I have a good question I am sure many have asked. What do men on here
or any other site really want?...It is sad when you read a profile and
do not know rather to belive them or not due to so many who do not know
how to be honest about things. When a girl puts on her profile she is
looking for fun they blow up her emails LOL...Then you read their
profiles and they say they are looking for a good women and want long
term on some...Others are open and straight hey I am looking for fun
nothing else but most say one thing and respond to another. So many say
they have been hurt and decieved and scared etc etc ..HAVEN"T WE
ALL??????? Yet put up a profile stating you are a good honest simple
girl just looking for someone for friendship to start ( the needed
foundation for any kind of relationship) and they act like you have a
disease lmao and no emails in the box...survey says!!!!!!!!!!! men want
laid LOL but will say anything to get it most of the time......NOW HOLD
UP GUYS!!!! HERE IS YOUR FLIP SIDE! I have heard of stories from men
where women are just as bad...do i believe it UMMMM YES I DO!....bottom
line we could all make life much easier on everyone and enjoyable if
HONESTY WAS WHAT WE ALL GET TO READ THEN WE COULD SIFT THROUGH THE
PROFILES AND MAKE GOOD CHOICES AND LESS MISTAKES....just my 2 cents free
of charge feed back anyone?

if i am wrong please share I would love to hear from some of you guys on
here if i am plz

I'd like another Pepsi!.. Seriously, mine is what I feel. If I
WERE to meet someone, that would be nice...but, anymore, I don't expect
it or go crazy looking for it! Hmmmmmm...maybe Frank's right about me...

There is a thread about this subject on the Relationships board, you
might want to check it out. :)

What do men really want?
who the heck really knows... there is a lot of beating around the bush
here (no pun intended)

i will ck it out thank you i hadn't seen it yet! I know that not all
misrepresent what they are looking for so thank you for replying and
being honest on yours (wink)

All I can do is speak for myself.

I mean every word in my Profile.. I do NOT play game nor want only sex.
I want someone to share my life and I hers.

Quite honestly... I would want a sweet person with a heart of gold. That
goes farther than anything else. A good woman brings out the good in a
man. A man and a woman are supposed to be as one. If one wheel falls
off, then the thing wont move. It goes both ways though... guys need to
be polite gentle and respectful. Does that make any sense?

I understand what you're saying, but I just don't think you can ever
come up with a blanket answer to what men really want. Different men
want different things, different kinds of relationships, just as I'm
sure is true for women.

And sure, there are going to be guys (and girls too) who put deceptive
things into their profiles in order to make themselves appear more
desirable, or "better" than they really are. It works that way in real
life too, but it's just a little easier to be deceptive on a website
than in person.

I don't put any credence at all in a profile, most of the time -- they
tend to be so bland and pointless that I might as well be reading the
back of a cereal box. On a site like this, I am going to assess you
based pretty much entirely on what you say on the forums. People who
never post, well, I see them as blank slates. Maybe good, maybe bad,
but without indicators, I am not wasting my time on that.

You make a good point about how much easier it would be if everyone was
honest in their profiles, but that's simply not going to happen until
there's a website that has a full-time Profile Investigation Team that
goes out and verifies everyone's claims and circumstances. I don't
think that will ever happen, simply because of the associated costs --
members would probably end up paying $1000 a month (imagine how annoyed
THOSE people would be when they still don't meet anyone!) and all the
people who had something/anything to hide would leave immediately,
resulting in a member pool of a few dozen, maybe. Probably not the best
business plan.

Remember, the key to any dating site, even the free ones, is to attract
as many members as possible. If you drive them away, potential
advertisers have less incentive to advertise on that site (based on
reaching fewer prospective customers) -- so it's really in the best
interests of any site NOT to be too picky about who signs up; i.e., not
to be particularly scrutinizing about the validity of the stories of
people who sign up.

So, I wouldn't expect the sites themselves to do any extensive filtering
for you. That means you're still left with your own best judgments, and
that also means there are going to be unscrupulous types who will play
their little deceptive games.

