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I'm the kind of person who doesn't like to brag about themselves. It's easier to talk about my flaws because I'm always trying to improve myself.
When meeting someone knew, for dating or friendship, I know you shouldn't talk about flaws right away, or too much too early. But at what point would be a good time to start? There is never a good time to lay it all out at once, so how much is a good starting point? |
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I'm the kind of person who doesn't like to brag about themselves. It's easier to talk about my flaws because I'm always trying to improve myself. When meeting someone knew, for dating or friendship, I know you shouldn't talk about flaws right away, or too much too early. But at what point would be a good time to start? There is never a good time to lay it all out at once, so how much is a good starting point? ya know, I thought about starting a dating site where people list their FLAWS and their ASSETS,, just to give others more of a head start on true compatibility,,, but I think its safest to speak about flaws AFTER a bond has been formed but BEFORE a relationship becomes committed or intimate |
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I'm the kind of person who doesn't like to brag about themselves. It's easier to talk about my flaws because I'm always trying to improve myself. When meeting someone knew, for dating or friendship, I know you shouldn't talk about flaws right away, or too much too early. But at what point would be a good time to start? There is never a good time to lay it all out at once, so how much is a good starting point? ya know, I thought about starting a dating site where people list their FLAWS and their ASSETS,, just to give others more of a head start on true compatibility,,, but I think its safest to speak about flaws AFTER a bond has been formed but BEFORE a relationship becomes committed or intimate That's a great idea for a site. It would definitely make it easier to meet people. I figured that may be the case, it's probable easier to take someones flaw if both of you are close. |
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i've often thought we should implement an ebay style rating system...
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Insecurity is VERY unattractive!
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Insecurity is VERY unattractive!
The ground gets wet when it rains. |
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Edited by
Tribbles
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Sun 06/06/10 02:38 PM
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Insecurity is VERY unattractive!
The ground gets wet when it rains. This reminds me of the 'Oh, I can fix him' mentality. Instead of directing your energy towards the negitive traits in your personality, try directing them towards the positive. Stop whining (i.e. poetic analogy of when it rains.), and man up! Nobody's perfect! 
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Insecurity is VERY unattractive!
The ground gets wet when it rains. This reminds me of the 'Oh, I can fix him' mentality. Instead of directing your energy towards the negitive traits in your personality, try directing them towards the positive. Stop whining (i.e. poetic analogy of when it rains.), and man up! Nobody's perfect!
Different perspective on what I thought. I thought he was saying for example: I have compulsive tendencies towards shoplifting, so do not try to change me. I am like this and I like being like this. |
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I get a good chunk of my flaws out of the way within the first few conversations...my flaws are not something that someone wants to eventually learn about at a later time. Other flaws come out as we continue to talk.
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Insecurity is VERY unattractive!
The ground gets wet when it rains. This reminds me of the 'Oh, I can fix him' mentality. Instead of directing your energy towards the negitive traits in your personality, try directing them towards the positive. Stop whining (i.e. poetic analogy of when it rains.), and man up! Nobody's perfect!
Different perspective on what I thought. I thought he was saying for example: I have compulsive tendencies towards shoplifting, so do not try to change me. I am like this and I like being like this. I was actually replying to an obvious statement with another obvious statement. No hidden meaning. |
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I'm the kind of person who doesn't like to brag about themselves. It's easier to talk about my flaws because I'm always trying to improve myself. When meeting someone knew, for dating or friendship, I know you shouldn't talk about flaws right away, or too much too early. But at what point would be a good time to start? There is never a good time to lay it all out at once, so how much is a good starting point? There's a significant difference between 'bragging' and 'honesty'. The rule of thumb is that, if you can do it, it ain't bragging. As for the 'flaws' ... (1) They'll be apparent if they're serious and you won't have to be the one to bring 'em up ... (2) Why go negative on the front end ... ? There's time. Dating isn't the same as 'confession' ... Wait 'til they ask. I don't volunteer anything ... 'course, neither do they. See the symmetry? |
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Try bragging........listing flaws aint getting the job done (I assume)
Chicks may say they don't like arrogant, egocentric narcissitic men.........yet, they always hook up with those a_holes. Besides, being a vain pr*ck works out pretty well for me. |
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I'm the kind of person who doesn't like to brag about themselves. It's easier to talk about my flaws because I'm always trying to improve myself. When meeting someone knew, for dating or friendship, I know you shouldn't talk about flaws right away, or too much too early. But at what point would be a good time to start? There is never a good time to lay it all out at once, so how much is a good starting point? What flaws ? I need an example please. I don't think I have any flaws. I may like different stuff than others, but that hardly constitutes flaws from either side, just different preferences and behavior. Examples please 
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Insecurity is VERY unattractive!
Maybe to some, but I wouldn't call insecurity a flaw. I think everyone is insecure to some degree. |
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I think that after a few dates during easy conversation would be the best time. I'd also focus the conversation on how easily you can identify your flaws because you are working on becoming the best man you can be.
Knowing your strengths and weaknesses and identifying them in order to do better is a great quality in a human being. 
I wouldn't start by asking if they have a pen though. 
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