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Topic: love is pain
Pink_lady Joined Sun 08/24/08 Posts: 2507	Fri 05/27/11 05:42 AM
if love is painful than ur either doing something wrong, doing something u shouldn't be doing, or perhaps not fully aware of what love is Imo, if love isnt painful occasionally, then it isnt genuine love. Theoretical situ....you are in love with a lovely man, who you adore.....he develops terminal cancer.....wouldnt this be painful?? Another situ....you meet a great man, fall in love, he has a child who cant seem to accept you, and refuses to spend time with you, and tries to turn your mr right against you....isnt this a painful situation??

josie68 Joined Mon 11/22/10 Posts: 6270	Fri 05/27/11 06:00 AM
Hmm its not love that causes the pain but the people involved. Just cause I might kick my toe on the table doesnt mean i am never going to walk. Gosh i trip over my own feet i would never be able to move again. When you find someone who can love you for who you are, and you can just love them for them, without wanting to change each other, you will rarely feel pain or hurt. Normally there is pain when people are not suited and try and fix each other. Or when someone you love betrays , lies or is unfaithful. but normally when you look back you knew at the beginning that their where things that bothered you . So I think if you really love someone and they feel the same, you are pretty safe. hmmm without they die and then you are going to feel heaps of pain. But you still wouldnt swap it and miss out on the love..

Pink_lady Joined Sun 08/24/08 Posts: 2507	Fri 05/27/11 06:10 AM
Hmm its not love that causes the pain but the people involved. Just cause I might kick my toe on the table doesnt mean i am never going to walk. Gosh i trip over my own feet i would never be able to move again. When you find someone who can love you for who you are, and you can just love them for them, without wanting to change each other, you will rarely feel pain or hurt. Normally there is pain when people are not suited and try and fix each other. Or when someone you love betrays , lies or is unfaithful. but normally when you look back you knew at the beginning that their where things that bothered you . So I think if you really love someone and they feel the same, you are pretty safe. hmmm without they die and then you are going to feel heaps of pain. But you still wouldnt swap it and miss out on the love.. I dont agree its about the person....it can be about envronmental factors, cultural factors, health factors. I gave a just a couple of examples previously which havent been commented on, neither about the person, but about situations.

Pink_lady Joined Sun 08/24/08 Posts: 2507	Fri 05/27/11 06:13 AM
...and does it mean that if your not suited, you didnt feel love in the first place? Or does it mean you did feel love, and then pain as a result of someone hurting you? Either way, you felt pain when you loved someone.

Dan99 Joined Sat 08/23/08 Posts: 14941	Sat 05/28/11 01:23 PM
Those that you love have the greatest ability to cause you emotional pain. People you dont know or dont care for dont(or shouldnt) be able to cause you much of this. The more you love someone the easier it is for them to hurt you, even to the extent where nobody has even done anything wrong or bad. A comment taken the wrong way or which is made in the wrong tone of voice can cause an amount of pain even. This is of course dependant on how you define pain.

wux Joined Wed 07/29/09 Posts: 7426	Sat 05/28/11 03:23 PM Edited by wux on Sat 05/28/11 03:30 PM
A pain in the arse!! Although I do love my self quite often and theres no pain there. This begs the question, nay, this screams to want an answer to: Where, exactly, do you love yourself when you do? Anatomically speaking.

wux Joined Wed 07/29/09 Posts: 7426	Sat 05/28/11 03:26 PM Edited by wux on Sat 05/28/11 03:27 PM
I think Jessie the Australian woman has been swallowed up by Love. Ouch. She ain't been around for a while. Does anyone know if she's in pain? Perhaps we should pray for her in the "community caring" (Well Wishes) forum.

wux Joined Wed 07/29/09 Posts: 7426	Sat 05/28/11 03:29 PM
is it true or false? and why There is the "hedgehog dilemma". The closer you get,the more your get hurt. But is it better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all? You're right... it's damn near impossible to get near a possum (singular of pussi) that is surrounded by a lot of priiiks.