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bigpappa4331 Joined Mon 12/04/06 Posts: 4720	Wed 05/30/07 08:45 AM
when in a relationship try to think of the other person with kindness caring and concern [especially if they're angry] and say things with love and hear things with love [even when they're angry]

LAMom Joined Tue 12/12/06 Posts: 26866	Wed 05/30/07 08:48 AM
So very true {{{Pappa}}}}}

Puffins1958 Joined Tue 02/27/07 Posts: 13637	Wed 05/30/07 08:50 AM
I know some horrible things can be said in the HEAT of an argumet... good advise, thanks

eileena9 Joined Fri 04/13/07 Posts: 28211	Wed 05/30/07 08:52 AM
words to live by! Thanks for posting them.

Puffins1958 Joined Tue 02/27/07 Posts: 13637	Wed 05/30/07 08:58 AM
ok...I meant in the HEAT of an argument HELP!!!! I need a spell check....lolol

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Wed 05/30/07 09:07 AM
Puff We know what you meant?

jp4023 Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 1392	Wed 05/30/07 09:41 AM
amen pappa sometimes when we lose our cool we usually say things we dont mean and then regret them later one word of advise think before you speak take a time out chill 1,2,3

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Wed 05/30/07 11:08 AM
Lol good advice, but like that's ever gonna happen

nusalor Joined Sat 03/17/07 Posts: 5021	Wed 05/30/07 11:11 AM
You smokin' on hump day, pappa?

Native_Grl39 Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 5196	Wed 05/30/07 11:16 AM
I agree..If I get too angry...I won't discuss the problem until I have time to think about it and talk about it rationally!!!!! It doesn't ALWAYS work...BUT hey I try!!!!!!

tantalizingtulip Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 11426	Wed 05/30/07 02:34 PM
K

MsTeddyBear2u Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 22031	Wed 05/30/07 02:39 PM
who did you piss off pappa yes I agree with what you said...

SheNerd Joined Sun 04/29/07 Posts: 6039	Wed 05/30/07 02:50 PM
Excellent advice. Hard to follow sometimes, but excellent anyways. :)

brandyd1974 Joined Sat 05/26/07 Posts: 36	Wed 05/30/07 02:52 PM
aww.. very good advice. its good to hear a man with some relationship wisdom these days.. : D

davinci1952 Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 2750	Wed 05/30/07 04:05 PM
so ...all we need is love?... ta da da da da...

Puffins1958 Joined Tue 02/27/07 Posts: 13637	Wed 05/30/07 04:07 PM
Davinci... Don't you think that we all deserve it...need it? -Joanne

daleray1606 Joined Tue 03/06/07 Posts: 3642	Wed 05/30/07 04:10 PM
Love & Forgive Quickly... In the Grand Scheme of your life.. How important is that 5 minutes...

Karensmiles Joined Thu 08/24/06 Posts: 1479	Wed 05/30/07 04:24 PM
My grandma used to say that when you are in an argument you have to think, "How important will this be 6 months, 1 year, or three yrs from now" and act accordingly. The other good piece of advice I got was, Start them the way you want them don't expect change if you have been doing it from the beginning. Example: You want dishes in the dishwasher then after dinner have him/her help you load it.etc etc....

bigpappa4331 Joined Mon 12/04/06 Posts: 4720	Thu 05/31/07 07:31 AM
and try not to bring up further back than yesterday ,,, talking about something that happened months ago and really bothered "YOU" really only makes you look un-forgiving and vengeful if you can't stay on topic???lol the other person is probably making too much sense,,, and you feel you're losing and things from way back really aren't useful tools

Mikey117 Joined Mon 11/20/06 Posts: 23736	Thu 05/31/07 07:34 AM
sometimes finding love again can wipe out those bitter feelings from the past