Topic: When viewing profiles...
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Fri 04/15/11 06:22 AM
What makes you contact someone? What makes you pass their profile and go to the next one?

fireflysgirl's photo
Fri 04/15/11 06:31 AM
I can't really explain what actually makes me interested in someone. It's an intuitive thing!

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Fri 04/15/11 06:38 AM
Well, I never contact anyone first, regardless.

But what makes me move on to the next profile can be summed up as:

1.) Empty profile

2.) All-cliche profile

3.) Bad spelling/grammar/punctuation profile

4.) Has kids

5.) Drinks

6.) Cleavage pics

7.) Pics of more than one person and they never tell you which one the profile belongs to

8.) Looking for marriage

9.) Excessive significance attached to things like religion, political affiliation, country music, and reality TV.

10.) Distance

axl_rose40's photo
Fri 04/15/11 07:12 AM
When I see truthfulness that I like in their profile or in their posts, I tend to make the first contact.

I ignore those which show almost nothing in their profile blurb and with those pictures having the possibilities they are not really the ones in them.

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Fri 04/15/11 07:17 AM
I contact those who have something in their profile that catches my interest. If there's nothing more than a picture, or it just says any variation of "ask me," "hit me up," or anything along those lines, I will go onto the next profile. I like profiles where someone puts at least a little effort into them.

catgo65's photo
Fri 04/15/11 07:30 AM
I gues the proximity to where I live is up there, some of the same interests, age and attraction. If there is no photo, or just a short blurb about themselves I usually move one.

soufiehere's photo
Fri 04/15/11 07:50 AM

What makes you contact someone? What makes
you pass their profile and
go to the next one?

DriveBy's
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'Seeking Intimate Encounter" (use some subtlety)
Same with a sexual Headline (lickmetilIcome does not work)
Pithy profile (less is not more here)
Pictures with other people (I might like them better)
Secret profession (I assume you are a politician-ugh)
Negativity (listing everything you DON'T want)
Shortness (I search for my tall girlfriends)
Parameters are excessive ('Must live within a block of me')
Explicit sexual innuendo (unless hysterically funny)

The thing is, any of these can be overlooked if
a personality shines through, or the humor makes
you laugh out loud.

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Fri 04/15/11 07:54 AM
Oh yeah, I move on when the profile is very negative. And when everything is written in text speak or spelled incorrectly. Those kind of profiles don't seem to have much personality to them anyway.

BettyB's photo
Fri 04/15/11 08:02 AM
I personally am not really drawn to "profiles" rarely ever read them .However if I get to know them on the forums and like the way they respond then I will take a sneak peek at their profiles.If they sound like a nice caring person with a great sense of humour I may contact them.
Distance doesn't bother me ,because having a great friend is a wonderful thing.

axl_rose40's photo
Fri 04/15/11 08:03 AM

Oh yeah, I move on when the profile is very negative. And when everything is written in text speak or spelled incorrectly. Those kind of profiles don't seem to have much personality to them anyway.


Really, I find it a waste of time trying to decipher what the person is saying when they write the way SMS is usually written. Most often than not, they cannot express themselves well enough to be easily understood.

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Fri 04/15/11 08:58 AM
I don't contact anyone first, but I used to. If the profile pic was interesting, or we had common interests, or if it was someone I'd seen around the forums, I might. But not usually.

lilott's photo
Fri 04/15/11 08:58 AM
All the women are too good looking for me.

soufiehere's photo
Fri 04/15/11 09:02 AM

All the women are too good looking for me.

You.
Are.
Silly :-)

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Sat 04/16/11 12:26 AM
I usually take a look if their pictures are weird or funny enough. Also if their posts reflect those traits plus genuineness.

Suzanne20's photo
Sat 04/16/11 12:40 AM
You will be passed over if: 1.Looking for sex, makes it very obvious all you want is sex 2.No effort in grammar/sentence structure, I understand that not everybody can excel in the English language, but you should at least make an effort to be understood. 3.No pic/blurb 4.Excessive negativity 5.Looking for a certain type of person

There are others but that's all I can think of right now.

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Sat 04/16/11 01:03 AM

What makes you contact someone? What makes you pass their profile and go to the next one?


I contact someone who interests me, the personality they show in their profile. Their pictures attract or intrigue me(I mean lets admit it, there has to be some physical attraction too).
I pass when they can't be bothered to write anything down about themselves, or what they are looking for. I also pass if they are only looking for an intimate encounter. I could go to a bar for a booty call.
I try and stay at least within 100-200 miles of my home if interested in a relationship. Long distance is really hard on me, I'm a physical person(I HUG everyone- well almost everyone)
I LOVE the friends I have made on here. There are some truly unique and awesome people on this site.