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Topic: What will you feel towards your partner if...
shaneavery's photo
Wed 09/22/10 09:46 PM
HEY diseases DONT DISCRIMINATE everyones fair game.
you can be a germaphobic and be very clean in bed and realy be aware of your health and get hiv, or any other std's that dont show symptoms for awhile..

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Wed 09/22/10 09:50 PM
Edited by IndnPrncs on Wed 09/22/10 09:56 PM
I would be pissed.. Forget bonding, forget the needing love.. If someone wasn't up front with me and "KNEW" they had a disease I'd be pissed as hell... You don't knowingly spread anything because you were to chicken **** to talk to your partner...

OP the "you" isn't YOU it's a "whomever" type of "you"...

newarkjw's photo
Wed 09/22/10 09:54 PM
Imagine what you could catch in a pumpkin patch..........smokin



Suzanne20's photo
Wed 09/22/10 10:01 PM
This is why you both get tested before engaging in any "risky" behavior with anyone.

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Thu 09/23/10 04:23 AM



Assuming the story is accurate... nbd.
It's all part of modern life... ohwell


NBD......oh well she gave me aids, better luck next time. It's just a part of life.....SURE!

What kind of std did you get?
Are there kinds of sexual disease you can get from non sexual activities? Needles...blood borne...ect. Best thing is both get tested together if you think your relationship might go that far. One night stands...indiscrimate sex, well if that's your lifestyle - russian roulette!

Ron

Good points Ron... however.

If she contract an STD unwittingly from some... she made a bad move. If I then contracted from her.. I made a bad move.

Where's my motivation to be angry at her?

Hell yeah I'd be unhappy about getting the disease... but it's no more her fault than it is mine.

So back to the OP...

Will I break up with her because of it? NO.
Will I hate her because of it. NO.
As grounds for breaking up our relationship it is, no big deal.


to begin with, What does OP mean by the way? you guys use lotsa chat acronyms.. anyway

Im sure my friend wishes her boyfriend thinks the same way as you do

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Thu 09/23/10 04:30 AM

hell no, this is the time when love will rely be needed.
imagine how she would feel learning she has some disease and has to face her boyfriend or husband, if anything i would probly pay more attention to making sure she is not overwelmed with guilt.
and i would be looking out for ways to show her i realy love her.
i know what it is like to have a disease and be alone, i say if you found love and you know you have it KEEP IT AT ALL COST.maxtek73
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Such a sweetheart..
it's a curable STD though which he contracted from her.

My poor friend, she's more than most likely overwhelmed with guilt. her boyfriend's not talking to her still and she's breaking down.

And to think, she's a victim as well of the situation. She's hurt both for herself and her bf

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Thu 09/23/10 04:48 AM


hell no, this is the time when love will rely be needed.
imagine how she would feel learning she has some disease and has to face her boyfriend or husband, if anything i would probly pay more attention to making sure she is not overwelmed with guilt.
and i would be looking out for ways to show her i realy love her.
i know what it is like to have a disease and be alone, i say if you found love and you know you have it KEEP IT AT ALL COST.maxtek73
fan of yahoo


Such a sweetheart..
it's a curable STD though which he contracted from her.

My poor friend, she's more than most likely overwhelmed with guilt. her boyfriend's not talking to her still and she's breaking down.

And to think, she's a victim as well of the situation. She's hurt both for herself and her bf


Your friend needs to not worry too much - it is NOT her fault and she is as much a victim as her boyfriend. Said boyfriend will come round; or at least - should do. If he persists in focusing upon his own sense of hurt and continues to fail to consider what the women he claims to love is going through - then the news just might be that your friend would be a lot better off without him.

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Thu 09/23/10 04:57 AM




Assuming the story is accurate... nbd.
It's all part of modern life... ohwell


NBD......oh well she gave me aids, better luck next time. It's just a part of life.....SURE!

What kind of std did you get?
Are there kinds of sexual disease you can get from non sexual activities? Needles...blood borne...ect. Best thing is both get tested together if you think your relationship might go that far. One night stands...indiscrimate sex, well if that's your lifestyle - russian roulette!

Ron

Good points Ron... however.

If she contract an STD unwittingly from some... she made a bad move. If I then contracted from her.. I made a bad move.

Where's my motivation to be angry at her?

Hell yeah I'd be unhappy about getting the disease... but it's no more her fault than it is mine.

