Why is it so hard 2 become unlonely? Is it that hard to find a nice romantic, stable-mind gentlemen? Why is that, what a person want, they can't have? Then when someone comes along it's you don't want it? The chain of lonelyness 4 some will not brake...if pickyness is the major issue.

We are all here but it hard to fine the real ladies.....

I think there are real people on line. Male and Female. The problem I see now a days is fear. Fear of getting hurt again, fear of being themselves. So that leaves the other person that is truly looking standing back and checking their options more closely and waiting for what they want or can handle in their lives. Good luck.

Your statement is true with a lot of people.

I seem to think that those that do this, aren't really
ready for it yet.

this is very true!

hmmm...i think only you can decide to be "unlonely"

i've been single for 11 yrs...but not lonely for a minute of it...

It's because people have been duped into believing in a fantasy.

Fantasy : There is that one certain someone and that person will be exceptionally handsome and have ALL of the qualities you want.

Reality : There probably is going to be someone out there that will be that one certain person, but that person is going to be flawed. Not everything about him or her will be perfect. He may not be exceptionally handsome. She may not be utterly beautiful. There may be one or two things that you don't particularly like.

It's going to be up to you whether or not the things you don't particularly like will be acceptable.

Very well said JustAGuy!

I am single and I don't believe that I am lonely. I am; however, keeping an open mind and heart to see if I can find someone that we can form a stable relationship.

I agree with everyone when they say that people are stand-offish because they have been hurt and are afraid of being hurt again. Rejection and deception is painful and I noticed that people are a bit more careful with thier options.

Be positive and truly happy and people will follow. Everyone loves to be around these types of people.

I have been single for awhile now. It seems for me hard to find the right match. The ladies I do run into always are looking for something else, or our personalitys just clash.

I have dated once from another site. Nothing but a boring trip to more or less a museum. Never heard back from the lady (she also brought her female friend along) again.

When you find the gentlemen, let me know. I find jerks alot but I have faith that there are some great men out there. I am a hopeless romantic and it's costing me my sanity!

As opposed to fake ladies? Bots???

I am a incurable hopeless romantic also, and I find is hard to understand how being romantic could cost you your sanity

Their out there..just have to be patient and keep your heart open.

There are wonderful gentlemen on here!

Just be patient

you will find them!!!

Hmm... "patient" and "heart open" in the same sentence is usually only used by surgeons

Loneliness is like a disease, a mental condition in my opinion.

Being picky is'nt so bad, just don't let loneliness drop your standards. Holding out for what you want is worth it.

It's okay to dream about what and who you want, and you don't feel so alone anymore when you start living as if you know them.