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Topic: How long to wait before "the call" ?
MikeMontana's photo
Sat 06/02/07 06:52 PM
You meet a girl, ask for her number, she gives it. When is the "polite"
time to call?

Obviously, calling as soon as you get home is dopey.

Sometime the next day seems ideal.

But, a couple friends were saying thats probably not a good thing. They
say "if you got the # on a weekend, then you should wait till Monday.
That way you dont try to insert yourself into her existing plans"

Then they say, "if you got her # on a weeknight, then, you should
probably wait a full extra day."

There seems to be some sense in it. The way I see it: I usually call the
next day, at a casual time. For example, if she gave me her # on a wed
evening, I would call Thrs after work - so long as things were peaceful
and I could devote some time to the call. Otherwise, I'd absolutely call
the following day even if there was just a moment to talk.

What do you say? I would like to hear both ladies and men's opinions.

no photo
Sat 06/02/07 06:57 PM
I love this question. Guys play so many games. Some have waited to call
after 3 weeks and even to like half a month just to send the message
"I'm not desperate" or "I'm waiting for you to call first because I'm a
guy that's too cool"

I say 2-3 days is a good time period. Anything beyond a week, you better
have a good excuse

Claudette's photo
Sat 06/02/07 06:59 PM
i would say a couple of days ... just take your time getting to know
her... and be yourselfflowerforyou

Caddie101's photo
Sat 06/02/07 07:02 PM
give it a day... i know if i went on a date and didn't hear back from a
guy for several days i would be thinking "what in the world is wrong
with me... I thought he liked me?"

thedoctor's photo
Sat 06/02/07 07:03 PM
if she gave you her number, call when you want! If she DIDN'T want you
to call, you wouldn't have gotten it!

crashhere's photo
Sat 06/02/07 07:04 PM
You said it Doc.

ArtGurl's photo
Sat 06/02/07 07:06 PM
What is with all these rules...

If you like her, call her

rivergirl301's photo
Sat 06/02/07 07:08 PM
I agree with thedoctor, and those who agree with thedoctor, lol. These
head games will sent you running screaming into the night with only the
clothes on your back (wait, don't wait, wait this long, no wait that
long).

Caddie101's photo
Sat 06/02/07 07:11 PM
just do it... it is best to get it over with... it might be for the
good or for the bad but hey you know your answer. Ladys really don't
like head games like that... I know if I went on a date and the guy
didn't call the next day I would be wondering what in the world was a
matter with me like i said before.

no photo
Sat 06/02/07 07:12 PM
laugh rivergirl lol

I agree, head games today drive you crazy. It's so annoying.

Just say what you feel and be honest fellas! Don't play games

WolfSpirt's photo
Sat 06/02/07 07:13 PM
I agree withyou 100%, Artgurl. My only problem wit it is, I havent
gotten a number in so very longgggggggggggggggggggggggggg.flowerforyou
glasses

Dallas228808's photo
Sat 06/02/07 07:13 PM
Next day,I don't c anything wrong with that. drinker smokin

thedoctor's photo
Sat 06/02/07 07:22 PM
rivergirl is right!...you might actually talk yourself out of it.
believe me, it's hard to kick yourself in the posterior...but it can be
done!

bobbyblue's photo
Sat 06/02/07 07:32 PM
If you get a girls number and your honest you will know when to call.
However you have players out there who mess it up.

Riardo's photo
Sat 06/02/07 07:38 PM
what if the girl give you the wrong # ? ....lol


And you call explode




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SheNerd's photo
Sat 06/02/07 07:38 PM
IMHO waiting a "set time" to call someone smacks of game playing and it
probably isn't a good idea to start a relationship with head games.

The doctor and Rivergirl are right, if she gave you her number she wants
you to call, so if you're interested, go for it! :)

MikeMontana's photo
Sat 06/02/07 07:38 PM
My normal manner is to call the next day. No worries on that. I was just
suprised by the seriousness of my friend's advice "wait 2 days... check
the position of the moon, look for low tides..." that sort of silliness.

They're not being "players", they were being serious. And I do hear
everyone's point about avoiding "games". Amen to that!

Puffins1958's photo
Sat 06/02/07 07:39 PM
Mike...

Where does it say that there is a time frame. If you enjoyed her enough
to ask her for her #, then call whenever you feel like talking. If it
feels good, then do it

Berryboo's photo
Sat 06/02/07 07:40 PM
Omgosh, just call when you think is appropriate! (I agree with the
doctor)ppl think too much with their head and not their gut and heart
and thats when stress and anxiety kicks in!explode

rivergirl301's photo
Sat 06/02/07 07:45 PM
The girl is at home, going, "How long will it be until he calls? Does he
like me? Hate me? Did I make a mistake by giving him my number? Was I
too forward? How long should I wait until he calls? If he doesn't call
me, should I call him? How long should I wait until after he doesn't
call, before I call him? If I wait too long, will he think I don't like
him? If I call right away, do I seem too eager?"

Finally, the phone rings, and love

So you are actually putting 2 people out of misery by calling right
away.

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