I wonder this same thing too, and comparing everyone I've met and known here in kansas city where I've lived most of my life to Cali where I was stationed for 2 years, I cant say exactly if my experience then was different because of the thrill or not, but I definitely was more into the girls, and most people generally, in cali than here. I dunno, everything in the midwest just seems fake to me.

Thats just my personal opinion tho, may or may not make any difference for you.

I have a negative stereotype of people in my area due to bad experiences I have had with them. I know not everybody is like that. But it has gotten me thinking really deeply. I have often thought that people are molded and shaped by their environments. Lets say that I changed states. Do you think that would have a positive impact on me finding someone nice? Do I need to go to a larger area? A bigger city? Maybe there is an unbalanced Male to Female ratio in my city/state I am unaware of? Or will people be just as crappy elsewhere? I don't mind traveling/relocating. I found Canada rather nice and Las Vegas was alright too. I don't want to leave all my friends and family behind, not find anyone and be even more lonesome. But is there something to this? What are your opinions on the matter?

I think we can find nice people anywhere. The problem, many times, is in who we are attracting to us and why. When we figure that out and make the necessary adjustments to ourselves, I think our quest for love gets easier and we attract better options. Sometimes, a change of pace or scenery can do wonders to help us maintain thos adjustments we make though. Staying in the same environment and doing the same things is a sure way to get the same result. I just believe the first thing that needs to change is the things we are doing,,and THEN the environment we do them in.

You made a very good point. I spose I just need to leave my cave more often and find better places to socialize. There is not a whole lot in my area but I will look into the fairs and festivities that go on in Dayton Ohio.

Oh, you are a Dayton resident? poor thing, IM from Akron and I feel your pain.

Yeah, definitely, ,just try some different techniques and work on being the kind of person that would attract the kind of person you are looking for.

I have a negative stereotype of people in my area due to bad experiences I have had with them. I know not everybody is like that. But it has gotten me thinking really deeply. I have often thought that people are molded and shaped by their environments. Lets say that I changed states. Do you think that would have a positive impact on me finding someone nice? Do I need to go to a larger area? A bigger city? Maybe there is an unbalanced Male to Female ratio in my city/state I am unaware of? Or will people be just as crappy elsewhere? I don't mind traveling/relocating. I found Canada rather nice and Las Vegas was alright too. I don't want to leave all my friends and family behind, not find anyone and be even more lonesome. But is there something to this? What are your opinions on the matter?

WOW...You sound DESPERATE...

Go West, young man, Go West!

Having lived many places across the USA I have to say unless you are from and extreamly remote thinnly populated ara that you can find desireable people to date and highly likely marry if that is your desire.

That said in any community there are someplaces where single people tend to congregate and making yourself present in those activities are going to up your odds at meeting and being attracted to and seen as attractive by annother.

Improveing your dateing skills can not hurt. Being the kind of person you would feel desireable to will help. Specificly looking approachable, and treating people considerately.

Go West, young man, Go West!

The west is best... I would relocate for love...there are a few places I would not want to live though.

Vegas is fun, I wouldn't want to live there. There is an entirely different part of Vegas the tourists never see.

South Dakota is very cool... Montana is really awesome, if ya don't mind the cold and snow.

And Wyoming has some nice spots as well, even some smaller town in Idaho are nice.

I'm kind of leaning towards Oregon myself. I loved Seattle when I lived there..it's too big a city for me now. Was fun 20 some years ago.