So, I think the real question is not so much "what do men want," but
what do YOU want from a site like this? And once you know that, the
next step is to try to figure out how to get it without getting burned.
We're back to red flags and inconsistencies again, you've heard all this
before, I'm sure.

But there's no perfect formula, there's no perfect system. You take
your chances. It's the nature of the beast. Learning how these sites
work, experience, observation, discernment, all of these things can help
you avoid the bad guys. But there are no guarantees....

SheNerd - thats for the gentle reminder on forum categories! It helps
all of us to find our way around, if we all use the categories.

i agree with keoni

Ooops... meant -thanks- for the gentle reminder...

Hi massagetrade,

I agree. Plus, there is a lot of good stuff posted on the other thread
which might prove helpful to swtcountrygirl.

SheNerd :)

Love the carrots. When are you going to get matching outfits for them?
:)

The answer here is sort of complex. I think most people's bottom line is
that they would like to meet someone to develop a serious relationship,
myself included. Sometimes when we state that in our profile, we run the
risk of missing out on the more casual daters ~ which is how it should
start, anyway.
The best way to develop a relationship is to have some casual dates and
see how your personalities match ~ give it time to get to know someone's
moods, likes and dislikes, dating style. Too often these dates boil down
to how attracted you are (physically) the first time you meet, and it
doesn't give either person a fair chance of taking it to the next level
as you would were you to meet someone "in real life." Ideally, you might
meet someone at work, at church, at a theatre project, the gym, through
friends, and, because it's not automatically a dating situation, it can
take several meetings for you to discover that you like they way they
look more and more all the time, their sense of humor, how they carry
themselves, etc. ~ and then you realize you are interested in a possible
relationship with them. On a dating site, everyone is looking for
instant chemistry (translate: instant sexual desire) and that rarely
happens.
So some of us may say we want a serious relationship but still respond
to someone who is looking for casual dating, because after all, that is
how it should begin anyway. And maybe we respond to someone who seems a
bit promiscuous because, hey! at least we know the person isn't a prude
and may not judge us so quickly because she wants to have some fun.
I have tried these sites off and on for years ~ and none of the major
relationships I've had were through any of them. But it's hard to meet
people, so we keep trying, right?

Wow Country, you don't want much here,,do ya,lol,lol

Men as women,,on here. Are mixed up all the time for some,,because they
flip flop around in their LOOKING catagorylike, for the moment(FOUND
SOMEONE) or they are depressed and NOW, venting,lol Or someone hurt them
and NOW they have changed everything they WERE looking for,,lol

But "TRUTH" is GREAT and the only thing we all really want to find,,
But "TRUTH" is the hardest comodity to find here!!!

Well, HELL,,,EVERYWHERE!!

I live for TRUTH and have found many people NOT really WANTING to share
their REAL TRUTHS!!
So if you find REAL TRUTH, PLEASE let me know the recipe!! LOL

Most folks here, will make their profile as to what they really feel at
THAT time and trully do wish to find THAT in a relationship, but
someones face or their profile might make THEM reply to them for the
SAME reasons their looking for ,
but it doesn't mean their not truthful, just LOOKING DEEPER into another
for maybe the SAME thoughts behind their actions..
Both sex's are hard to figure out what the OTHER is WANTING to find or
except, and IT ALWAYS WILL BE HARD to understand!
Good luck in YOUR serch for YOUR friend,lover, date, husband, person,
mate, life partner, better half, company,,,ect,,,lol
Life is short,,,LIVE, LAUGH, and LOVE!!! Always!!!

Op every now and then it just clicks.


people do think they know sometimes.....


and then they get scared or are not sure....


there can be so many senereos /sp /to this Q.


mho

What I want is a simple thing

For a person I am with to love me for who I am

I have have my flaws and does anybody else

Bj if you want to find a woman, you gotta go where the women
are........THE MALL!!!

Dang gyspy..

men want women who understand what they want ,,,,,,,,duh LMAO