Ok ladies answer honestly!!!! How embarassed would you be if I were to ask you out? I've learned this can be humiliating. So how would I know if it's ok to ask?? I don't want to embarrass any one again..(I'm gun shy)..

Yes, I work, drive and enjoy what most people do. But some times I forget what I am or what I'm not. my disability is from an accident..

One of the men I admire the most had an amputated leg. He was a war casualty when he was a young man, but among all his siblings, he became the most accomplished. He finished an Engineering degree by earning a scholarship and became a country's director for Telecommunications. He could drive and he had so many plaques, awards and achievements; even shook the hand of several presidents, but he is also the humblest man I personally knew. I never once considered him a handicap or a disabled person. :)

Bottom line, if you're not embarrassed with who you are now, why should other people be?

Maybe I wasn't clear enough. I have had a woman get mad and I know she was embarrassed. I have also had a couple of women avoid me because I had asked them out. I haven't ask very many women out, maybe 3 or 4 in the last 3 years.

It's not about plaques, degree's, admiration, or material things. Its about relationships. If you notice alot of people have read this post but you are the only one to respond to it, so far. Which tells me your a prety open minded person... So my question asks you to think about a relationship...

Maybe I wasn't clear enough. The point I was trying to make was that it's not about how women would react to your disability. It's how you perceive yourself and why you would think your handicap would be a deterrent. Even with men who does not have your disability, they get rejected. Just peruse through these forums and you'll see a lot of them whining about it.

When I stated my example, it was to say that if you don't limit yourself, what you want, you will eventually achieve. There are women who would not think of such things as a hindrance to romance or such, as well as women who would prefer not to date someone like you.

How would you know if it's okay to ask someone? You wouldn't know. It's something you have to risk and brace yourself for. Also, if they get embarrassed because you asked them out, then it is their problem and not something you should burden yourself with.

Im concurring with lace here, Men of all types face being rejected when they have the courage to ask a woman for her company. I dont think anyone should feel 'embarrased' by such an invitation from a man unless he does it in an embarrassing or attention seeking manner.

I tend to agree with MsHarmony, but not so much with Red there.

In today's world, the handicap of any sort is an advantage at work, in the love scene, anywhere. Without joking, in my sex club the women who lost at least one mammary are the most popular, and also without joking, albeit fascetiously saying, the most successful corporations are lead by people who have lost their brains, or never had any in the first place.

Red, however, I think you overshot the target. It is okay for a millionaire minister of a country to be anything, and women will still go after him by the truckload. That was a bit of an unfair comparison.

I am no expert on this, but the handicap may bring the motherly instinct out of women. I remember I was wheelchair bound for a very short while, and when I went shopping, the women were very ready to help me pick stuff off the shelves.

They also bent over me, with a smile and with their face and eyes emanating so much bright and encouraging love that I almost piiiissed my pants, literally. I had forgotten that look, since I hadn't seen it since I had been 10 years old. It was incredible.

I wouldn't be embarrassed or get upset.. It takes a lot to ask another person out when you're shy... I know I couldn't do it....

Don't let ignorant people get to you.. Keep on being you!

No...I wouldn't be uncomfortable being asked out by someone with a disability.

I also would not over-compensate for them BECAUSE they have a disability.

I would also not automatically say yes, either...if they were nor someone I was compatible with...irrespective of how they get about, or how they look, or what they can or can't do...the answer is the same.


I would be very open about why not, though...and make sure they were clear on the fact I am not interested or attracted to their nature....not their disability.

Confidence is a key player in meeting people. I know a lot of people who are in wheelchairs and they have found partners after they were hurt...and they are still together and happy. You never know what the other person's type is going to be until you talk to them though, but after you talk to them they might change their mind on what they are looking for and you might fit...you never know. Good Luck

Some folks conform there lives to their "disability".

Others conform their "disability" to their lives.

it sounds like you lead a confident, productive life, so why doubt yourself when it comes to women. be you and when a woman comes along that you feel comfortable with, ask. rejection is not picky in whom it chooses, it may pick you, it may not, but self doubt will prevent you from ever knowing. if by asking, you embarrass or humiliate someone, i would think they have more of a disability than you do.

Well darlin', if I weren't 11 years older than you, I'd ask you out and save you the trouble of asking me. You sound like an all-round great guy. Any woman who would let a disability stop her from dating a terrific man is a dope--no loss to you at all.

I don't think it's your disability, though. And I'm not just saying that to make you feel good. I think far too many people of both genders have become so doggone picky about who they date that their expectations are actually grossly unrealistic. You know, like guys who insist that a woman not be more than five pounds overweight, or women who expect a man to support them in high style. (I know I'm gonna get lynched for these remarks.)

Live your life with joy, my dear. Smile at everyone you meet. You never know when Miss Right will turn up, so be sure there's a smile on your face when she does!

Are you comfortable with who you are? If you're not as comfortable as you could be, then others won't be either. And if you are, then don't worry about the few who have acted that way.

there are people who see the disability and not the person...maybe its not about how you are asking, but who...and that needs to change.

I noticed it's better to do one at a time. Even on websites I concentrate on one woman, and then wait for her rejection before I launch an operation "Approach" on another one.