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Topic: Intimidated by a "smart" S/O
Ruth34611's photo
Sun 12/06/09 08:35 AM
Lots of people say they are looking for someone with brains and someone who is "smart". But, I wonder if many of us, myself included, aren't a little intimidated by someone who is much smarter than we are.

How do you feel about someone who is much smarter than you?

ledi180's photo
Sun 12/06/09 08:36 AM
It doesn't intimidate me as long as he's not throwing it in my face :smile: If he has superior knowledge than me in a certain area I find it interesting and actually a turn on blushing

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Sun 12/06/09 08:38 AM
Edited by singmesweet on Sun 12/06/09 08:39 AM
I know a guy who is one of the smartest people I know. He's the only person who sends me emails with words I actually have to look up occasionally. Yet, he never sounds out of place speaking/writing the way he does. It all just makes him more attractive. Not intimidating at all. He also doesn't act like he's smarter, which I think is a great thing.

Ruth34611's photo
Sun 12/06/09 08:39 AM

It doesn't intimidate me as long as he's not throwing it in my face :smile: If he has superior knowledge than me in a certain area I find it interesting and actually a turn on blushing


Well most people have an area that they know a lot about whether they are smart or not. I'm talking about someone who knows a lot about everything. They are just a very smart, very educated person and no matter what the conversation was they probably know more about it than you.


ledi180's photo
Sun 12/06/09 08:41 AM
Ok, sorry about that - pretty much the same answer though - as long as he doesn't act superior or holier than thou about it - no concern to me.

Dict8's photo
Sun 12/06/09 08:45 AM
Some people talk as if they consult a thesaurus every 5 minutes. Some "smart" people are actually not smart at all. They're just pretentious and insecure.:tongue:

Ruth34611's photo
Sun 12/06/09 08:47 AM

Ok, sorry about that - pretty much the same answer though - as long as he doesn't act superior or holier than thou about it - no concern to me.


I agree. How they handle their gift is a major factor. Thanks for answering. flowerforyou

Ruth34611's photo
Sun 12/06/09 08:48 AM

Some people talk as if they consult a thesaurus every 5 minutes. Some "smart" people are actually not smart at all. They're just pretentious and insecure.:tongue:


I agree. But, you can pretty much tell one of those after a few conversations. I'm talking about genuinely intelligent people.

Dict8's photo
Sun 12/06/09 08:51 AM


Some people talk as if they consult a thesaurus every 5 minutes. Some "smart" people are actually not smart at all. They're just pretentious and insecure.:tongue:


I agree. But, you can pretty much tell one of those after a few conversations. I'm talking about genuinely intelligent people.
Got ya'. It's kinda sad really cuz' those people find it very hard to interact on any social level. Being smart is kind of a curse in many ways. :tongue:

kcbigone's photo
Sun 12/06/09 08:51 AM
well i find this interesting sure some people gopt book smart soem have street smarts and i am not intimidate by no one cause i have learned women can be alot smartier than me

Ladylid2012's photo
Sun 12/06/09 08:52 AM
Everybody is knowledgeable about something..even a very smart educated can learn from others. We all have strengths. I know some very smart people and they don't intimidate me. The ones who bother me or make me uncomfortable are the "know it all's".... feel they are here to only teach and can learn nothing from others. Experience is the best knowledge, no matter how many degree's one has.

Ruth34611's photo
Sun 12/06/09 08:54 AM



Some people talk as if they consult a thesaurus every 5 minutes. Some "smart" people are actually not smart at all. They're just pretentious and insecure.:tongue:


I agree. But, you can pretty much tell one of those after a few conversations. I'm talking about genuinely intelligent people.
Got ya'. It's kinda sad really cuz' those people find it very hard to interact on any social level. Being smart is kind of a curse in many ways. :tongue:


I think you are right! Wow, that was a little "aha" moment for me. Good observation! drinker

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Sun 12/06/09 08:56 AM
Edited by Quietman_2009 on Sun 12/06/09 08:57 AM

with the caveat that there is a difference between intelligence and just knowing a lot of stuff

intelligence is the measure of how well the brain works to leap to conceptual ideas and problem solving

and just knowing a lot of stuff is just a really good memeory

the more a person knows the more they realize how much there is to know and that really don't know that much

the really smart people are humble in that realization

"If I claim to be a wise man it surely means that I don't know"
-Kansas

redhead44613's photo
Sun 12/06/09 09:00 AM
I would like to find someone smart then me. But not so smart where he looks down on me. I love to learn new things so Im sure I could learn alot of someone who is smarter.

justme659's photo
Sun 12/06/09 09:15 AM
I have a talent for seeing an object and knowing instinctivly if it will fit in a certain space-conceptual knowledge-but switch that thing to a number it all disapears in a nano second. I am going to college at my age, I just love to learn, even though my brain is cluttered with usless junk ie.Algebrafrustrated . Now, having said that, OP, in my situation I would have to say that -not being a dunce in the corner- for some guys to rule over and controll, I have found your question to be true for me. As for a fact I have been told that I scare fella's away for being intimidating. ( Despite the fact I am a rotten speller ) LOL

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Sun 12/06/09 09:19 AM


..i enjoy being stupid,no one expects you to know anything..so they leave you alone...smokin

TxsGal3333's photo
Sun 12/06/09 09:30 AM
Awwww they say knowledge is power...........but that is only if you relate to others on all levels............:thumbsup:


As most have said I can respect anyone that has that knowledge as long as they do not look down on me for not being at the same level they may be on...whoa

Dict8's photo
Sun 12/06/09 09:31 AM

Awwww they say knowledge is power...........but that is only if you relate to others on all levels............:thumbsup:


As most have said I can respect anyone that has that knowledge as long as they do not look down on me for not being at the same level they may be on...whoa
laugh drinker :tongue:

Ruth34611's photo
Sun 12/06/09 09:38 AM
It is interesting to me how many people associate high intelligence with someone who acts superior.

I can see now why many highly intelligent people are afraid to be in social situations. This is all very interesting.

Again, just for the record, I am referring to very intelligent people who do not feel superior or use their intelligence to harm others.

Dict8's photo
Sun 12/06/09 09:43 AM

It is interesting to me how many people associate high intelligence with someone who acts superior.

I can see now why many highly intelligent people are afraid to be in social situations. This is all very interesting.

Again, just for the record, I am referring to very intelligent people who do not feel superior or use their intelligence to harm others.
It's better to understand others if ya' try to put yrself in their shoes. To be in that world and then try to interact with a world that seems stupid and ludicrous...well, it's a serious culture shock! :tongue:

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