I have a three year old whom I love dearly, she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I am now going to have a son, the whole thing is nearly complete. All I ever wanted since I was a kid myself was to have a son, a daughter, and a loving wife. The only problem is the wife part. Thank God I was smart enough not to marry her. I absolutely hate her, she is by far the worst girlfriend I or anyone could possibly have. Aside from the kids part I truly wish that I had never met her. I wish that I could get away but she has my children and they are more important to me than my chance at happiness. I feel that I have no choice but to stay with her. Every day I feel this growing resentment toward the ***** that has ruined my life but hey, I made my bed and now I have to sleep in it right?

This is a hotbed issue. You may not love the mother... Love your children.
I would suggest that you keep your feelings of their mother to yourself as future advise.
If you are making your bed to sleep in it.... Make your bed for future rests and not your past.
Don't let your past eat you up. Live for the future for your kids sake.

staying with someone who makes you miserable will only continue to make you miserable. and kids are smarter than they seem. they will notice the resentment that you harbor toward their mother.
the only positive solution is to leave the mother and stay in the children's lives.
at least on your own you have a chance at finding someone who you can be happy with. you'll find no peace staying with their mother.



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let this be a lesson for all the folks out there, don`t have kids with someone until after you have established a loving, respectful relationship. double up on the ol contraceptives

The best thing for your kids, you, and even the girlfriend is to seperate and be involved with the kids as much as possible. Try to be as civil as possible, be nice to her for the sake of the kids. JMO

This is a tough one. The question is: Can you be the best dad possible while feeling so much resentment towards their mother? Do you think that perhaps, if separated from HER, you will be better able to cope with the pressures of life? I know that I was a much better parent to my children once I was out of my hateful 1st marriage. HE was a much better parent once we were no longer toxic with each other.

No one can tell you what to do. I hate that you are in this position. Just know that splitting custody isn't the end of the world. Your beautiful children will be ok if it comes to that.

Hang in there! Many of us out here have been there, done that, and have come out ok in the end.l

Yes, I know they will realize it eventually but my son is not even born yet. No matter how miserable I am there is no excuse whatsoever for leaving a pregnant woman, devil though she might be. And I do accept responsibility for this, I let myself believe that things would get better when in reality I had to know that they couldn't. I think that I just wanted to have a family so badly that I was willing to cut corners.

is she always evil, or just while she's pregnant?
i hear that some women turn a little psycho while they're pregnant.


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But I had children for the same reason most people do, by accident. Not that I would change anything, my little peanut is the light of my life.

ok, i'm confused...you have a 3 year old and now one on the way, right?

did you trip on something, hit your head and have an epiphany after being with this woman now for oh, lets see, what about 4 years?

why in the world would have a second child with this person since you "hate her"???????????????????????????????????

how can you be this irresponsible? children need TWO loving parents, not the example you are giving them! no matter how long you have wanted to have a son, this is a most UN-healthy way to go about it. i cannot think a more selfish act than this....having a child for the sake of having a child....poor judgment to say the least!

by the way...you did have a choice and you have made it. you choose to be in a fraud of a relationship, but to make matters worse, you chose to bring a forth life into it as well. (if you do not plan against pregnancy than you might as well be planning for it!)

Step back, regroup, see a councelor to see if things can be fixed between you. If not, then your kids are your kids. Your relationship status, doesn't change that fact.

Good luck.

Just a thought to consider......


STOP STICKING YOUR D**K IN PEOPLE YOU HATE

I got plenty of friends and coworkers in your exact situation bro. I just don't get it. I won't even play a game of Scrabble with someone I don't like let alone risk producing spawn that would tie me to them for the rest of my life.

Yes, kids are great. That aint the point. You knew this chick was bad news before she got knocked up with sex trophy #2. You might need to have a long talk with your penis and assert your dominance or else you will find yourself naked with her again with no condoms or birthcontrol in sight. ( I can't rag on ya too hard....I still haven't figured out all these new fangled birth control methods either....you know...like PULLING OUT)

Like I told one of my friends...."it was no bodies fault when you two first got together. When she turned into a psycho b*tch, that was her fault. When you went back to the psycho b*tch, it's your fault."

I don't know you personaly dude so don't take anything I said here as a personal insult. I have just seen this show before.

It's called "hormones".

my way sounds better.


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I’m not trying to blame anyone else here but myself. I did have somewhat of an epiphany. I realized that I’ve been lying to myself for a long time now and what’s worse, I realize that in one way or another I really knew the whole time. And as for the hating part, until a couple of days ago I never would have believed that I was capable of thinking such a thought. And about her. I worshipped the ground she walked on for a long time and I’m afraid that whether I like it or not I always will in some way.

I got $10 that says you will get naked with your arch enemy again.


(When guys pop a boner, all reason and logic goes right out the window)

so I wanna know how he could go from worshipping her to hating her in what was it 2 wks?

now that's some good sound advise.....

I don't know, I think I've been doing both from the vary beginning.

That is easy. (I don't know the complete story here...we are only getting one side of it)

But, my own experience......

When a gal is only interested in riding the beast with two backs with me......it is all sunshine and rainbows.

When that skanky slag is doinking any penis other than mine.....she is a b*tch.

But, that's just me.