So many state either in the forum or in their profile that they have recently split up and are looking... some time in between relationships is not a bad thing. Some time to regroup, recover and understand what happened, maybe learn something...
It isn't fair to the "new" person when your on the rebound and not fair to your self. What is the rush?

I keep telling them but they are not listening you tell them
There were not listening then and they are not listening now
I wonder where I read that last line
I will figure

Starry Starry Night...

Bloody hell you are fast

When is the rebound thing over, it is hard to tell unless you try a new relation. Nobody never knows if they are over the ex until they are with the new.

Some get hurt and it is to bad, i personally would never use a woman just for filling a whole my ex left me with if I am with her it is because i deeply think she will be the one.

I agree with you. It is exactly what I am doing as well. Well put..

I think my four years is long enough... I am not pining away anymore.

Mine is 2 years after 22 years. Not pining but seem a little lost at times. Haven't been by myself since I was 19. What is the proper time frame? Interesting question....

yeah, 4 years has been long enough for me too...lol

It's called "time for healing" and getting to know oneself again.

I've heard that the proper time is when you don't think about the other person anymore.

Like I can answer that one...
divorced for ten years, last boyfriend 4 years..
I know I'm ready.
I think the proper time frame is when you have forgiven her, him, yourself and your heart is open again.. I dunnno

2yrs. I did myself a favor and Mourned! it was the best thing i ever did. It allowed me to not only Forgive, but to let go! I can't stay it healed the soul but it refreshed my mind enough to allow myself to accept there is a future in the proses i do not understand by God dose!

In the proses, I wait for when i jumped it drowned me, so i was tough to wait, listen and learn so i will be ready when it is time.

I still believe that God brings a person into are life for a reason, it is to teach us something about oneself, so we can get ready for the real thing.

we might have one or a several but what ever the reason is for each one leaving it is a reason that we had to see the truth in oneself.

for each one that asked to return knowing that it did not work out the first time so why try again? to only give it one more chance to have it end again.

to mourn and then open up your life learn again from why it did not work out.

Now that I have been taught, I myself must put the actions in the directions that it needs to be, so to wait has never been my strong point but to seek and find and not be weak.

I have the right to love, to be loved and to accept love anyway i chose to do so and I as a person know i am "Love" in my own soul. Now it is and has been again Gods role to chose who he might find on this earth that would best fit my heart and mind.

I think it really depends on the situation... how long you were in your relationship and why you broke it off. Sometimes, it was long overdue. And as long as you're honest with whoever you're talking to next, I see no harm in getting yourself back out there.
What if you miss something that could have been really good because you were 'regrouping'?

I've done enough mourning in my life to last the whole rest of my life. Now I want to be happy.

For a lot of people they don't let go because its outside the comfort zone that they have become accustomed to.

The moment I was served the papers I was out never to look back

I give 100% in everything I do but when its over the withdrawal is to military precision

I agree 100%.. and then you can regret wasting so much of your life "feeling your feelings"... but yah, seriously.. its best.

I'm so friggin tired of feeling my feelings

I did not set out to be alone for so long, it just happened. I have enjoyed my time..
My heart has been open for a long time, opportunity just hasn't knocked.

Ive heard from some folks that it takes about half the time of the length of ur relationship to be completely over ur ex.

Time between is defo a valuable time for reflection. When our emotions r in turmoil, it takes time to settle them, if u skip this process, u r completely vulnerable cos u havent recovered and therefore start something new when u r not urself emotionally.