Topic: How the world has changed
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Tue 05/04/10 09:07 AM
Edited by meanders on Tue 05/04/10 09:32 AM
The internet seems to be sucking everyone away from being socially aware of each other in the fleshy world of reality. I am not against the internet, however, I have been a very active member of it. That not withstanding, I am sure many people will share the concern people are not dating or meeting often enough in person, and this is effecting society in many ways.

The most important point i would like to make is this. People who choose to not use the internet to find a date, and would rather casually meet someone as he or she feels this is more natural to find someone by glance and attraction that way, well that is much more difficult now. Too many people go the the stores, grocery or department, to just buy something and go home. Not saying real life connections do not happen, I am sure they still do. But not so often now. In fact it feels like a tax on dating, to need internet access to find someone to talk to or spend your life with.

Do you agree? Disagree? Let me know here. :)

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Tue 05/04/10 09:23 AM
Disagree...for me, real life is the way to go. I have no problem getting a date out in the real world...but I am a sexy b!tchdrool drool drool

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Tue 05/04/10 09:29 AM
Edited by singmesweet on Tue 05/04/10 09:30 AM
There are many people who do rely on the internet for way too much, including meeting people. It should not be the only way you meet someone. Everyone should still be getting out and seeing/meeting people in person. Of course, people have all kinds of excuses for not getting out and socializing.

If everyone turned off their computer at least once in a while and went outside and met new people, they'd be a lot happier.


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Tue 05/04/10 09:45 AM

Disagree...for me, real life is the way to go. I have no problem getting a date out in the real world...but I am a sexy b!tchdrool drool drool


yes you are!!love drool laugh

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Tue 05/04/10 09:46 AM


Disagree...for me, real life is the way to go. I have no problem getting a date out in the real world...but I am a sexy b!tchdrool drool drool


yes you are!!love drool laugh

drool drool drool RAWR!!!!drool drool drool

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Tue 05/04/10 10:09 AM

Disagree...for me, real life is the way to go. I have no problem getting a date out in the real world...but I am a sexy b!tchdrool drool drool


indeed, and your current picture is particularly attractive

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Tue 05/04/10 10:13 AM
I only meet people when I am working. I don't hang in bars or clubs. I am not trendy at all. Worst is how here and in real life I keep getting sized up by my bank account.

Dating just sucks in general!

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Tue 05/04/10 10:13 AM


Disagree...for me, real life is the way to go. I have no problem getting a date out in the real world...but I am a sexy b!tchdrool drool drool


indeed, and your current picture is particularly attractive

I thought so toobigsmile bigsmile bigsmile

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Tue 05/04/10 10:16 AM

I only meet people when I am working. I don't hang in bars or clubs. I am not trendy at all. Worst is how here and in real life I keep getting sized up by my bank account.

Dating just sucks in general!


You have no interests other than work? If you do, find something you like doing that has to do with those interests. You'll meet new people that way.

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Tue 05/04/10 10:52 AM


I only meet people when I am working. I don't hang in bars or clubs. I am not trendy at all. Worst is how here and in real life I keep getting sized up by my bank account.

Dating just sucks in general!


You have no interests other than work? If you do, find something you like doing that has to do with those interests. You'll meet new people that way.



No my life is not all about work. Everywhere I go the women all seem to be involved somehow. I have no idea where to meet anyone any more. the people that hang around in bars and clubs are shallow and superficial and FULL of **** blockers. More often than not I run into that "Stud Bull" who has to take exception to me and I wind up hurting someone. I had one guy actually go out of his way to pick on me until I put a full glass beer mug into the side of his head followed by me knocking another guy off of his bar stool and using his chair on the azzhole. I got dragged from the place by my friends and never set foot in a bar ever since. I even got a piece of their bouncer who took a chair to the side of his head and fell like a sack of potatoes. I started on him as well because the oversize prick would do anything to stop the guy I had just thrashed with a bar stool. I left that bar wanting to come back and burn it to the ground. Needless to say I have not set foot in a bar since. I hate bars, I hate bars, I hate bars and I don't like hanging around with drunks! I am sick of cliquish people as well.

Don't say Museum or grocery Store either. Real men don't go 'shopping.' I hang out at my share of museums and for some odd reason they are magnets for Liberally minded people and I don't get along with them very well either. Once they start spewing their 'John Lennon' doctrine I just loose interest. So what now? I want to meet a real high quality woman and I have no clue where to look? So here I am in a vain and pathetic attempt to do what seems to be impossible.

So who loves me now???

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Tue 05/04/10 11:10 AM
Ummm.... Not gonna read all that, but welcome.

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Tue 05/04/10 11:15 AM



I only meet people when I am working. I don't hang in bars or clubs. I am not trendy at all. Worst is how here and in real life I keep getting sized up by my bank account.

Dating just sucks in general!


You have no interests other than work? If you do, find something you like doing that has to do with those interests. You'll meet new people that way.



No my life is not all about work. Everywhere I go the women all seem to be involved somehow. I have no idea where to meet anyone any more. the people that hang around in bars and clubs are shallow and superficial and FULL of **** blockers. More often than not I run into that "Stud Bull" who has to take exception to me and I wind up hurting someone. I had one guy actually go out of his way to pick on me until I put a full glass beer mug into the side of his head followed by me knocking another guy off of his bar stool and using his chair on the azzhole. I got dragged from the place by my friends and never set foot in a bar ever since. I even got a piece of their bouncer who took a chair to the side of his head and fell like a sack of potatoes. I started on him as well because the oversize prick would do anything to stop the guy I had just thrashed with a bar stool. I left that bar wanting to come back and burn it to the ground. Needless to say I have not set foot in a bar since. I hate bars, I hate bars, I hate bars and I don't like hanging around with drunks! I am sick of cliquish people as well.

Don't say Museum or grocery Store either. Real men don't go 'shopping.' I hang out at my share of museums and for some odd reason they are magnets for Liberally minded people and I don't get along with them very well either. Once they start spewing their 'John Lennon' doctrine I just loose interest. So what now? I want to meet a real high quality woman and I have no clue where to look? So here I am in a vain and pathetic attempt to do what seems to be impossible.

So who loves me now???


I've never met anyone at a grocery store. I wonder if that actually works for people, because I don't know anyone who has either.

I volunteered for the Special Olympics over the weekend and ended up meeting a lot of people around my age who were also volunteering. Things like that is a good way to meet people. If that's not something that interests you, find something else that does and see if there are any groups in the area that you can join.

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Tue 05/04/10 11:16 AM

Ummm.... Not gonna read all that, but welcome.


Read all of what? The OP was not very long.

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Tue 05/04/10 11:17 AM
Sounds like you have had some bad experiences which the memories cause you anger. What the previous poster suggested was right, however. If you are unable to find someone who shares an interest, then decide what things you like most. I like distance walking, not everyone does, but I could go to a walking group to find someone who likes to chat and walk a long distance for the scenery. The type of woman you are looking for may also impact your choice of activity, for some perhaps volunteering somewhere women may also be volunteering could be an option. Habitat for humanity, for example, if you are working in construction. Or you may think of another activity. I agree bars are less and less healthy for socializing. This does not mean all bars are terrible. If you get violent or paranoid when drinking, then of course, all bars should be avoided. If this is not the reason, perhaps then you should find a way to put anger aside as it can certainly hinder your chances of finding a long term relationship.

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Tue 05/04/10 11:21 AM
Good suggestions.

And you're right. All bars are not bad. I go to a bar on Monday nights for trivia night and have met some interesting people that way.