I want to find someone who is also analytical - so we can both be happy :)... or at least understand each other... Realizing your particular "crazy" (as I have)... can really help you deal with people... realize what you are doing, that people are different... and sometimes accept that you're just not going to get "the best answer". Sometimes you have to accept the answer may just be different than what you want it to be... and accept it!... (it's not easy)... I work very hard now at trying to understand and empathise with the other folks I am communcating with... it seems to help... luck to you man! Thank you GoodGuy. That is exactly how it is. And your #3 IS what actually drives me the craziest. Wow, I am soooo glad I am not alone in this. I thought I needed a straight jacket. |
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