So back to the OP...

Will I break up with her because of it? NO.
Will I hate her because of it. NO.
As grounds for breaking up our relationship it is, no big deal.


to begin with, What does OP mean by the way? you guys use lotsa chat acronyms.. anyway

Im sure my friend wishes her boyfriend thinks the same way as you do

Sorry twice then... OP=Original Post or Original Poster(you in this case)

Ladylid2012's photo
Thu 09/23/10 05:10 AM

I'd be just a little pizzed off........smokin


what he said

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Thu 09/23/10 05:16 AM
I think it would depend on the circumstances. If they'd contracted it from their ex (long-term partner) unknowingly then I wouldn't lay blame.

If they'd contracted it from one of 20 partners they'd had in a month, and they'd kept their promiscuity from me, then I'd be mad as hell and blame them.

If they'd told me about their promiscuous background and I contracted it from them I'd blame myself for being so stupid.

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Fri 09/24/10 05:53 PM



hell no, this is the time when love will rely be needed.
imagine how she would feel learning she has some disease and has to face her boyfriend or husband, if anything i would probly pay more attention to making sure she is not overwelmed with guilt.
and i would be looking out for ways to show her i realy love her.
i know what it is like to have a disease and be alone, i say if you found love and you know you have it KEEP IT AT ALL COST.maxtek73
fan of yahoo


Such a sweetheart..
it's a curable STD though which he contracted from her.

My poor friend, she's more than most likely overwhelmed with guilt. her boyfriend's not talking to her still and she's breaking down.

And to think, she's a victim as well of the situation. She's hurt both for herself and her bf


Your friend needs to not worry too much - it is NOT her fault and she is as much a victim as her boyfriend. Said boyfriend will come round; or at least - should do. If he persists in focusing upon his own sense of hurt and continues to fail to consider what the women he claims to love is going through - then the news just might be that your friend would be a lot better off without him.


This is true..

Gossipmpm's photo
Fri 09/24/10 05:58 PM
Just take the penicillin and shut up.........haha:heart:

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Fri 09/24/10 06:00 PM

The OP says 'from an ex YEARS ago'

This is exactly why we are accountable to ourselves and partners. Its about prevention. If a person has gone untested for anything in YEARS, they have been CARELESS. Both for themselves and for the person they get involved with.

If its a matter of months, and some stds have few signs, then ok, but YEARS? HELLO!!! I would not be angry, but I would indeed think less of them, at least for a period, only because Im not promiscuous and as such, a relationship would truly count on trust. After all, sexual behavior comes with responsibility.


This is true too.. but getting tested here in our country is not really emphasized..and discriminating us because we are not knowledgable about anything like it is just too much.. My friend had no idea about the pap smear thing till her boyfriend told her to get herself checked because he was feeling some sort of change.. And honestly, I don't have an idea about it either till my friend told me about what she's going through right now..

They have a long distance relationship by the way.. The guy already broke up with her..She couldn't blame her man,she's and still being so apologetic.. (sigh)

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Sat 09/25/10 06:02 AM
Edited by tiann58 on Sat 09/25/10 06:03 AM
"If its a matter of months, and some stds have few signs, then ok, but YEARS? HELLO!!! I would not be angry, but I would indeed think less of them, at least for a period, only because Im not promiscuous and as such, a relationship would truly count on trust. After all, sexual behavior comes with responsibility"



If you hadn't been with anybody since that ex, then why would you bother to get tested? Granted it might have been a good idea right after the ex, but if you didn't have symptoms, then there wouldn't have been any pressing reason to test.



(Still getting a handle on this "quoting" thing. grumble

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Sat 09/25/10 06:14 AM
Edited by tiann58 on Sat 09/25/10 06:15 AM


"If its a matter of months, and some stds have few signs, then ok, but YEARS? HELLO!!! I would not be angry, but I would indeed think less of them, at least for a period, only because Im not promiscuous and as such, a relationship would truly count on trust. After all, sexual behavior comes with responsibility"



If you hadn't been with anybody since that ex, then why would you bother to get tested? Granted it might have been a good idea right after the ex, but if you didn't have symptoms, then there wouldn't have been any pressing reason to test.



(Still getting a handle on this "quoting" thing. grumble


I think the reason/bother has already been established.


Sure, in hindsight. :tongue:

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